I could list almost infinite reasons to not take back a cheater. Still, many people have no problems with infidelity. Personally, I don't think I could ever trust them again. If your partner's cheated on you, take a long hard look at these reasons to not take back your ex after cheating. While it works for some, being with a cheater is usually awkward and even painful.
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1. The Relationship Will Never Be the Same
The moment you discover the infidelity, your relationship is forever changed. I think this is one of the biggest reasons why you shouldn't take back a cheater. The entire dynamic of the relationship changes drastically. You'll always be at least a little distrustful. Every time your partner looks at someone else, you'll wonder what they're thinking. Basically, you'll feel like there's a wall between the two of you.
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Cheating is one of the most damaging actions that can happen in a relationship. It creates a breach of trust that can be difficult to repair. When a partner cheats, it can be tempting to try to work through the issue and move forward, but in many cases, it is best to not take back a cheater.
When a person cheats, it can create a feeling of insecurity in the relationship. This can lead to a lack of trust and a feeling of betrayal. Even if the relationship is salvaged, the trust that was once there is gone. This can lead to a feeling of constant suspicion and questioning of the partner's actions.
The cheater may not be able to repair the damage that has been done. Even if they apologize and try to make amends, it may not be enough to rebuild the trust that was lost. This can lead to a strained relationship and a feeling of resentment.
Cheating can have a long-term impact on the relationship. It can lead to a loss of intimacy and a lack of communication. The cheater may be less likely to be open and honest about their feelings, and the partner may be reluctant to share their feelings for fear of being hurt again.
2. They Won't Change
If a person cheats on you once, what's to stop them from doing it again? They make a promise, but can you really trust them? No matter what their excuse, if they cheated on you once, they'll find other reasons to do it again. Even if they blame it on you, it's their problem and not yours. After all, if they're not happy in the relationship, they could always break up with you instead of cheating.
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Cheating is a serious breach of trust in any relationship, and it can be difficult to decide whether to stay or go when it happens. It is important to remember that if someone has cheated on you once, they may do it again. People who cheat often do not take responsibility for their actions and will continue to do so if they are not held accountable. Even if they make promises to change, it is important to consider the possibility that they may not keep them.
In some cases, people may cheat because they are unhappy in the relationship and are looking for a way out. If this is the case, it may be better to break up than to stay and risk being cheated on again. It is also important to remember that it is not your fault if your partner cheats on you; cheating is a choice that they make.
It is important to remember that if someone has cheated on you, it is not necessarily a reflection of your worth as a person. It is often difficult to move on after being cheated on, but it is possible. It is important to remember that you are worthy of respect and trust, and that you deserve to be in a relationship with someone who values and respects you.
Frequently asked questions
Cheating breaks trust completely. Once it's broken, it's almost impossible to get it back. Plus, you deserve someone who respects and values you enough to stay faithful.
Most of the time, no. Even if you try to move forward, the betrayal lingers in the back of your mind. It’s hard to rebuild when the foundation has cracks.
Absolutely not! In fact, it shows strength and self-respect. You're valuing yourself more than the person who didn't appreciate you.
Promises can be empty, especially after they've already hurt you. Actions speak louder than words, and their past actions have shown they can't be trusted.
Not at all. Walking away protects you and preserves your self-worth. You have every right to seek a relationship where you're valued and respected.
3. You Deserve Better
Do you really deserve to be with someone who doesn't appreciate you enough not to cheat? You should never blame yourself if your partner has an affair. You deserve to be with someone who loves and respects you. You will find someone better. Some people stay because they don't want to be alone. Trust me, being single is better than being with a cheater.
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Cheating is one of the most difficult things to go through in a relationship. It can leave you feeling betrayed, confused, and hurt. It is important to remember that you deserve better and that you should never blame yourself if your partner has an affair.
When someone cheats, it is often because they are not satisfied with the relationship and are looking for something more. It is not a reflection on you and you should never feel like you have to stay with someone who doesn’t appreciate you enough not to cheat. You deserve to be with someone who loves and respects you.
It can be hard to move on from a relationship after being cheated on, especially if you still care for your partner. But it is important to remember that being single is better than being with a cheater. It may take time to heal, but you will eventually find someone better.
It is important to take time for yourself and to remember that you deserve to be with someone who loves you and respects you. Don’t be afraid to take the steps to move on and find someone who will appreciate you and treat you the way you deserve.
4. They'll Never Respect You
Cheaters never respect their partners. If there aren't consequences, they feel like it's okay to walk all over you. Even if you yell at them and get upset, staying simply tells them it's okay to cheat. Leaving them proves you respect yourself. You shouldn't have to stay in a situation where your partner doesn't respect you or where you don't respect yourself.
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Cheating can be a difficult thing to deal with in any relationship. Not only does it hurt the person who was cheated on, but it can also leave them feeling disrespected and powerless. In order to regain their sense of self-respect, it is important to make sure that the cheater knows that their actions have consequences. By leaving the cheater, you are showing them that their behavior is not acceptable and that you will not tolerate it.
Cheating can cause a lot of damage to a relationship, both emotionally and physically. It can lead to feelings of betrayal, mistrust, and insecurity. It can also lead to a decrease in communication and intimacy, as well as a decrease in overall satisfaction.
When a cheater knows that their actions have consequences, it can help them realize that their behavior was wrong and that it is not something that should be tolerated. It can also help them to understand the importance of respecting their partner and the relationship. If the cheater is not willing to make changes and take responsibility for their actions, then it is best to move on and find someone who will.
5. Be a Role Model
Any time you stay with a cheater, you're teaching anyone who looks up to you that it's okay to be in a bad relationship. This is especially true if you have kids. Don't you want the people who see you as a role model to know that cheating is wrong? Show yourself and everyone else that cheating is right and that better is possible. You'll feel better about yourself and be happier.
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Cheating in a relationship can have serious consequences, both emotionally and physically. Not only can it cause pain and distress to the person who has been cheated on, but it can also have long-term effects on the relationship. It is important to recognize that staying with a cheater is not only sending a message to the person being cheated on, but also to those who look up to you as a role model.
It is important to show those who look up to you that cheating is wrong and that it is possible to have a better relationship. If you are a parent, it is especially important to recognize the message that staying with a cheater sends to your children. You want to show them that cheating is not acceptable and that it is possible to have a healthy and honest relationship.
It is also important to recognize that cheating in a relationship can have serious physical and mental health implications for both parties. Cheating can lead to feelings of insecurity, betrayal, and distrust, and can cause long-term damage to the relationship. It is important to recognize the implications of staying with a cheater and to make sure that the message you are sending is one of respect and honesty.
6. Eliminate the Stress
No matter what your partner says or does, you'll always feel stressed whenever they're not right by your side. You'll wonder if they're really on a business trip or who they're with on their lunch break. Why wear yourself down with the constant stress? Dumping them eliminates the stress so you can get on with your life and find someone better.
7. They Don't Really Love You
No matter what people say about humans not being naturally monogamous, if someone truly loves you, they have no desire to cheat. I've heard all kinds of excuses about not getting enough attention or “it just happened.” The real reason is they don't care about you. Someone who cares about you and loves you doesn't want to hurt you.
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Cheating shatters the sacred trust that forms the very foundation of a loving relationship. It's a deliberate choice, not an accident. Those who value and respect their partners will fight against any temptation that arises. They'll go to great lengths to communicate and resolve issues within the relationship, rather than seeking solace in the arms of another. The harsh truth is that if they step outside the relationship, they've shown you where their priorities lie—and it’s not with nurturing the bond you share. Love is about commitment and fidelity, and without these, it's not love at all.
8. They'll Continue to Lie
If someone's cheating, they're a liar. They went out of their to hide something major from you. If they're lying about cheating, what else are they lying about? Cheaters love to lie. Not only will you never be able to trust them again not to cheat, you won't be able to trust them about anything else. Lying definitely isn't the key to a successful relationship.
9. You'll Lose Friends and Family
If your friends and family find out about the infidelity, they'll probably encourage you to leave the person. When you don't, they may wonder what kind of person you are. At the very least, they won't want to be around your partner anymore because they don't like them. I've seen quite a few men and women lose friends because they refused to respect themselves and dump the cheater.
Both men and women cheat and it's not acceptable. The more people take them back, the more cheaters seem to think it's alright. There are great non-cheaters out there to be with and you deserve someone better than a backstabbing cheat. Would you ever take a cheater back and why?
Comments
Shar: I was (key word "was") married to a cheater.....I kicked him to the curb. Guess what? He married the woman he had an affair with and then he cheated on her!! Sooo...once a cheater, always a cheater. He left me when our daughter was a month old, to go "find himself". That was 27 years ago, I wonder if he is still looking for himself.
Claire: Yes once a cheat a cheat always a cheat. Mine was so devious I couldn't catch him out despite all the signs being there he just said I was being paranoid. Then I found a little blue pill in his jeans and other paraphenalia. His excuse I was looking after it for a friend! Long story short I kicked him out, within weeks he found another trusting soul. Does she know he's got at least two other women. What a catch! He will never change he believes what he's doing is ok, Yes some learn from their mistakes but I have yet to see it.
Elizabeth: Would you say an emotional connection without sex, just kissing and cuddling an affair?
Eden: My bf kissed another girl but he didn't try to hide, he told me upfront and begged for forgiveness. He said he wouldn't ever do it again should I trust that??
Josey: What about forgiveness, can't people changed? I believe that everybody deserve a second change. Moreover if the person have done it again then he can be damp.
Doxie: Would not have to pay me alimony. Yes my navy pilot with a masters degree was a liar a louse and no gentleman. We had reconciled and I saw disappointment in the faces of friends and people who knew me. Ladies if he cheats once it just means he got caught.
Sandy2pointo: Totally agree with this article! And for you naive women who keep telling yourself it's a mistake and he promised he won't ever do it again is absolutely a fantasy. I used to play the role of being the "forgiving and forgetful" wife but every time I forgot he reminded me. Needless to say after two, (Yes count them) illegitimate kids I woke up from the understanding and accepting good wife and divorced the loser. Within less than year later he married his mistress and it's still and will always be a cheater.
wendy: "Cheat Once, Cheat Again"
bo: Everyone is different and everyone's relationship is different. This article was way to general and kept putting pathetic ideals
Marine-Zareh: @bo I agree!
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