7 Ways to Make a Long Distance Relationship Work ...

By Bridget • Jun 26, 2013

Dating someone who lives far, far way can be a big drag, but believe it or not, there are ways to make a long distance relationship work. I speak from experience. Way back when, when my husband and I first started dating, we had a long distance relationship for THREE years! Yes, three! We really, really cared for each other and so we put the effort in and made it work. Now, we’ve been together for a total of 14 years and have been married for seven. We must’ve done something right! So, if you’re dating someone who lives a far away, rest assured that there are ways to make a long distance relationship work. Here’s my advice on the subject.

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1. Talk Every Day

One of the key ways to make a long distance relationship work is talking. Even if you have nothing to really talk about, you should make it a point to talk to each other once a day. Your conversation doesn’t have to be long or even have to be about something monumental; a simple phone call to say goodnight, I’m thinking about you and I love you is all that is needed.

2. Write Letters

Texts, emails and Facebook messages are a great way to communicate, but they aren’t really romantic. Send your long distance lover good old fashioned hand-written letters every once in a while. A hand-written letter received in the mail shows that you really took the time to show how much you care – and that you really, well, care. Plus, they are great keepsakes to hold onto.

3. Talk about Each Other

Another great way to keep your feelings for your long distance love front and center is by talking to others about him or her. Not only are you letting the world know how amazing your other half is, but you are reaffirming how amazing you think your other half is. Plus, when he or she comes to town, your friends will be able to say, “I’ve heard so much about you,” or “I heard you got a new job,” or whatever the case may be.

4. Don’t Stress

Being long distance is enough of a strain on a relationship; don’t add to this strain by constantly asking when you’re going to see each other, when you’ll be together or by telling the other you wish they were with you 5,000 times a day. It goes without saying that you want to be together physically, so saying it over and over again can make things stressful and really hurt the relationship in the end.

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5. Keep It Alive

Make your long distance relationship exciting by keeping life in it. Falling into a set routine can make it expected and can actually hinder your relationship. Call at random times in the day, send a gift for no reason or plan a random trip to visit. The fresher and more alive your long distance relationship is, the more exciting it will be and the better the chance that it will work out.

6. See Each Other

You can’t very well make any relationship work without ever seeing each other. Make it a point to see each other as often as possible. Back when my husband and I were long distance, we would try to see each other at least once a month. And each time we saw each other, the stress of making our long distance relationship work was confirmed.

7. Have a Foreseeable End

You can’t stay long distance forever. Having a plan of when you’ll actually be living near each other is a necessity for making things work out. Make sure there is an end to the long distance in sight.

While long distance isn’t the ideal, if you really love each other, you can make it work. My husband and I are a true testament to that. Are you long distance with someone? How are you making it work?

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  • cinnamon

    2015-06-06T08:12:26.392Z

    My bf lives in Mississippi and i live in Teneessee and we dont get to see each other.
  • karla

    2013-06-27T05:42:12.000Z

    My boyfriend lives six hours away from me,i know its a lot simpler because it is quite close but he is always working and i always have school,competitons, and other events, but in about two months (august) well be living in the same city after living away from each other for three years. Id enjoy more posts related to LDR
  • cara

    2013-06-27T11:12:27.000Z

    My husband and I were long distance for 2 years and got married almost a year ago. Then I finally moved to him. But really with long distance relationships communication is the key and those tiny little things do count.
  • andiena

    2013-06-27T14:43:30.000Z

    dear @Heather I know its pretty risk and not really good if we didnt see each other on skype often,.. i dont like it either and i tried to talk with him, but i dont know what to do, i dont want to make him angry bc of it.. he is my first bf, i really have no experience before and we have to do LDR, lil bit hard for me honestly.. what should i do better for it? i really want to make it work.. i really Appreciate advices.. thank you :)
  • Nyakan

    2013-06-27T03:31:48.000Z

    These are great tips! Me and my boyfriend are long distance and we really do care about each other, and are excited to start our new chapter in our lives together in the same city in August!
  • Ayesha

    2013-06-27T04:40:18.000Z

    Yup me too...me in India and he in New Zealand...pretty far...but we are working it out
  • Sunny

    2014-05-15T22:44:22.911Z

    LDR is really hard. I have been in LDR for 3 years now. but we do text often. send each other pics and most important thing one should have is trust. respect. and love. hopefully we will be together very soon. and thank you for the tips. :)
  • Heather

    2013-06-27T04:59:37.000Z

    My boyfriend and I first meet when we were 5. It was love at first sight for me! Took a little convincing for him because girls still had cooties ;) we have been best friends for so long I don't even know when we started to date! I count 8 years from the day he first wrote me the check yes or no note when we were 12. I still have all those notes we passed as kids! So sweet! Right before I turned 16 my dad started a new job that required us to move. We decided that we would always talk everyday and make it work. I am almost 21 now and we are still going strong long distance! He is my first and only and that's how it's been. The key for us is trust! I don't need to know what he's doing every second or have to worry. It's just a mutual trust and strong friendship we have that makes us last! I loved this article because I can relate so closely! Obviously there is more to it but its a learning process that will help you grow as a couple
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