I could list almost infinite reasons to not take back a cheater. Still, many people have no problems with infidelity. Personally, I don't think I could ever trust them again. If your partner's cheated on you, take a long hard look at these reasons to not take back your ex after cheating. While it works for some, being with a cheater is usually awkward and even painful.
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1. The Relationship Will Never Be the Same
The moment you discover the infidelity, your relationship is forever changed. I think this is one of the biggest reasons why you shouldn't take back a cheater. The entire dynamic of the relationship changes drastically. You'll always be at least a little distrustful. Every time your partner looks at someone else, you'll wonder what they're thinking. Basically, you'll feel like there's a wall between the two of you.
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Cheating is one of the most damaging actions that can happen in a relationship. It creates a breach of trust that can be difficult to repair. When a partner cheats, it can be tempting to try to work through the issue and move forward, but in many cases, it is best to not take back a cheater.
When a person cheats, it can create a feeling of insecurity in the relationship. This can lead to a lack of trust and a feeling of betrayal. Even if the relationship is salvaged, the trust that was once there is gone. This can lead to a feeling of constant suspicion and questioning of the partner's actions.
The cheater may not be able to repair the damage that has been done. Even if they apologize and try to make amends, it may not be enough to rebuild the trust that was lost. This can lead to a strained relationship and a feeling of resentment.
Cheating can have a long-term impact on the relationship. It can lead to a loss of intimacy and a lack of communication. The cheater may be less likely to be open and honest about their feelings, and the partner may be reluctant to share their feelings for fear of being hurt again.
Cheating breaks trust completely. Once it's broken, it's almost impossible to get it back. Plus, you deserve someone who respects and values you enough to stay faithful.
Most of the time, no. Even if you try to move forward, the betrayal lingers in the back of your mind. It’s hard to rebuild when the foundation has cracks.
Absolutely not! In fact, it shows strength and self-respect. You're valuing yourself more than the person who didn't appreciate you.
Promises can be empty, especially after they've already hurt you. Actions speak louder than words, and their past actions have shown they can't be trusted.
Not at all. Walking away protects you and preserves your self-worth. You have every right to seek a relationship where you're valued and respected.
2. They Won't Change
If a person cheats on you once, what's to stop them from doing it again? They make a promise, but can you really trust them? No matter what their excuse, if they cheated on you once, they'll find other reasons to do it again. Even if they blame it on you, it's their problem and not yours. After all, if they're not happy in the relationship, they could always break up with you instead of cheating.
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Cheating is a serious breach of trust in any relationship, and it can be difficult to decide whether to stay or go when it happens. It is important to remember that if someone has cheated on you once, they may do it again. People who cheat often do not take responsibility for their actions and will continue to do so if they are not held accountable. Even if they make promises to change, it is important to consider the possibility that they may not keep them.
In some cases, people may cheat because they are unhappy in the relationship and are looking for a way out. If this is the case, it may be better to break up than to stay and risk being cheated on again. It is also important to remember that it is not your fault if your partner cheats on you; cheating is a choice that they make.
It is important to remember that if someone has cheated on you, it is not necessarily a reflection of your worth as a person. It is often difficult to move on after being cheated on, but it is possible. It is important to remember that you are worthy of respect and trust, and that you deserve to be in a relationship with someone who values and respects you.
Cheating breaks trust completely. Once it's broken, it's almost impossible to get it back. Plus, you deserve someone who respects and values you enough to stay faithful.
Most of the time, no. Even if you try to move forward, the betrayal lingers in the back of your mind. It’s hard to rebuild when the foundation has cracks.
Absolutely not! In fact, it shows strength and self-respect. You're valuing yourself more than the person who didn't appreciate you.
Promises can be empty, especially after they've already hurt you. Actions speak louder than words, and their past actions have shown they can't be trusted.
Not at all. Walking away protects you and preserves your self-worth. You have every right to seek a relationship where you're valued and respected.
3. You Deserve Better
Do you really deserve to be with someone who doesn't appreciate you enough not to cheat? You should never blame yourself if your partner has an affair. You deserve to be with someone who loves and respects you. You will find someone better. Some people stay because they don't want to be alone. Trust me, being single is better than being with a cheater.
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Cheating is one of the most difficult things to go through in a relationship. It can leave you feeling betrayed, confused, and hurt. It is important to remember that you deserve better and that you should never blame yourself if your partner has an affair.
When someone cheats, it is often because they are not satisfied with the relationship and are looking for something more. It is not a reflection on you and you should never feel like you have to stay with someone who doesn’t appreciate you enough not to cheat. You deserve to be with someone who loves and respects you.
It can be hard to move on from a relationship after being cheated on, especially if you still care for your partner. But it is important to remember that being single is better than being with a cheater. It may take time to heal, but you will eventually find someone better.
It is important to take time for yourself and to remember that you deserve to be with someone who loves you and respects you. Don’t be afraid to take the steps to move on and find someone who will appreciate you and treat you the way you deserve.
Cheating breaks trust completely. Once it's broken, it's almost impossible to get it back. Plus, you deserve someone who respects and values you enough to stay faithful.
Most of the time, no. Even if you try to move forward, the betrayal lingers in the back of your mind. It’s hard to rebuild when the foundation has cracks.
Absolutely not! In fact, it shows strength and self-respect. You're valuing yourself more than the person who didn't appreciate you.
Promises can be empty, especially after they've already hurt you. Actions speak louder than words, and their past actions have shown they can't be trusted.
Not at all. Walking away protects you and preserves your self-worth. You have every right to seek a relationship where you're valued and respected.
4. They'll Never Respect You
Cheaters never respect their partners. If there aren't consequences, they feel like it's okay to walk all over you. Even if you yell at them and get upset, staying simply tells them it's okay to cheat. Leaving them proves you respect yourself. You shouldn't have to stay in a situation where your partner doesn't respect you or where you don't respect yourself.
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Cheating can be a difficult thing to deal with in any relationship. Not only does it hurt the person who was cheated on, but it can also leave them feeling disrespected and powerless. In order to regain their sense of self-respect, it is important to make sure that the cheater knows that their actions have consequences. By leaving the cheater, you are showing them that their behavior is not acceptable and that you will not tolerate it.
Cheating can cause a lot of damage to a relationship, both emotionally and physically. It can lead to feelings of betrayal, mistrust, and insecurity. It can also lead to a decrease in communication and intimacy, as well as a decrease in overall satisfaction.
When a cheater knows that their actions have consequences, it can help them realize that their behavior was wrong and that it is not something that should be tolerated. It can also help them to understand the importance of respecting their partner and the relationship. If the cheater is not willing to make changes and take responsibility for their actions, then it is best to move on and find someone who will.
Cheating breaks trust completely. Once it's broken, it's almost impossible to get it back. Plus, you deserve someone who respects and values you enough to stay faithful.
Most of the time, no. Even if you try to move forward, the betrayal lingers in the back of your mind. It’s hard to rebuild when the foundation has cracks.
Absolutely not! In fact, it shows strength and self-respect. You're valuing yourself more than the person who didn't appreciate you.
Promises can be empty, especially after they've already hurt you. Actions speak louder than words, and their past actions have shown they can't be trusted.
Not at all. Walking away protects you and preserves your self-worth. You have every right to seek a relationship where you're valued and respected.
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5. Be a Role Model
Any time you stay with a cheater, you're teaching anyone who looks up to you that it's okay to be in a bad relationship. This is especially true if you have kids. Don't you want the people who see you as a role model to know that cheating is wrong? Show yourself and everyone else that cheating is right and that better is possible. You'll feel better about yourself and be happier.
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Cheating in a relationship can have serious consequences, both emotionally and physically. Not only can it cause pain and distress to the person who has been cheated on, but it can also have long-term effects on the relationship. It is important to recognize that staying with a cheater is not only sending a message to the person being cheated on, but also to those who look up to you as a role model.
It is important to show those who look up to you that cheating is wrong and that it is possible to have a better relationship. If you are a parent, it is especially important to recognize the message that staying with a cheater sends to your children. You want to show them that cheating is not acceptable and that it is possible to have a healthy and honest relationship.
It is also important to recognize that cheating in a relationship can have serious physical and mental health implications for both parties. Cheating can lead to feelings of insecurity, betrayal, and distrust, and can cause long-term damage to the relationship. It is important to recognize the implications of staying with a cheater and to make sure that the message you are sending is one of respect and honesty.
Cheating breaks trust completely. Once it's broken, it's almost impossible to get it back. Plus, you deserve someone who respects and values you enough to stay faithful.
Most of the time, no. Even if you try to move forward, the betrayal lingers in the back of your mind. It’s hard to rebuild when the foundation has cracks.
Absolutely not! In fact, it shows strength and self-respect. You're valuing yourself more than the person who didn't appreciate you.
Promises can be empty, especially after they've already hurt you. Actions speak louder than words, and their past actions have shown they can't be trusted.
Not at all. Walking away protects you and preserves your self-worth. You have every right to seek a relationship where you're valued and respected.
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6. Eliminate the Stress
No matter what your partner says or does, you'll always feel stressed whenever they're not right by your side. You'll wonder if they're really on a business trip or who they're with on their lunch break. Why wear yourself down with the constant stress? Dumping them eliminates the stress so you can get on with your life and find someone better.
Cheating breaks trust completely. Once it's broken, it's almost impossible to get it back. Plus, you deserve someone who respects and values you enough to stay faithful.
Most of the time, no. Even if you try to move forward, the betrayal lingers in the back of your mind. It’s hard to rebuild when the foundation has cracks.
Absolutely not! In fact, it shows strength and self-respect. You're valuing yourself more than the person who didn't appreciate you.
Promises can be empty, especially after they've already hurt you. Actions speak louder than words, and their past actions have shown they can't be trusted.
Not at all. Walking away protects you and preserves your self-worth. You have every right to seek a relationship where you're valued and respected.
7. They Don't Really Love You
No matter what people say about humans not being naturally monogamous, if someone truly loves you, they have no desire to cheat. I've heard all kinds of excuses about not getting enough attention or “it just happened.” The real reason is they don't care about you. Someone who cares about you and loves you doesn't want to hurt you.
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Cheating shatters the sacred trust that forms the very foundation of a loving relationship. It's a deliberate choice, not an accident. Those who value and respect their partners will fight against any temptation that arises. They'll go to great lengths to communicate and resolve issues within the relationship, rather than seeking solace in the arms of another. The harsh truth is that if they step outside the relationship, they've shown you where their priorities lie—and it’s not with nurturing the bond you share. Love is about commitment and fidelity, and without these, it's not love at all.
Cheating breaks trust completely. Once it's broken, it's almost impossible to get it back. Plus, you deserve someone who respects and values you enough to stay faithful.
Most of the time, no. Even if you try to move forward, the betrayal lingers in the back of your mind. It’s hard to rebuild when the foundation has cracks.
Absolutely not! In fact, it shows strength and self-respect. You're valuing yourself more than the person who didn't appreciate you.
Promises can be empty, especially after they've already hurt you. Actions speak louder than words, and their past actions have shown they can't be trusted.
Not at all. Walking away protects you and preserves your self-worth. You have every right to seek a relationship where you're valued and respected.
8. They'll Continue to Lie
If someone's cheating, they're a liar. They went out of their to hide something major from you. If they're lying about cheating, what else are they lying about? Cheaters love to lie. Not only will you never be able to trust them again not to cheat, you won't be able to trust them about anything else. Lying definitely isn't the key to a successful relationship.
Cheating breaks trust completely. Once it's broken, it's almost impossible to get it back. Plus, you deserve someone who respects and values you enough to stay faithful.
Most of the time, no. Even if you try to move forward, the betrayal lingers in the back of your mind. It’s hard to rebuild when the foundation has cracks.
Absolutely not! In fact, it shows strength and self-respect. You're valuing yourself more than the person who didn't appreciate you.
Promises can be empty, especially after they've already hurt you. Actions speak louder than words, and their past actions have shown they can't be trusted.
Not at all. Walking away protects you and preserves your self-worth. You have every right to seek a relationship where you're valued and respected.
9. You'll Lose Friends and Family
If your friends and family find out about the infidelity, they'll probably encourage you to leave the person. When you don't, they may wonder what kind of person you are. At the very least, they won't want to be around your partner anymore because they don't like them. I've seen quite a few men and women lose friends because they refused to respect themselves and dump the cheater.
Both men and women cheat and it's not acceptable. The more people take them back, the more cheaters seem to think it's alright. There are great non-cheaters out there to be with and you deserve someone better than a backstabbing cheat. Would you ever take a cheater back and why?
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Doxie: Anymore. We later reconciled he came back and we tried to move on. I could not trust him and I was always looking in his pockets and things. He supposedly got recalled to military service after 9/11. We had a house out of state we were selling and decided
Lola: My boyfriend cheated on me two months ago and he kept telling me if he wanted someone else he would let me know. I found out from the girl he cheated on me with. She told me that he was seeing her and that he was saying negative things about me. I later
Cori: You've obviously never cheated on someone then. Until you do, you will never know why some people have legitimate reasons to. Try getting out of an abusive Christian marriage with only two options: infidelity or death. Guess what? I'm still alive. Let that sink in for a bit.
Hannah: Once a cheater, always a cheater
Josey: What about forgiveness, can't people changed? I believe that everybody deserve a second change. Moreover if the person have done it again then he can be damp.
Jenny: Dating a guy for over a year. Took him in when he had no where to go, paid for everything. Then I come to find out he cheated on me while I was on a cruise with my family. Then once again at a show I went to with him. After I left he got picked up by the girl. And I just found out. Idk why but I can't seem to get over it. Due to how much I did for him..
EPidge: I'm not condoning cheating at all, sometimes it happens and you should kick the guy to the curb. But mistakes do happen, we are only human. There are so many different stages of a relationship, not all good and sometimes cheating happens. It does make you realize pretty quickly if the relationship is worth the effort it takes to piece it back together. You do need to build trust back up and it is a challenge. But some people are worth it. Chances are if you've been together for two months and it's already happening, then you can throw the towel in. But people do make mistakes and get caught in situations they don't want to be in. It is possible to love someone and cheat on them, chances are there are underlying problems. Talk it out, decide if you want to be together, and then work from there. Sometimes you'll want to rip your hair out but if the relationship is worth saving, then save it.
Doxie: Would not have to pay me alimony. Yes my navy pilot with a masters degree was a liar a louse and no gentleman. We had reconciled and I saw disappointment in the faces of friends and people who knew me. Ladies if he cheats once it just means he got caught.
Aliza: So true
Catrina: I have been cheated on in every single relationship I have ever had. Most recently my ex-husband of 21 yrs. He was in the reserves and once a year he would travel to a different base around the world and train for two weeks. He, however, chose this time to cheat. He cheated every single time. I could tell because he was a really bad liar. He would be super nice for a while after he got home. Sometimes when he cheated I would confront him about it and he'd tell me I'm crazy for even thinking it. I always knew. I stayed because he had beaten my self-esteem down to nothing. He was verbally, mentally and psychologically abusive. He never hit me, but what he did was worse. At the beginning of our marriage he told me he had a kid with his high school girlfriend but she moved away. I looked for her for 6 months until he told me to stop. I didn't want to because something told me that if he ever found her he'd leave me for her. 18 years later, she found him and they picked up right where they left off. At this time, we had just gone through a tornado and I became disabled. He stopped communicating with me so I knew he was cheating. We fought a lot and the more we fought the worse my illness got. Finally he told me he didn't want to be strapped to an invalid for the rest of his life. He told our kids that he didn't love me anymore. He loved someone else and he was leaving. This completely devistated them. Once he left, I realized how abusive he'd been and gained self-esteem and took him to the cleaners in the divorce. I've had a few boyfriends since then, but when they cheated...I left. I have been alone for several years now and I can tell you...I am better off. My ex-husband still won't admit he ever cheated on me, but once he brought me home a little gift...chlamydia. I was pregnant and the nurse came in and said my husband was cheating on me. I was devistated. He got tested and said he didn't have it so he said I cheated. He knew I hadn't, but it was one more thing to keep me down with. At least I got away from him and his abuse and at least what he gave me was curable. I am not an invalid now and I am living a very happy life...alone. Sometimes it is better to be alone.
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