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Things to Consider before Taking Your EX Back ...

By Vanessa

Wanting your ex back is perfectly normal. After sharing so many happy moments together, learning everything about one another, and falling in love, it's okay to miss that. But, know the difference between getting back together because it's convenient and getting back together because your relationship has the potential to be better than it was.

If it's been a few months since your breakup and all you can do is think about your ex, give him a call. If it's been over a year and you know you're doing fine on your own, why look back? Keep movin' forward, girl! That's just my opinion - but, of course, the only thing you can do is follow your heart. Here's some things to consider before taking your ex back:

1 It Won't Be the Same as before

Don't go into the relationship thinking things will be exactly how they were before. Chances are, if you had a messy breakup, both of you will have your guards up for a while. The pain from the breakup will change the dynamic of the relationship. It'll take a while to learn to trust each other again but if you're willing to work at it, patience is key.

2 Not Everyone Will Support Your Decision

Ultimately, the decision of whom you date is yours. However, that doesn't mean your best friends will be 100% happy about it. If you were hurt during your breakup, your friends don't want to see that happen again. They're trying to keep your best interests at heart. Give them some time to come around and accept your decision!

3 Root of Your Breakup

Before even considering getting back together with your ex, ask yourself if you ever fixed the root of your problem? Was the breakup caused by infidelity? While we all want to believe that people can change, how can you ever be so sure? Figure out WHY you broke up, and how you can move past in that in your future relationship.

4 Is This an Old Habit?

It's easy to fall back into old habits with a familiar person. Are you getting back together just because it's easy and you're tired of feeling lonely? If you're not sure that you have genuine feelings (again), don't waste your time.

So, after taking these things into consideration, will you be taking your ex back? Sound off in the comments!

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