Dating someone who lives far, far way can be a big drag, but believe it or not, there are ways to make a long distance relationship work. I speak from experience. Way back when, when my husband and I first started dating, we had a long distance relationship for THREE years! Yes, three! We really, really cared for each other and so we put the effort in and made it work. Now, we’ve been together for a total of 14 years and have been married for seven. We must’ve done something right! So, if you’re dating someone who lives a far away, rest assured that there are ways to make a long distance relationship work. Here’s my advice on the subject.

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1. Talk Every Day

One of the key ways to make a long distance relationship work is talking. Even if you have nothing to really talk about, you should make it a point to talk to each other once a day. Your conversation doesn’t have to be long or even have to be about something monumental; a simple phone call to say goodnight, I’m thinking about you and I love you is all that is needed.

2. Write Letters

Texts, emails and Facebook messages are a great way to communicate, but they aren’t really romantic. Send your long distance lover good old fashioned hand-written letters every once in a while. A hand-written letter received in the mail shows that you really took the time to show how much you care – and that you really, well, care. Plus, they are great keepsakes to hold onto.

3. Talk about Each Other

Another great way to keep your feelings for your long distance love front and center is by talking to others about him or her. Not only are you letting the world know how amazing your other half is, but you are reaffirming how amazing you think your other half is. Plus, when he or she comes to town, your friends will be able to say, “I’ve heard so much about you,” or “I heard you got a new job,” or whatever the case may be.

4. Don’t Stress

Being long distance is enough of a strain on a relationship; don’t add to this strain by constantly asking when you’re going to see each other, when you’ll be together or by telling the other you wish they were with you 5,000 times a day. It goes without saying that you want to be together physically, so saying it over and over again can make things stressful and really hurt the relationship in the end.

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5. Keep It Alive

Make your long distance relationship exciting by keeping life in it. Falling into a set routine can make it expected and can actually hinder your relationship. Call at random times in the day, send a gift for no reason or plan a random trip to visit. The fresher and more alive your long distance relationship is, the more exciting it will be and the better the chance that it will work out.

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6. See Each Other

You can’t very well make any relationship work without ever seeing each other. Make it a point to see each other as often as possible. Back when my husband and I were long distance, we would try to see each other at least once a month. And each time we saw each other, the stress of making our long distance relationship work was confirmed.

7. Have a Foreseeable End

You can’t stay long distance forever. Having a plan of when you’ll actually be living near each other is a necessity for making things work out. Make sure there is an end to the long distance in sight.

While long distance isn’t the ideal, if you really love each other, you can make it work. My husband and I are a true testament to that. Are you long distance with someone? How are you making it work?

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I met a guy from internet by chance and we have never met each other. However, we enjoyed talking to each other a lot that in the first week we knew each other, we talked 24/24, whenever we can, though our time distance is 14 hours.This is so weird because I am a girl who is really really hard to fall in love with someone and after a long time losing feeling with all guys around me, I start have feeling with a totally stranger on the internet. This is bad and good with me, because once I start have feeling with someone, it would be really hard for me to forget him. So I am afraid and happy to have this relationship because we haven't ever met each other and I afraid we will run out of topic to talk someday and it will be very hard to maintain this relationship. Really dont know what should I do now :(

I live in the states and my bf in London. We do talk all the time and see each other on an average if 6 weeks but its hard bc i miss him; he wants me to move to London next year. That's a big scary move but i am open

@megan yea i hope i can have chance to do more skype

I've been in a LDR for a year and one more to go before we can be together for good. We are both Brazilians but he is currently living in the U.S!

My bf and I have been long distance for 2 and a half years. It has its ups and downs but we truly care for one another. These are great tips!

I've been in a ldr for about a year now and yes I can say it's really hard. We talk every day and random txts here and there. I'm a mother of two beautiful girls and it makes it a lil harder I think because idk exactly how my boyfriend feels about this situation.but we really care for each other and we trying to make it work.

then he came to visit me again this September for a month. We can see each other next August I guess... It's really hard being in long distance. My boyfriend is not good at text, no call everyday, no photo... so I get so stress sometimes.