There are a lot of posts that revolve around a boy being too controlling, but what signs your girlfriend is controlling should you be watching out for? Do you know? Take a look at my top 8 signs your girlfriend is controlling to find out if maybe, your girlfriend's control issues might be part of the problem of your relationship! Girls can get possessive, guys, so take a look below!
There are some top signs your girlfriend is controlling that you've got to watch out for and when your girl starts to schedule your time for you, without even looping you in, you should be nervous! Does your girlfriend constantly just tuck little plans into your schedule without letting you know? It's a sign, guys.
This behavior points towards a lack of respect for your own time and autonomy. A healthy relationship involves mutual planning and respect for each other's schedules. If she's making decisions unilaterally, it's crucial to address this imbalance. Open communication is key; make sure she understands that while you appreciate her taking initiative, you would like to be involved in the decision-making process, particularly when it involves your personal time. Remember, your time is yours, and it's not something for someone else to control—even if they have the best intentions.
Another sign that your girlfriend is way too controlling is the fact that she always, always has to be right. It takes away your opinion! Even if you happen to know a lot about the subject (and it doesn't matter WHAT subject it is!), she constantly has to be right about it. Even if she's completely wrong.
You know all of those little jabs that she makes about how you spend your hard-earned money? That's a sign that she is manipulating you. It's also a sign that she is trying to control exactly how you spend your money. This is a sign of being too controlling – who knows what will happen if she gets hold of your credit card!
When I say all of the attention, I mean, all of your attention. I know that it's hard to believe, but there are girls out there that want to really control every bit of attention that you have. Whether you are visiting with your friends or you are seeing your family, she'll get upset by it.
A girlfriend who monopolizes your focus might also insist on endless text or call check-ins, even when you’ve made it clear you have other obligations. It's as if she's tethered to you by an invisible leash. Beyond this, she may show pangs of jealousy and resentment when you so much as laugh at a joke made by someone else. Her need for your undivided attention could be overwhelming, and it’s often a tactic that can make you feel guilty for giving time to anything—or anyone—else.
How about your career? Have you found your niche yet? If you have, do you have a five year plan? Well, she has one sketched out for you and truthfully, it might not be the one that you were going to follow. If your girlfriend has a five, ten or fifteen year plan for you – get scared.
It's fabulous to have ambition, but when your partner's plans for your career start feeling like a corporate takeover, it's time to hit the brakes. Does she dismiss your dream job because it doesn't fit her agenda? Or, perhaps she's already deciding which job offers you should take, or which connections you need to nurture—all without your input? Sure, we all need a cheerleader, but if she's turned into a career coach you never signed up for, you've crossed into controlling territory. Remember, your job satisfaction is a solo gig—not a duet.
How about when you do finally get away from your girlfriend and all of her demanding and are spending time with your friends and family – how does she act? Does she constantly call you? Does she constantly feel like she needs to be the center of everything you are doing?
If you're always on edge because your phone is buzzing with her demands or inquiries about your whereabouts, it's a clear red flag. It's natural for partners to check in, but it becomes oppressive when the frequency and intensity disrupt the flow of your social life. Her need for constant communication may stem from a deeper issue of trust or a desire for control that prevents you from fully enjoying your own space. This kind of behavior can lead to a feeling of suffocation in the relationship.
While her demanding that you give her all of the attention might be enough, what about her demands for you to be at her side? Even if you are, say, at a holiday party for her company, she demands that your arm is around her and that you are glued to her side, always.
This constant physical attachment speaks volumes about her insecurities and need for control. It's as if she's marking her territory, making sure everyone knows you are 'taken.' But relationships are about trust and giving each other space to be individuals, even in social settings. If she insists on this level of closeness at all times, it can be suffocating and a clear sign that she's steering the relationship towards a very unhealthy dynamic.
Finally, when you two are in public, is there a constant arm around you, a constant need for deep-throating kisses and a need to be touching? It's because she wants everyone to know that you are taken. She wants everyone to know that she is with someone.
Being with a controlling boyfriend is a lot, but us girls can get controlling too. Guys, if your girlfriend is too controlling, give it up in the comments and share your experience!