11 Subtle Signs He Has a Crush on You ...

11 Subtle Signs He Has a Crush on You ...
By Gillian • Dec 17, 2024

If you have a friend that might be more than a friend but you just aren’t sure, these signs he has a crush on you might help. I admit, it can be hard to tell sometimes, but just pay more attention next time you are with him and your answer should come. These signs that has a crush on you might not always work in every situation, but put them all together and you are golden.

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1. He Texts You when He is out

One of the main signs he has a crush on you is simply if he puts time into texting you. If he is sending you cute messages or is interested in how you are doing while he is out with the boys, there is a very good chance he is smitten. If a guy is out with the boys, he will not message you unless you are on his mind. And if you are on his mind… well that’s pretty obvious, he likes you.

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It's not just the amount of time he spends texting you that can be a sign of his feelings, but also the content of his messages. If he is sending you compliments, asking about your day, or sending you funny jokes, it's a sign he's interested in you. Additionally, if he's sending you messages late at night or early in the morning, it could be a sign that he's thinking of you. If he's also asking to hang out with you or inviting you to do activities together, it's a sure sign he has a crush on you!

2. He Gets Nervous

A guy will NOT get nervous around a girl without having some sort of feelings for her. So, if you notice your crush gets a little sweaty from the forehead, or stumbles over his words around you, chances are pretty good he has a thing for you.

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If your crush is exhibiting signs of nervousness around you, it could be a sign that he is interested in you. Other signs of interest that he may display include increased eye contact, finding excuses to touch you, or talking about shared interests. He may also try to impress you by talking about his accomplishments or by making jokes. If he is interested, he may also try to spend more time with you or find ways to make you laugh. If you are unsure, you can always ask him directly about his feelings.

3. He Hugs and is Touchy with You

If you find him slightly touching your shoulder or placing his hand on the low of your back, which can be a strong sign he has a thing for you. A guy friend wont be overly touchy or go out of his way to stand next to you in a group. If you find him always next to you and paying close attention to your needs within a group of friends, well you should know the rest.

4. He Invites You out

Guys are pretty territorial. So if you get to meet his crew and some of his close friends, it means you are in. Whether it is for a serious thing or not, the point is that you are in. This is a great way to then get close with his friends who will then talk to him about you. If this guy is calling to invite you out to the Friday night get together at his friends, you can count that as a very good sign!

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5. His Eye Contact

Do you find him staring (lovingly not creepily) at you during class? Or do you often catch him being very interested in everything you say? It is because he genuinely wants to know what you are saying and he is showing interest. This is a good sign. He is taking the things you say into consideration and shows that your opinion matters.

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Do you find him staring (lovingly not creepily) at you during class? Or do you often catch him being very interested in everything you say? It is because he genuinely wants to know what you are saying and he is showing interest. This is a good sign. He is taking the things you say into consideration and shows that your opinion matters. Extended gazes can also indicate a deeper admiration that goes beyond mere interest. Subtle smiles or dilated pupils can be physical cues that he feels a connection with you. Pay close attention to how he looks at you in different settings; it could reveal his growing affection.

6. He Gets Jealous of Another Guy Friend

Okay so some guy friends are pretty protective of their friends, I get that. But there is a difference, and you can tell. If you are out at a bar chatting a guy up when your ‘friend’ sees you and comes over to make sure everything is okay, yeah he is into you. If he is just a friend, he will hands down leave you alone and let you do your thing while he goes and does it with some other girl.

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Jealousy is a huge signal, no doubt. When he's shadowing your every move, especially when it involves other potential rivals, it screams he cares—a lot. It's not just protective instincts; it’s his way of saying, "Hey, I don't like sharing attention." And if he’s throwing sidelong glances your way whenever you're deep in conversation with another man, bingo. That’s not casual observation; that's someone who's worried about losing their special spot in your life. It's like he's silently shouting, "I wish she was talking to me like that."

7. He Compliments You

Do you find him throwing out sincere compliments each time you see him? If he starts to act a little weird in that way, chances are he had a change of heart. Now this isn’t if he says you look nice, this will be constant and every time he sees you. This can also be a tell tale sign if he laughs at everything you say and starts talking about you with his friends.

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This is a clear sign that he has a crush on you. He may start to find excuses to talk to you or hang around you, and he may start to pay more attention to his appearance when he knows he will see you. He may also laugh at your jokes more than usual, or even blush or act shy when you talk to him. He may also start to talk to his friends about you, or even try to find out more about you from mutual acquaintances. All of these signs point to him having a crush on you, so if you’re wondering if he likes you back, take note of these subtle signs.

8. Light Teasing

Compliments are always something that he might give you, but what about teasing? Does he tease you lightly? Does he pull some jokes on you that he knows you would find funny and plays right into your personality? It's proof that he has a crush on you!

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Light teasing is a subtle way to show that someone has a crush on you. It is a form of flirting that involves playfully making fun of someone in a joking manner. It can be a sign that the person is comfortable enough with you to joke around and feel confident that you will take it in the right way. It is also a sign that the person is paying attention to you and your personality as they know what kind of jokes will make you laugh. Light teasing can be a sign that someone has a crush on you, so if your crush is teasing you, it might be a sign to take things to the next level.

9. Is Comfortable around You

The comfort level of a guy is really important. It's hard for a guy to open up around friends that are girls, much less sink into a routine. If your friend is so comfortable around you that he opens up so, so much -- that's a sign that he has a crush on you and likes you more than just a friend!

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If your friend is so comfortable around you that he opens up and shares his feelings and thoughts, it could be a sign that he has a crush on you. He may also laugh more at your jokes, make an effort to be around you, and pay more attention to you than other friends. He may also start giving you compliments and take an interest in your life. These subtle signs may indicate that he has a crush on you and likes you more than just a friend.

10. Knows Your Likes & Dislikes

While your friends do know your likes and dislikes, he takes it one step further and knows the perfect Christmas and Birthday gift to get you. He makes mental files of exactly what you like, dislike and things you've mentioned.

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He pays attention to the small details when it comes to you. He remembers the conversations you have, and takes note of things you mention in passing. He pays attention to your likes and dislikes, and makes an effort to get you the perfect gifts for special occasions. He remembers the things that make you happy, and will go out of his way to make sure you have a good time. He makes an effort to make you feel special, and will do anything to put a smile on your face. He's always thinking of you, and goes out of his way to show you how much he cares.

11. Pays Attention

Not only does he know your favorite food, your ideal vacation but he pays attention to the small things in your life. What really makes you happy -- inside and out!

If these subtle signs haven't told you one way or the other how he feels, you may have to gather your courage and make a move! But hopefully, you have a good idea from these tips, and if so, which do you find most helpful?

This article was written in collaboration with editor Heather Jensen.

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  • Jose

    2013-10-28T20:12:53.000Z

    Ok this guy he always sits with us at our table so friends check but i don't know maybe because he lets me eat his fries and lets me prop my feet up in his lap while he eats what do you think
  • Anaa

    2014-03-29T23:28:13.067Z

    So I know of a boy who's in drama this year with me, and he has the lead part again. He just turned 16, and I'm only 2 years younger than him. I'm also in the play, and we always have some cute, and some awkward eye contacts, but I'm not sure if they mean anything. I've talked to him before, but we didn't really say much. It was more of just a, "Your hair is cute." And a "Thank you." And what-not. But with me being younger, and totally head over heels for him, I don't know how to actually talk to him and be friends with him at first. I have many opportunities to say things, but I don't really know what to do. I'm just confused if he thinks I'm too young, or doesn't want to talk to me because of it.
  • Alys

    2014-02-19T10:36:32.078Z

    K so theres this guy in my class that i have a crush on and one day i caught him starin at me.. I was clueless i didnt know what to do weve kindof stared to each other for like 3.5 secs and looked away. Gawdd can someone tell me what this means ofcourse im like assuming that he likes me back but im so confused
  • XxNabzxX

    2014-10-31T22:13:48.206Z

    Oh my god!! Every single one of these apply to the guy who I was thinking of!!! It's freaky how accurate this was! Thank you and keep posting great stuff like this! Xx
  • Arianna

    2015-06-22T03:07:53.294Z

    Can someone help me? This guy has been staring at me for a year and a half...Started on the first day of class and he kept turning around and looking towards my direction. He keeps staring and he's always tried to come close in the hallways. If the hallway is empty comes close and stuff, and once he actually tried to come in my view because i was lost in thought. He's done the friend check out thing also. But I'm not sure if he actually likes me. I've been trying to avoid eye contact with him as I don't know what he wants. So I don't know if he stares anymore! It's infuriating as I want him to tell me what he wants! He stares for long period of times does "causal glances" in the hallways, we always make eye contact in the hallway. And I don't know if this still happens as school has ended. He's laid back and last I was told he wasn't looking for relationships and then apparently he kissed a girl (could be rumour not sure). I find him good looking and all but I want to know his intentions! Please help me!! And sometimes when I'm lost in thought or not paying attention or just sad I feel him staring. He hangs out with the sweetest girls I know and they are so much prettier than me and smarter! Why is he doing this??
  • BeatrizChon

    2014-11-12T00:40:50.003Z

    What happens if your crush hangs out with lots of girls. My crush admitted he liked me but now he is always flirting with girl and touching them. He was a shy person. But ever since he got eye contacts and braces off he turned into a jerk. But the jerk always finds a way into my head! What should I do?
  • Bitches

    2014-01-19T23:07:42.000Z

    One tip: boys NEVER like girls just as a friend. He will ALWAYS want something more. If he isn't gay.
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