Moving on is tough even if you don’t have feelings left over, but if you do, it can really be tough. However, there are tips, tricks, and steps to moving on from your ex boyfriend that will make your life easier than if you were trying to go about this on your own. These tips will make moving on a breeze, even if that feels impossible right now!
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1. Stop All Contact
The first step to moving on, no matter how much you may like him, is to stop contact completely. Stopping contact will help get him out of your mind so much faster than harping on him would. If you were still talking to him daily, it’d be a lot more difficult to move on than if you weren’t communicating with him at all.
2. Tell Yourself You Hate Him
It may not be one of the healthiest ways to move on and go about a break-up, but it is one of the most effective ways to move on. Tell yourself that you hate him, even if you don’t. Chances are that he’s hurt you. Remind yourself of all of the things he’s done to hurt you. When you’re focused on the bad things he’s done to you rather than focusing on the good times you had, it’ll be faster to move on!
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3. Put Away the Memories
Don’t keep pictures of him around. Don’t keep mementos and presents that he gave you out. Make a “heartbreak box” of sorts if you need to. Put everything away. Even if you’re not talking to him, having those physical reminders of your relationship are just as painful as talking to him would be.
4. Give Yourself a Break from Love
Don’t jump into a new relationship right away. It will probably be pretty convincing. Why wouldn’t you want someone to help you forget about the boy you cared so much about? Don’t do it, though. Not only is it unfair to the new guy, but it’s also so unhealthy. You’ll spend your entire relationship thinking about your last boyfriend, and you’ll compare everything to him.
5. Focus on Your Own Life
Take some time to refocus on your own life. Make your friends a priority. Do fun things that you never did with your ex. When you’re focused on a new life and new memories that you’re making, you won’t even have time to harp on your old relationship. You need to find happiness without a significant other to move on fully.
6. Figure out What You Love
Chances are that if you were with your ex for a long time, you spent a lot of time together. Most of your hobbies probably intersected at one point or another. You may even be at the point where you don’t know if you really loved a certain hobby or interest, or if you just liked it because your ex did. Figure out what your own interests are when a boyfriend is not influencing them.
7. Eventually Get Back out There
Eventually, you can get back into the dating world. However, remember that the most important thing is to be moved on completely from your past relationship first. When you’re not thinking about him and don’t feel so sorry for yourself anymore, get back out there!
What are your tips, tricks, and steps for moving on from a relationship when you’re still in love with your ex? Let me know in the comments!
Comments
Leng: That one day you accidentally saw him again, you can give a gorgeous smile and that's the time you'll say I've moved on😊.
Cherrydropsx: Very good article. Girls she's right, try to think of the bad times, it helps. Your true love is out there X
Kiki: Gracie and Retsu...... Time heals all wounds. Cliche but oh so true
peony: Very hard. Cry a little get together with friends who will boost ur sad state. If he pops into ur head now and again smile at the good time and frown at the bad times. You will angst towards him but whenever you feel like the world has caved in on you remember you are lucky because you are going to meet more great men and it is all part of the experience however hard it might be.
Bella: Unfortunately I've tried all of the tips, but it's still not helping :/
Shneha: Dont completely hate him.! Because that will also make you think about him more!! Just accept the fact that the relationship is over!! And remembering all the bad stuffs he did to you know that you deserve better💓
Margaret: I hear you Gracie ...I broke up with my guy 4 weeks ago and was gutted ..looked for a bit of space at weekends as myYou fest is just 11 yrs and we were seeing each other for 3 months and for the month before we broke upHe came to stay at my house Fri morn to Mon afternoon ..but I found Mon-Fri I never caught up on my family and chores ! He left in a huff and never came back !! We had spoken long-Term and love and all :( I know it's over ..my head knows it but not my heart !! I tried to talk but he wouldn't listen just wanted space til we all got used to it ...only a day at weekend though as I loved him ! I have 7 kids ..
matt_pweety: I am in that place now and I was reading Nicole's comment and realised that I also didn't put my foot down and set boundaries. Am married and husband decided to leave with no explanation we have 10 month old beautiful baby. It's time to move on. Nice article
Nicole: I've been there too. I agree with cutting off all contact and getting rid of things that remind you emotionally of the good times. Also writing helps. I also agree with thinking about or writing about all of the negatives that made it time to move on. I remember eventually doing those things and thinking "Oh my goodness! He was so not my type. What was thinking?" The best thing for me was to busy myself with remembering that I am more important than I think. That I am more important than the sadness and unhappiness that the relationship brought me. I stayed in a relationship with a guy so long, that I couldn't even remember what I liked anymore. I forgot about me. Afterwards, I just started making all kinds of lists of things that I like to do and want to do, like going to concerts, getting s cheap massage and traveling to nearby states. I started doing those things alone! Then I started making lists of bigger and bigger dreams and goals. I even wrote about what I liked and didn't like in my relationship as well as what I want in my next relationship. I also made lists about what I could've done better for me in the relationship, not him, like putting my foot down and setting boundaries. I just wanted to share what has helped me so far and made me glad that I moved on. You deserve the best! I still have some growing to do from all of this. That relationship made my self-esteem super low, but I feel like these steps have made me realize that everything will be ok, better than ok! Praying for all of you. I know it's hard.
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