7 Techniques for Managing Jealousy in a Relationship ...

Laura

Managing jealousy in a relationship was something I used to have to do a lot. I used to be an incredibly jealous person, and I think that is something that has simply disappeared with age! Managing jealousy in a relationship is something we are all going to have to do at some point or another. You may find yourself managing your own feelings, or handling the emotions of someone else.

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Are You Being Reasonable?

One of the easiest ways of managing jealousy in a relationship is to stop and check if you are being reasonable. Think about what it is that is sparking your jealousy. Is it really worth being annoyed about? Try to do this alone while reflecting on the problem for a few hours. Once you have identified why you are not being reasonable (if that is the case), write it down and reflect on it when jealousy rears its gruesome head.

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Check for Insecurities

It is often the case that jealousy stems from insecurities. I remember feeling jealous of a female friend of an ex. The main reason was that she was skinnier than me. Fortunately those woes rarely plague me now, but at the time they felt very real. If you can identify an insecurity, try to embrace yourself and reflect on your strong points. Don't let feeling insecure drive your jealousy.

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Let Go of the past

The past can seriously kill a relationship. I have been cheated on, so I understand the paranoia those experiences can bring! Many of us will find ourselves with a partner who has also been cheated on. When this happens, try to let go of the past together. Some people cheat, but another person's bad behavior shouldn't taint the experience you have right now.

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Getting or Giving Clarification

Sometimes a person's behavior can seem odd, but that doesn't mean they are cheating. If you are worried about the way your partner is behaving, talk to them about it. Similarly, if your partner is displaying signs of jealousy, ask them what has sparked the problem. Getting and giving clarification over a situation that is troubling you can prevent jealousy. In many cases, you guys can sit down and realize you were just being silly.

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Trusting

Sometimes you may come across a situation where someone is clearly flirting with the person you love. Even worse, they may be actively hunting them down. First, recognize that you have someone awesome--someone else pursuing them is a compliment really! Next, realize that you only have to trust them. You can't control the way other people act, so let go.

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Spend Time Reconnecting

Sometimes jealousy begins when you have spent too much time apart. Working away, having to dedicate more time to studying, and starting a job that is demanding can cause jealousy. The person you love isn't jealous of you, they're jealous of the person who gets to spend time with you! If this is the problem, take some time to reconnect with the one you love. It can work wonders for your relationship, as it delivers instant reassurance.

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Ditch Social Media

I have lost count of the number of times my friends have worried about jealousy stemming from social media. Guess what, you can live without it! If you both ditch social media, you are removing a major player in the causes of jealousy. Usually, Facebook is the root of these problems. There are simpler ways for you to stay in touch with others, and they won't cause jealousy.

Jealousy is a real killjoy in relationships. It feels bad to experience it, and it often feels even worse to be on the receiving end of it. Fortunately, most of us can manage these problems. If you can't, you may need to re-evaluate the relationship. If you have successfully managed jealousy in the past, how did it work for you?

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Hey babes it's me the doctor moktor. So as u all know I have a bf frog. But gurls I need help. I was walking in the park and I sat on a bench beside the lake only to see a smokin hot frog hangin out. Now my bf is a hottie but nothing as hot as this sexy thang. He started givin me the old shly glance. And well one thing led to another and....we took a bath together. There's a swirling storm of guilt inside me. I was unfaithful to my frog gurls wat should I do?xx69

Yes. Social media is an ugly blemish in a relationship

So I need to know if what I'm feeling is reasons or not. my boyfriend and I both agree that we are serious about this relationship and that we want to make this last. We are still both in our early 20s so I don't want to rush things but for me there are some morals and values that I take very seriously. So I do trust him, and he says I'm the only one he's attracted to etc. however at the same time I can see he's following these half naked girls on Instagram etc. what I think is bothering me the most about that is just is his love genuine. Is he loving me with a pure heart, again we are young but if it leads to marriage, I need it to be from the bottom of his heart. When he follows those girls, to me he is still attracted to all that. I guess part of me is a little jealous too because all these girls have had surgery done to enhance their breasts and etc and I sometimes feel like I'll never be good enough. Idk what to do, am I overthinking this? Should I talk to him?

This really enlightened me. Ive been jealous with my boyfriend's close friend because of social media. It kills the relationship slowly. Better avoid those things to see and just trust your partner

Social media can definitely have a huge impact on relationships. Causes problems , temptation, people in your business . Not good!

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