You are probably completely content with being a strong and independent woman, but I am sure there are certain things that make you hate being single. Sometimes through observations of happy couples in love, it gets hard to keep saying, “I am okay with being alone,” because deep down inside, no matter how comfortable you are with your unattached status, we all long for that significant other who will take our breath away. Plus there are certain things that make it even worse, certain things that make you hate being single.
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1. Friends Who Are in Relationships
You suddenly begin to become aware of just how lonely it is to be single, when every one of your friends is in a relationship. They all go on dates and receive cute text messages, while you have nobody to make you feel special. It is a lot more fun to lead the ‘single and ready to mingle’ lifestyle when your friends are in the same situation. No matter how happy you are for your girl friends, friends in relationships are some of the tops things that make you hate being single.
2. Prom
Prom is the day when you have an excuse to wear a gown that you will probably never wear again, and one of the first times you will be accompanied by a date to a dance. It is also the time when guys do cute promposals for girls and everyone ends up in pairs, but of course all the single ladies get left out. We get no surprise promposals, no corsages, and no dates. While we don’t make a big deal out of it, it sucks not having someone with you through the night.
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3. Valentine’s Day
While Valentine’s Day is a holiday that celebrates love of different sorts, nothing compares to having a real Valentine to spoil you with flowers and chocolates. This is why this holiday is also known as Single Awareness Day. All the single ladies will be stuck at home watching The Notebook and eating ice cream.
4. Third Wheeling
Nothing is more awkward than having to spend the day with a couple as a third wheel. While they can’t get enough of each other, you are stuck staring into space thinking of how you can get out of this situation. Plus it doesn’t help when the couple is actually cute and you begin to envy their blossoming relationship.
5. Being Reminded by People That You Are Single
People really know how to push your buttons when they point out just how long you have been single. You would think that they would stop there but they go on with motivational speeches by saying, “You’ll find someone eventually,” or “I don’t get how you are single, you’re a catch!” However, they don’t realize that those things just make things a million times worse.
6. Events with plus One Expectation
Getting invitations to events with a plus one just serves as a reminder that you have no ‘plus one.’ While everyone will be bringing his or her significant other, you will be flying solo… once again. Just when you think you are enjoying you single life, invitations like this just pop out!
7. Friends Going on Double Dates
If you have had your friends go on double or triple dates without you, you know just how crappy that situation is. Not only do you begin to feel bad about yourself for not being in a relationship but you also have no friends to help you get your mind off the unfortunate turn of events.
Being single makes you feel carefree and unrestricted; it can be quite liberating and refreshing to know that you are not tied down. However, there are some side effects to your freedom that become more apparent in certain situations. What are some things that you hate about being single?
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sassy-girl: Being single has it up`s and down`s it not that bad
Chelsey: I love being single. Its awesome.
Blugirlnomore: I don't mind being single for a while, it allows me to work in my goals in life harder. I have gotten higher marks and got into a higher special BFA program because of it. I didn't need a man during the whole thing. being single allowed me to find my strength and grow. and for valentines day I didn't wallow because I was single I went out and shot some laser guns and had a blast with a friend and my sister. I honesty don't care what people think because what really matters if I'm happy, and honestly I think if you can't be happy with yourself then don't expect some guy or partner make you instantly happy. true happiness comes from within.
Sleepywillo: Valentines Day sucks period,I hated it even when I had a boyfriend,its cheesy and cringe (though i love the chocolate and stuffed bears)
Trish: I hate being single because I can't have the connections I want. I'm 42, and as much as I go out and make friends, my peers are so busy with their coupled-up situations (kids, spouses, houses, etc.) that they have little time for me, so I maybe see each friend once every three months or less often, which just isn't enough when you're craving someone close who is there all the time. And I hate being told I'm not allowed to hate being single, like when people say, "Use it as a time to focus on what you want and your priorities." Well, gee, what I want is a husband, and having a marriage and family is my priority. Everything else I'm doing is secondary to that, but I can only have the secondary right now, or maybe for good, so telling me to focus on my priorities and what I want is reminding me that I don't have what I want.
karma: they only thing I hate about being single. Eating alone..
Kimmy: third wheeling...ugh...I swear, out of all these that one just brought up emotions! And I don't mean to say I was sad. in fact, I find it really annoying. Call me jealous or rude or whatnot, but seeing your friend cuddling with her bf or acting all lovey dovey or even witnessing their fights can be freaking exhausting and just annoying. the worst part is when I feel them feeling sorry for me for not having a partner when in reality I feel fine xD
Missiz: None of the things mentioned in this article actually bother me even if I'm single. But good effort Vladlena. There's no article that would be accurate for ALL women. However, just thought of sharing with u what I hate about being single even if otherwise, I like my single life. What I hate is those accusations from the society especially those insecure women who r afraid of losing their husbands to me! I have many male friends at work with whom I either have professional relationships or pure friendship with! There was a time when 1 of my colleagues who is more like a BROTHER to me one day jokingly adviced me to quickly get married coz ppl were accusing me of having an affair with him just because I; being a single woman was pretty close to this guy! God! Just because I'm single and aging DOESN'T MEAN that I'm desperate!!! My society treats me like an outcast which also doesn't bother me. What bothered me was when ppl try to come in between the pure relationships I have with male friends with no intimacy or lust but accusing me of dirty things just because I'm single! And sometimes I also get tired of telling ppl repeatedly that relationships and marriage is just not my priority...
Hanim: I hate being single or letting people know that I am single because they tend do play math-making as though I desperately need to settle down with just anyone. I will settle down when I am ready with the one I truly love.
Yama: if we admit it, every single thing on that list is true. it might not bother you everyday but once in a while something or someone always reminds you of how lonely you are. Not everything on the list affects me but some thou...
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