How many of you are looking for Mr. Right? How about Ms. Right? How many of you are playing the dating game right now – maybe casually, maybe seriously, perhaps somewhere in between – hoping that the next person you meet will be The One? Well, let me make a radical suggestion: stop it. You need to ditch the entire idea of Mr. Right or Ms. Right. Hear me out, I think some of these reasons are really compelling. What do you think?
You change and grow and evolve throughout your life, which means that the person who's right for you now may not be right for you in five, ten, or twenty years.
Meaning, you are far more likely to find love when you stop actively looking for it – maybe not always, but this seems to happen quite often.
“Right” is subjective, after all, and it's hard to feel like you're gambling with your future every time you go on a date with a potential Mr. or Ms. Right.
There's also this absolute fact – perfection is unattainable, not to mention undesirable for most people.
Since perfection is simply impossible, it makes sense that even when you meet the right person, her/his “rightness” will have a few conditions.
Again, there's no perfection, so searching for it will just bring you down and make you feel like you're doomed to be forever alone – and you're not, I promise (unless you choose to be, of course).
Think about it – every time you date someone who, for whatever reason, isn't Ms. Perfect or Mr. Right, you'll feel terrible and they probably won't feel too great, either.
Even if you want to meet someone special and settle down, you can still date for fun – and it's possible that you'll find what you're looking for while you're enjoying yourself.
See, if you turn down dates because you just don't think a person is exactly right, you might miss out on something – and someone – amazing.
In fact, being so single-minded can blind you to some pretty incredible things.
The person who's right for you might actually be the exact opposite of what you always thought you wanted.
Pinning your hopes on an idea instead of a reality is always a bad idea.
And you don't need someone else to make you happy – pin your happiness on yourself first, always.
No matter how much you've idealized your own personal Mr. or Ms. Right, that person isn't your missing piece – you have to seek your own completion.
I'm absolutely not saying your expectations are too high or that you need to lower your standards, I'm saying that the very idea of having a Mr. or Ms. Right is full of expectations.
Well, it really is – although I suppose that depends on your definition of Mr./Ms. Right.
And this person will be the most perfect person of all because their imperfections will match up with yours.
What do you say, stalkers? Are you ready to ditch the idea of Mr./ Ms. Right?
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