Sometimes romance doesn’t come easy after you’ve been dating a few years. The newness of your relationship has worn off and you see each other more realistically. While that can lead to a deeper, more mature kind of love, it can put a damper on the romance quotient. But with these tricks up your sleeve, romance will be alive and well.
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1. Stay Sexy by Being the Best Version of Yourself
Never stop being sexy ladies! Just because you’ve dated for years doesn’t mean you should let the sexy die. It’s totally okay if he sees you without makeup or in yoga pants sometimes. We all have those days. But make sure you’re still making an effort to look your best. Not only will he love it but you’ll feel better about yourself, too.
2. Maintain Some Mystery for Your Man
Girls, it’s important to maintain some mystery in your relationship. One way to do that is to always shut the bathroom door. You want him to think you only go in there to spritz perfume and apply mascara! And you don’t have to tell him every thought you have. It’s good to let him be a little curious about what you’re thinking.
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3. Avoid the Dating Rut by Going New Places and Doing New Things
It’s fine if your dates consist of going out to dinner and a movie; I love to do that. But it’s good to mix things up from time to time. This can keep you from falling into a dating rut. Go new places and try new things. Even going to a new restaurant can be exciting if it’s a new experience you’re sharing together.
4. Be Intentional about Creating Romance in Your Relationship
Romance takes some effort. And guys like romance too, although they may pretend they don’t. You can romance him in a manly way such as getting tickets to a sporting event for the two of you to attend. You can also inspire him to continue romancing you by telling him how much you love the romantic things he does. Romance keeps the magic alive for both of you.
5. Share What You Love and Need from Him
Girls, this is a lesson it took me a long time to truly get. Men cannot read your mind. He can’t guess what you want and need. It’s much better to communicate that to him than to be disappointed when he doesn’t deliver. Sharing what you love and need are one of the best things you can do for your relationship.
6. Don’t Forget How Amazing He is
It’s easy to forget what an amazing man you’re with when you’ve been together for years. Be intentional about reminding yourself of those things that make you love him. In addition to making you feel positive toward him, magic will happen when you focus on those things. You also see more to admire when you make a choice to focus on the positive. Positivity breeds more positivity.
7. Dream for the Future Together
Dreaming of the future together keeps the romance alive. It’s fun to talk about all the things you’d like to do. Maybe you’d love to visit a certain beach or take a cruise together. Seeing Paris may be something you dream of. Dreaming together makes you feel fond, romantic feelings toward one another.
These are 7 ideas to keep the romance alive. How do you do this? I’d love to hear what works for you!
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Yashi: My fiancé an I have been together for years and have three gorgeous children. Though I try my hardest to look good, be spontaneous (you know what I mean ladies) and his happiness is one of the most important things to me, I get nothing in return :( not even a kiss or cuddle without me doing it.... Does he just not love me anymore? :( advice would be massively appreciated!
dydiann: whatever
MamaKush: I've been with my DH for 4 years now and I can very much relate to this. Thanks for all the great tips!
N8alie: I am in middle school, why did I click on this?
Nailah: Yashi... True intimacy is so important in a relationship! Talk to your spouse about it and you yourself need to continue being truly intimate... Not just sexually but be honest.
Adea: @Yashi i think you should talk to him..tell him that you feel he is not affectionate enough or that you want him to show more of his love and care..if you love each other he might try for you. Good luck!
Angel: Amazing post :)
N8alie: This is relatable to me, sort of. I am friends with a guy who likes me a lot and we've known each other for about 3 years. He and I literally know everything about each other, yet we still love hanging out. We are the top two smartest people in our school, so we've also been in countless math team road trips and competition vacations together.
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