Having a crush on a member of the same sex can be confusing. Maybe it’s just because the object of your crush has the qualities you want for yourself, or the characteristics you most admire. On the other hand, it may be sexual attraction, not just a crush and it happens often enough for you to ask yourself questions. Am I a lesbian, am I bisexual? How do I know?
One of the key signs you are bisexual is to follow your gut and simply accept that your feelings for girls are equally real to the feelings that up to this point, you have only thought you felt for guys. Your instincts are the things that you should trust when it comes to working out life changes and choices like this. Nobody else is going to be able to tell you one way or another. The only person that truly knows what your feelings are for either sex is you, and only you!
We have all looked at the like of Angelina Jolie or Megan Fox on the TV screen and thought, ‘wow, they are so hot!’, but if you feel deep down inside that your attraction to these beautiful women goes beyond a simple appreciation for good looks, then it could be an indicator that you are open to exploring the possibility of being more than a friends with a woman who you feel a strong connection to. Don’t be scared of these feelings just because your friends don’t seem to share them, they are completely natural!
Bisexuality doesn’t simply boil down to having an aesthetic appreciation of more than the opposite sex; there is a degree of sexual attraction that occurs. If you feel like the feelings you have toward a certain close friend are more than just thinking she is pretty or liking the way she looks, then it might be time to look deep within yourself to examine whether you are experiencing any kind of sexual urges as well. There is nothing wrong with this, but be careful about acting on these urges if you think it might affect the relationship you have built. A conversation is always the best starting point.
It is human nature for a woman to look at another woman and notice aesthetic aspects that she likes and that she does not like, but there is a difference between a quick up and down and the act of undressing with the eyes. The chances are that you have more than the usual platonic feelings in mind if you cannot help but see a woman you think is attractive and proceed to wonder what she looks like underneath the layers!
You don’t just feel a sexual attraction. In your mind you start thinking about how it would feel to kiss and touch a girl and to receive it back. You actually picture how and what you might do together. How will you ever know if you don’t decide to act on the feelings that you think you might have? The best way to find out once and for all if you are indeed bisexual is to experiment with a willing participant to see if you enjoy the sensation of being affectionate with a member of your own sex.
The urges have become significant enough for you to want to express your thoughts to someone you trust. If you have a close friend or family member that you can confide in, don’t be afraid to discuss your feelings with them and let them in to your world. The conversation will help you understand your feelings more. They might have some useful advice to help you not be ashamed or apprehensive about living the kind of life that you feel you want to.
The more you think about it the more it seems to become clearer that you are sexually attracted to women. You’re already on the road to self-acceptance. The important thing about all of this is that you do not worry or get scared about the possibility of being bisexual. Hey, it’s 2016: there has never been a more accepting time to live exactly the kind of romantic life that you want to. Trust your instincts, don’t let any society oppress you, and be happy that you are finally able to express
your true self.
Don’t sweat it. Ask yourself the questions. Act on it if you wish.
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