There are some very valuable reasons to be friends before lovers. The best love relationships are sometimes the ones that are based on a prior friendship. It can give your relationship a definite advantage. Let’s talk about some specific reasons to be friends before lovers and how each offers a unique advantage.
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1. You Know Each Other
One of the reasons to be friends before lovers is that you will know each other well. You don’t have to enter a relationship and start from scratch. You know many things about each other. You know each other’s likes and dislikes. You know each other’s little quirks. You are going in with eyes wide open.
2. You Can Have Heart-to-heart Chats
When you are friends before lovers, you know each other well. This makes it easy to have heart-to-heart chats. Friends are who we turn to when we need to talk, right? When you are friends before lovers, you have a two-in-one gift. You know that you can turn to your partner to share your heart.
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3. Friendship is Important in Relationships
Being friends is an important element in your love relationship. You need to enjoy each other’s company as friends do, as well as have romance. When you are friends before you become lovers, you have that and don’t have to work to develop it. It is already there. Your relationship has a strong basis on this point.
4. You Obviously Have Things in Common
Many times people end up in a romantic relationship only to find they don’t have very much in common. Sometimes they don’t even realize this until a couple years down the road when they are very serious or perhaps even married. Then this can become a point of frustration or even contention. When you are friends, you have obviously found you have some things in common. This makes it much easier to do activities together as a couple.
5. You Care about One Another
When you are friends before lovers, you care about one another. You don’t have to develop a concern for each other’s feelings because you already have that. This adds a wonderful layer of depth to your relationship that relationships starting from scratch don’t have from the beginning. Relationships starting from scratch can catch up but you already have it. It gives your relationship a nice boost.
6. It’s a Way of Taking Things Slow
In a way, being friends before lovers is a way to take things slow. You had your time as friends to slowly get to know one another. You are going into a love relationship with eyes wide open because of this, which is a great benefit. You are less likely to feel overwhelmed or smothered. Your friendship gave your romantic relationship a slow but steady and strong foundation.
7. Friendship is the Best Basis for a Relationship
Friendship is the best basis in a relationship. You will always have your friendship even in the times that your relationship may seem a little dry. Your friendship can help you stay committed and strong. It can help you to find the way to put the sizzle back into your relationship. That is a very good thing.
Now it’s your turn to talk. Were you friends before lovers? How do you think it benefited your romantic relationship?
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Tim: Me and my partner started this way we got together through her sis who i was friends with for a long time when we went different directions in life in terms of job but because of her sis we were always with each other and we sent silly messages to each other and all that stuff i know my partner inside out and her sis thinks she's happier than shes ever been because of me.
Kitten: I agree with dani can ruin a really good friendship and its hard being friends with someone u have romantic feelings for so would b hard being friends first souls get to no each other yes but not really be friends, being friends should be with people u have no romantic feelings for or ever would .
Dian: This is exactly what I want before a relationship!
sassy-girl: Very true
Isabella: I was friends with my boyfriend before we made it into a relationship. We didn't spend too much time seeing each other for a year until getting together again, but it was worth it. We're heading towards 4 years of being together and we'll be best friends for life :)
Audie: I've always agreed with this.
Dani: This has always been the biggest catch 22 for me. On one hand when you just start dating someone before you know them, for one you hardly know anything about them in general, but it seems as though there's less of a connection and the relationship feels less valuable, however, romantic relationships can really ruin good friendships. I dated one of my good friends of four years, we broke up, and we didn't talk again for 2 years and even after that it was awkward and I feel as though friendships are much more valuable than any romantic partnership, but if it doesn't work sometimes I feel as though I wish I hadn't tried in the first place because you lose a good friend and a lover when you date one of your friends. It's complicated I suppose.
Tati: Thanks to my best friend, i met my boyfriend of almost 2 years now because he and I were introduced by a mutual friend. First we'd say hi and bye in the halls, then he'd text me asking how i was every now and again, then we'd hang out twice a week with our mutual friend, and soon without. Then we wouldn't go a day without seeing each other and hugged infinitely every time we did. Then i met his family who are super sweet to me. And soon he invited me over to his house for dinners. One night he called me over to his house for a surprise party for his little sister, took me outside in the yard and kissed me Clearly starting off as friends helped build a stronger relationship and a more comfortable environment for everyone.
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