Sex-Therapist Approved Tips for People Who Need to Spice up the Bedroom ...
By Emily • 5 Comments
By Emily • 5 Comments
Sex is fun. Like anything else, though, it can be easy to get into a routine. There’s no reason that it has to be the same old song and dance every time! We’ve gathered some tips from sex experts on how to have more fun and try new things in the bedroom.
Yes, sex on a bed is great (and comfy, especially afterwards). But it’s not a bad idea to change locations every now and then. I’m sure we’ve all seen a movie where the passion leads to the top of a kitchen counter or fun inside a car. Get creative and have fun mixing it up.
Experimentation doesn't have to stop with the scenery. Consider introducing different textures or furniture—like a plush rug on the floor or a sturdy chair—to add another dimension to your play. Moving around can also introduce an element of surprise and excitement, stimulating your senses in new ways. Remember, though, consent and safety are paramount, so discuss and agree on boundaries beforehand. Whether it's under the stars in the backyard or a quick rendezvous in the shower, the change in ambiance can reignite that spark.
Okay, so most of us know that foreplay is essential for a better bedroom experience. There actually are some exciting ways to initiate the action, though. Doing everything except the act itself can make it more thrilling. There are fun games like Sexy Truth or Dare that therapists suggest to get things rolling.
Foreplay is a great way to add excitement to the bedroom and can help build anticipation. There are many creative ways to engage in foreplay, such as massage, light touching, and kissing. Role-playing and using sex toys can also be a great way to spice things up. Games like Sexy Truth or Dare can be a fun way to get the action started. Foreplay can also help to create a more intimate and romantic atmosphere, which can help to deepen the connection between partners.
If it’s been a while since you treated yourself to new lingerie, then go for it. Buying something new can help you feel more confident and sexy and attracts the eye of your partner. Little details can attract the eye to different areas, and the options are endless. Unique styles can make you more daring in the bedroom and you may end up trying things you haven’t before.
Exploring new textures, colors, and cuts can unleash a different side of you, stirring excitement and anticipation for both you and your partner. It's not just about the aesthetics; feeling daring in a lace teddy or a silk robe can influence your mood, and in turn, the dynamics in the bedroom. Whether it’s a subtle change or a bold new venture, embracing new lingerie is about embracing your sensuality and own pleasure, which is inherently sexy. Plus, it gives you a chance to express yourself differently, adding an element of surprise that keeps the intimacy fresh and engaging.
The senses in our bodies create different sensations during sex, and it can be fun to focus your efforts on them individually. For example, you can use blindfolds to heighten each other’s attention to touch. Not being able to see can make the whole experience much more exciting. You can light different candles for scents, and so on. Have fun exploring those areas of your body.
Playing with textures and temperatures can also greatly amplify sensations. Consider a warm oil massage or the thrill of ice play against the skin. The contrast between heat and coolness can elicit shivers of delight. Meanwhile, tantalizing your taste buds with some edible delights, like strawberries dipped in chocolate, can also be a seductive way to engage your palate. Don't shy away from bringing in some soft fabric or feathers to gently brush against each other's skin, making every touch a discovery and every sensation a new adventure.
Massages are everything. We mean it! Not only do they feel heavenly, but also they increase the level of intimacy tenfold. Sex therapists recommend working slowly and introducing oils as well. The smells stimulate the senses and many of them produce a warming sensation that is heavenly.
Taking the time to explore your partner’s body with a sensual massage can lead to a deeper connection and a heightened sense of pleasure. Start with gentle strokes and gradually build pressure, paying attention to their body language and feedback, which can guide your touch. Incorporating a massage as foreplay can significantly enhance the sexual experience, making every touch more electric. Plus, it's a fantastic way to ease any tension and help both of you relax into the moment, creating an ideal setting for passion to flourish.
Knowing your angles isn’t just crucial for taking the perfect selfie. Different positions during sex can be made more enjoyable by performing them in various ways. Not only can the sensations feel unique depending on where you put pillows, but it can also make sex more comfortable in general for your body. A win-win.
Using pillows during sex can not only enhance pleasure, but also improve comfort and reduce strain on the body. According to sex therapist, Dr. Emily Morse, pillows can be used in a variety of ways to change the angle and depth of penetration, making certain positions more enjoyable. Additionally, pillows can help support the body and alleviate pressure on joints, making sex more comfortable and sustainable. This can be especially beneficial for those with physical limitations or chronic pain. Experimenting with different pillow placements can add excitement and novelty to your sex life while also taking care of your body.
The more intimacy you have with your partner, the more comfortable and fun sex will be. You can increase this by simply spending more time with them outside the bedroom. If you do exciting stuff just for fun, then this spontaneity is bound to come back into your sex life. This is another thing that has mutual benefits, and we love it!
These are just a few suggestions from the experts on how to spice your sex life up, but we’re sure there are others. We would love to hear from you and listen to your opinion! Thanks for reading!