A toxic relationship isn't something that you can spot right out all of the time, that's why you've got to watch out for some warning signs of a toxic relationship. Picking and choosing all of the warning signs of a toxic relationship can be hard, especially if you've been with your partner for a really long time. Remember, a toxic relationship can ruin you and really cause you to have extremely low self esteem.
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1. Lots of Hostility
Is your relationship filled with hostility? Is it something that is constantly flowing between you and your partner? This is one of the top warning signs of a toxic relationship. There shouldn't be hostility in a relationship, there should be something fun and a relationship should be something that you enjoy being in, not something you dread.
2. Dirty Fighting
Is there constant name calling? Constant insults? Is the past constantly being thrown up? That's all dirty fighting and it isn't something that should ever be in a relationship. If you are with someone and you love them, you need to discuss things, not scream at each other and be ugly to each other.
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3. Criticism
Is there a constant snide criticism that seems to always be in your relationship? That isn't right! There is a time and place for criticism and it shouldn't be in your relationship. Remember, the person that you love is someone that you should accept too, the good and bad. If you have an issue with your partner, talk about it!
4. Avoiding Problems
Do you constantly avoid the problems that rise up in your relationship? Do you just put them off and don't bring them up again until you are fighting about them? That's a pattern and one that isn't healthy and that you shouldn't keep up. You should attempt to work out all of your problems as they come up. This is where the discussion piece should come in!
5. You Aren't Yourself
Do you change your opinions and constantly switch up how you feel when your partner does? That isn't being you! You need to be your own person, even if you are in a relationship. Don't ever lose that. Never, ever change your opinion for anyone! If your partner can't accept you for you, why are you in a relationship with them at all?
6. Your Family Doesn't like Your Relationship
Does your family see how you and your partner treat each other? Do they like the relationship that you have built together? Do they constantly tell you that you can do better and that you should be able to do better? Well, that's a warning sign! Your family should like your relationship, how your partner treats you and how you treat your partner. There should be some kind of mutual respect there.
7. Lots of Guilt Trips
Finally, as far as the guilt trips, do you have a ton of them in your relationship? T hat could be one of the major warning signs that you and your partner are in a toxic relationship. I know it's hard to believe, but you shouldn't ever have to feel guilty in a relationship.
Toxic relationships are hard to get out of and even harder to identify. Have you ever been in a toxic relationship? Have you tried to get out of it?
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hilsim22: My last relationship and my "first love" was a toxic relationship. I was in it for four years and finally got the courage to end it about a year ago. It was the best thing I ever did for myself and I encourage anyone who is in a relationship like this to get out as soon as possible, waiting does not help. I won't miss the dirty fighting, name calling and criticism that's for sure. It's shocking how someone who you're supposedly in love with can do so much damage.
kristel: This is so true unfortunately I'm in a toxic relationship & it sucks !
Mark: I've been in a relationship like this for years and finally moved out last week. It didn't help that she was cheating on me and accused me of accusing her and a snooping "without reason". I agree with all those signs. My view is that toxicity "develops" when respect not only goes to zero but turns negative. THAT is when the toxins start flowing...
Alison: My last relationship had so much guilt-tripping and hostility it was ridiculous. Five years with that douchebag. I'm still getting over it, I wish I had seen this article sooner.
jule: I'm new to this little app I found today but this topic caught my eye as I am in a 24 yr marriage one daughter away at uni, the other at school doing exams. My other half becoming more distant for me with very little in common. I feel empty nest syndrome and unfulfilled. I have a beautiful home, both have jobs, have our health and should be looking forward to more time together but instead I keep thinking about my life being on pause. Sorry to pour it all out but my family would be biased and my friends similar coz this has happened over the past 5 years or so. We live in the same house, sleep on either of the edges of our bed and ignore each other, we've not talked for over a week now. I wish I knew what I wanted. Maybe it's over and it's the memories keeping me here :-(
nina: I've been with my husband for 7 years and married for 1. I'm in a toxic relationship I was just hoping it would get better but it hasn't
Renata: I really need advice. So last year during summer, i had a thing with a guy. He had just gotten in a relationship a day before we met and I guess he was confused and stuck in a love triangle. I knew he liked me but i think we both knew it was just a summer fling. So i fell hard for him and we became really good friends. We would text everyday and he would usually be the first to text me. He never ever left me hanging. But then i guess i stopped texting him and its been about 4 months. I texted him about 2 weeks ago cus i missed him but found out he was on vacation to the bahamas. Do you think he got the text? Can u get connection from there, and if he didnt get it, should i text him? Btw, we met at a camp last year and im going again this year and he might go! Help me please.
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