Things to Consider before Taking Your EX Back ...

Wanting your ex back is perfectly normal. After sharing so many happy moments together, learning everything about one another, and falling in love, it's okay to miss that. But, know the difference between getting back together because it's convenient and getting back together because your relationship has the potential to be better than it was.

If it's been a few months since your breakup and all you can do is think about your ex, give him a call. If it's been over a year and you know you're doing fine on your own, why look back? Keep movin' forward, girl! That's just my opinion - but, of course, the only thing you can do is follow your heart. Here's some things to consider before taking your ex back:

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It Won't Be the Same as before

Don't go into the relationship thinking things will be exactly how they were before. Chances are, if you had a messy breakup, both of you will have your guards up for a while. The pain from the breakup will change the dynamic of the relationship. It'll take a while to learn to trust each other again but if you're willing to work at it, patience is key.

Not Everyone Will Support Your Decision

Ultimately, the decision of whom you date is yours. However, that doesn't mean your best friends will be 100% happy about it. If you were hurt during your breakup, your friends don't want to see that happen again. They're trying to keep your best interests at heart. Give them some time to come around and accept your decision!

Root of Your Breakup

Before even considering getting back together with your ex, ask yourself if you ever fixed the root of your problem? Was the breakup caused by infidelity? While we all want to believe that people can change, how can you ever be so sure? Figure out WHY you broke up, and how you can move past in that in your future relationship.

Is This an Old Habit?

It's easy to fall back into old habits with a familiar person. Are you getting back together just because it's easy and you're tired of feeling lonely? If you're not sure that you have genuine feelings (again), don't waste your time.

So, after taking these things into consideration, will you be taking your ex back? Sound off in the comments!

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Where Thoughts and Opinions Converge

I have recently got back with my ex boyfriend, we have been together since April and spilt up 5 years ago! It was a very messy breakup with a lot of heartache, but I can honestly say I've never been happier! We have both changed so much and have got together for all the right reasons. I'm not saying it would work for everyone, but it's working pretty well for us. I think all relationships are different and all have problems, it's just about respect and understanding.

No way to take your ex back! If it didnt work the first time, it won't work the second time either.

You can't find the right one if you don't let go of the wrong one ! Move on ladies there's plenty more fishes in the sea don't settle for less than you deserve !!

As long as the two are willing to work on it I see no problem. To each it's own

have some standards, you broke up for a reason, we move forward not back.

I support Karen's stand 100%!

It breaks my heart to hear of women tht are subject to the type of man tht cheats and comes back when it's convenient like you're the flavor of the month. I've been in quite a few relationships but nvr nvr take a man back if he cheats on you. He will nvr change this is who he is. He will nvr love you as much as he loves himself. Men like tht are nvr satisfied. Always looking for something else. You deserve btr! It's always btr to be alone than in bad company. Once you're happy single by yourself you'll attract a btr kind of man. Nvr go back to an ex it didn't work for a reason. #Not worth it!

i agree with Yvonne :)

I am a firm believer in leaving your past alone. I believe the past should only be reflected upon to realize how far you've come. We all deserve to be loved, and your ex may be that one. Chances are if it ended before, what will stop it from ending again...you both already have the capacity to walk away from each other. With time comes growth, so grow and leave lost time behind. To each it's own as Yvonne has stated.

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