Do you ever have the sneaking feeling that your partner takes advantage of you? Or maybe it's pretty obvious that they do. This doesn't make for a very equal relationship, and can cause you to feel resentful. The answer is in your hands, so here's what to do if your partner is taking advantage of you …
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1. Learn to Say No
We are often taught that it's rude to say no to someone, but you have every right to refuse an unfair request or something that you don't want to do. So learn to feel comfortable with saying no. You don't have to accept everything, and if you feel that you're being taken advantage of, then saying no will be much better for you!
2. Anticipate Situations Where This May Happen
You may be able to work out a pattern. For example, does your partner always persuade you to do the driving because they want to drink, or want you to lend them money because they run out of cash before payday? Anticipate situations before they happen, and you can work out tactics for avoiding being taken advantage of.
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It is not uncommon for people to feel like their partner is taking advantage of them. This can be a difficult situation to navigate, and can be emotionally draining. It is important to recognize the signs of being taken advantage of, and to take steps to protect yourself.
Signs of being taken advantage of include feeling like you are always the one making compromises, feeling like you are always the one to give in, feeling like your partner is always asking you for favors, and feeling like your partner is always expecting you to do things for them without reciprocating.
To protect yourself from being taken advantage of, it is important to set boundaries and be assertive. Be clear about what is and isn't acceptable behavior. Make sure that your partner understands that you will not tolerate being taken advantage of.
It is also important to anticipate situations where your partner may take advantage of you. For example, if your partner always asks you to do the driving because they want to drink, or if they always ask you to lend them money because they run out of cash before payday, anticipate these situations before they happen.
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3. Negotiate
Negotiation can help you to make the relationship more equal. Do you end up doing all the housework because your partner is busy? Ask them to pay for a cleaner, or cut down on their commitments so that they have time to do their share. If you pay all the bills because they spend all their money first, get them to set up a direct debit so that their share of bills is paid before spending money.
4. Make Demands of Your Own!
Sometimes people don't realise that they're taking advantage of you. So you can try doing the same to them, and seeing if that opens their eyes. When they complain that you're taking advantage, you can then point out that they're doing exactly the same thing, and how! Then they might wake up to their own behavior.
5. Be Tough - Someone Can Only Take Advantage of You if You Let Them
Take charge of the situation and be tough. People can only take advantage of you if you let them! So refuse to allow your partner to use you. He might not like the new, tough you, but you need to show him that you're not willing to put up with him taking advantage of you.
6. Explain Why It's Unfair
To be fair, people don't always realise that they're taking advantage of others. So if he's not aware of what he's doing, point it out to him and explain why it's unfair. Some people need to understand just why what they're doing is bothering you. If he's a decent guy, he'll look at his behavior and modify it.
7. Consider Why It Happens
It may also be helpful to consider why your partner takes advantage of you. Are you a people-pleaser who likes to keep everyone happy? Or was he indulged as a child and has carried that expectation into adult life? Understanding why he behaves this way can be the key to changing his behavior.
You don't have to put up with being taken advantage of. If you do, you're likely to end up silently resentful, while your partner is blissfully unaware. So makes some changes if you want the relationship to thrive. Are you a people-pleaser, or reluctant to say no to anyone?
Comments
Shannon: My former lover told me "Don't be stupid" only when he didn't get his way. I tried to just be friends but he wasn't capable. He always came back asking for more but when I said no I'm the bad guy. I ceased all communication. My life is great now.
Bunny: That's not fair ! Some men deserve to live with professional bitches to appreciate life 👾
Bunny: Aubery ! Cheating is gross I have no time for this kinda busterds just kik him out of your life gently and find someome who is worthy of your time and emotions👍❣
Bunny: Too much kindness can be misunderstood for stupidity or backwardness ! Stop being kind and soon people apreciate you 👍
J: It's hard when someone tells you to toughen up. I mean how do you do that? When someone knows how easy it is to get you to say yes saying no doesn't always work they will keep pressuring you and pressuring you. HOW does someone toughen up???
Nancy: If you let this happen-you are telling your heart that their feelings matter more than your's! Enough. I just recently left my lover of a year because it was so lopsided and guess who was always sad? Yep, me. It's not going to be ez-but I'm worth it!
Kawal: A lover is supposed to be da best buddy care taker and what not,if any partner is taking advantage she should do da same to make him realize n den should leave right away .
Asia: Good advice
Wendy: I agree with you ladies. If your man takes advantage of you best advise is leave him because you do deserve better!!!
Milla: Dump his ass 😊
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