It is so much easier to be negative and put yourself down than to be positive and see a bright outlook, especially when it comes to love. If you’ve been single for a long time, have never had a boyfriend, or a string of failed relationships is your history, you can begin to feel you’re not worthy of love or being loved. WRONG, WRONG, WRONG. Stop being despondent, nix the thoughts of unworthiness and understand you do deserve love.
1 You’re Special
One of the chief reasons you deserve love is that you are special and unique and there is absolutely somebody out there who is looking for the exact brand of special that you are. We all have different talents, achievements and desires, and the great part about falling love is that you finally find somebody who wants nothing more than to share in those individual qualities that you have. You might not have found them yet, but you will!
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2 There Are Literally Plenty of Fish
It might be a corny line that people say when you have broken up with somebody, but the fact is that there are literally so many ‘fish in the ocean’ that it is more likely you will find true love in the end than you won’t. Choice is beautiful thing, so if you don’t spark the right connection with one particular guy, you can cut your losses and move straight on to the next!
3 It’s Free
The best things in life are free, and love is very much one of these best things. Sure, going on dates or buying gifts are elements that require material money and possessions, but the actual feeling of meeting and connecting with somebody who you think might actually be the one costs nothing at all and can be the single most priceless feeling in the world.
4 Nothing to Lose
If you are one of those people who are really cautious about opening yourself up to the possibility of love, then you need to remember that you really have nothing to lose. In most fairy tales, love is something that comes to a princess without a second thought, but in the real world it takes a little more than that. Some feelings might be hurt in attempts along the way, but nothing ventured, nothing gained. I say jump right in.
5 Perfection Isn’t Required
Some people get too hung up about everything having to be absolutely perfect for love to be found, but that just isn’t true. Nobody in the world is absolutely perfect, but something close to perfection can often be found when two people come together and allow their flaws to be embraced by one another.
6 Love Yourself First
It really is true that you can’t love another person without loving yourself first. The act of being in a relationship and opening yourself up to another person can make you feel incredibly vulnerable, and if you don’t have complete love for yourself before beforehand, you might find that process quite difficult to experience. The more you love yourself, the more somebody else will see the best side of you and fall in love too.
7 You Have the Inner Strength to Take a Chance
It can be very easy to shut yourself away, both physically and emotionally, from the prospect of finding love. Some people give up because they don’t want to come out of their comfort zone, but taking a chance on something hopeful is the first and most important step in finally receiving the love that we all know you deserve. The strength is there - in you. Don’t hold back, reach for it and you can make it yours.
Really, someone finds it easier to love an Optimistic Olivia than a Negative Nancy. Nix the idea you’re not worthy and surely, love will find its way to you.
