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7 Ways to Make a Long Distance Relationship Work ...

Bridget

Dating someone who lives far, far way can be a big drag, but believe it or not, there are ways to make a long distance relationship work. I speak from experience. Way back when, when my husband and I first started dating, we had a long distance relationship for THREE years! Yes, three! We really, really cared for each other and so we put the effort in and made it work. Now, we’ve been together for a total of 14 years and have been married for seven. We must’ve done something right! So, if you’re dating someone who lives a far away, rest assured that there are ways to make a long distance relationship work. Here’s my advice on the subject.

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1. Talk Every Day

One of the key ways to make a long distance relationship work is talking. Even if you have nothing to really talk about, you should make it a point to talk to each other once a day. Your conversation doesn’t have to be long or even have to be about something monumental; a simple phone call to say goodnight, I’m thinking about you and I love you is all that is needed.

2. Write Letters

Texts, emails and Facebook messages are a great way to communicate, but they aren’t really romantic. Send your long distance lover good old fashioned hand-written letters every once in a while. A hand-written letter received in the mail shows that you really took the time to show how much you care – and that you really, well, care. Plus, they are great keepsakes to hold onto.

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3. Talk about Each Other

Another great way to keep your feelings for your long distance love front and center is by talking to others about him or her. Not only are you letting the world know how amazing your other half is, but you are reaffirming how amazing you think your other half is. Plus, when he or she comes to town, your friends will be able to say, “I’ve heard so much about you,” or “I heard you got a new job,” or whatever the case may be.

4. Don’t Stress

Being long distance is enough of a strain on a relationship; don’t add to this strain by constantly asking when you’re going to see each other, when you’ll be together or by telling the other you wish they were with you 5,000 times a day. It goes without saying that you want to be together physically, so saying it over and over again can make things stressful and really hurt the relationship in the end.

5. Keep It Alive

Make your long distance relationship exciting by keeping life in it. Falling into a set routine can make it expected and can actually hinder your relationship. Call at random times in the day, send a gift for no reason or plan a random trip to visit. The fresher and more alive your long distance relationship is, the more exciting it will be and the better the chance that it will work out.

6. See Each Other

You can’t very well make any relationship work without ever seeing each other. Make it a point to see each other as often as possible. Back when my husband and I were long distance, we would try to see each other at least once a month. And each time we saw each other, the stress of making our long distance relationship work was confirmed.

7. Have a Foreseeable End

You can’t stay long distance forever. Having a plan of when you’ll actually be living near each other is a necessity for making things work out. Make sure there is an end to the long distance in sight.

While long distance isn’t the ideal, if you really love each other, you can make it work. My husband and I are a true testament to that. Are you long distance with someone? How are you making it work?

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How do you guys texting or calling to each other?

Ive been in an LDR for 2 years :) He lives in United Kingdom and I live in Australia. All I can say is Trust,Respect,Friendship with the one you love is important. And also communication.

Communication is the key to keep LDR strong & alive no matter how busy we are in this unstoppable modern world.

My boyfriend and I are long distance as well. I think these are great tips but I want to add that skyping whenever you can helps a lot. Being able to just see them makes the distance easier to handle. Good luck to anyone in a long distance relationship, don't give up!

then he came to visit me again this September for a month. We can see each other next August I guess... It's really hard being in long distance. My boyfriend is not good at text, no call everyday, no photo... so I get so stress sometimes.

I'm having long distance relationship with my boyfriend.. He is working in holland now, and I'm in bali Well we care for each other.. Sometime we keep telling how much we wish that we live in the same city so i guess it's lil bit hurt.. We talking almost everyday by what's app.. But it's difficult to ask him when I can call him by phone or Skype.. The question.. Could it be problem? If we didnt do those things often? Could it be a bad sign? He told me that whenever we did those thing it just make him feel sad bc he lives so far.. I like this article and I guess it helps alot but I need advice also.. Thanks you

I pray me & my LDR never lose the connection! ;)

My boyfriend lives in America and I live in Japan. We have been dating for a year and 2 months. We met last March in Japan when he was staying here for a while. Then he went back home last May, and I went to America to visit him in November for a week,

my boyfriend & I been together for over 4 1/2 years now. adding all the days I've seen him in person is only a month. we talk EVERY DAY! last year he joined the US army & is now in the east coast. communication is HUGE in a ldr. few more years until we can be together! just got to finish school first.