7 Reasons Why You Are Still Single ...

You Are Afraid of Rejection • You Play Hard to Get • You Have High Standards • You Are Hung up on Your Ex • You Have Low Self-esteem • More ...

By Vladlena • Aug 18, 2014 MD

Do you worry about the reasons why you're still single? I know you might feel like everyone else in the world is paired off into couples except for you, but don’t worry there isn’t anything ‘wrong’ with you. There are simply some good reasons why you are still single. Sometimes you might feel like you are ready to commit to someone but your relationship status seems to never change so you keep asking yourself one question: ‘Why am I still single?’ It’s time we end your confusion and reveal the potential reasons why you are still single.

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1. You Are Afraid of Rejection

Fear of rejection is a common problem that prevents many from advancing in their romantic life and it may be one of the reasons why you are still single. Putting yourself out there and exposing your feelings makes you feel vulnerable. Not everyone is willing to risk getting hurt, which is why many of us hold back from making the first move. Rejection however, is inevitable so unless you want to remain single for the rest of your life, stop fearing something that is bound to happen.

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2. You Play Hard to Get

Playing hard to get can make things a little bit confusing to the person you are trying to attract. Flirting one minute and canceling on plans the next is not the way to attract your Mr.Right. Plus mixed signals are way too easy to get tired of, to the point that someone you actually really like might be frustrated enough to stop pursuing you. So if you feel like there might be something going on, admit to your feelings instead of playing games.

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3. You Have High Standards

I blame every romance movie for putting the idea of Prince Charming into our heads. From the beginning we were brainwashed into thinking that a perfect guy is out there, giving us false hope that someday we will find someone who will reach our high expectations. In reality those are just unrealistic standards that will never be met!

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4. You Are Hung up on Your Ex

Your prolonged single status might be explained by the leftover feelings you must still have for your ex and the only way for you find someone else, is to move on from the past. There isn’t a deadline by which you must get over your previous relationships but you must realize that some people are not made for each other, and it’s possible to fall in love for the second time.

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5. You Have Low Self-esteem

Countless numbers of people want a fulfilling relationship more than anything, but they have this certain belief that nobody out there would ever be interested in them. This negative mental thinking only makes you engage in behavior that pushes other people away. Drop the idea that nobody worthwhile will ever see you as someone to date and instead, work on your confidence!

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6. You Have Commitment Issues

You may not realize it yourself, but you might actually have serious commitment issues; because you are afraid of getting emotionally attached, becoming dependent on the other person or most importantly hurt. Consequently, you avoid any long-term relationships and resort to light and casual fun. To overcome your fear of commitment, take chances and put faith in someone because you never know, maybe they might not disappoint!

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7. You Value Your Independence

Many people are too much of a ‘free spirit’ to be tied down to one person. They don’t want to have to be responsible for another person, be obligated to spend time with them or have to think about how their partner would feel in a certain situation. If this is the case, this phase may soon die down because we all settle down at one point or another!

Whether you are single by choice or not, there is always a clear explanation as to why. You might not be in the right mindset or stage in your life to start a blossoming relationship. How would you explain your single relationship status? Share in the comments!

Sources: lifehack.org

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  • Kendall

    2015-11-15T17:34:17.922Z

    I'm a nerd and focus on studying, practicing violin, piano, reading, writing some of my own facts. Yeah, that's why I'm alone. But still happy! I don't play hard to get, I actually am hard to get. :/ That's a problem I guess.
  • Misty

    2014-08-19T10:33:46.991Z

    I am married with adult and teenage girls. I tell my girls to focus on school & college. Prepare yourself for life and get independent and boys will come later. I would prefer them not be in a serious relationship at this time. So my point is sometimes people just want to date and have fun , focus on college and careers. There is nothing wrong with that. There are many healthy reasons why people choose to be single. I find it being smart and healthy thinking. There is totally nothing wrong with wanting to be single. Who knows you better than yourself?
  • Caroline

    2014-08-19T05:06:35.289Z

    I dont need a guy seriously! In addition, that i didnt find the guy that comes with my expectations something different from prince charming story but im the type of girls that stick to serious relationships
  • Snarky

    2014-08-19T01:59:20.704Z

    Whoa- why go hating on the writer? This article is aimed at those who ask 'why am I still single?' If you're single by choice then this doesn't apply to you.
  • Aris

    2014-08-19T03:16:16.835Z

    I don't think this article hit the MAIN points for being single.
  • Aris

    2014-08-19T03:14:20.248Z

    I know that (at the moment) I'm single because I'm FOCUSING ON MYSELF. This should have been #1. Love yourself before you put your all into someone else.
  • goddessoflight

    2014-08-19T23:17:49.397Z

    the article is clearly a reflection of the writers issues with men and she can't deal with independence becuase of a codependent issue . the writer needs psychotherapy ! transmute the root and have a tissue for the issue and until the writer faces her own issues and quits blaming men for her problems and sees her self as the soul cause and effect of her own suffering her relationships will be shallow , reflect everything she can't open and find within her self and doomed to fail because she seeks outside what she should be seeking inside first. worst writer and article read yet on this junk app
  • Purplelove

    2014-08-19T00:06:56.210Z

    My heels are higher than your standards! Lol
  • Misty

    2014-08-19T11:36:34.679Z

    I see what you are saying Neecey. But I think this throws it in a different direction.‘Why am I still single?’ It’s time we end your confusion and reveal the potential reasons why you are still single.
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