So you're keen on someone, but you don't have their number. How do you get it if you're too shy to ask? Or should you bite the bullet and ask them for their number? Here are some sneaky ways to get your crush's phone number …
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1. Ask a Mutual Friend
If you've got a mutual friend, try to get your crush's number from them. Have a convenient excuse ready for why you need it! You could say you need to drop something round their house or message them about an important issue. Your friend might offer to pass on a message; if they do, say it would be easier to message your crush directly.
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If you've been crushing on someone for a while but haven't been able to get their phone number, you're not alone. Getting a crush's phone number can be a tricky process, so it's important to know the best way to go about it.
One of the most effective methods is to ask a mutual friend. If you have a friend in common, try to get your crush's number from them. Make sure to have a good excuse ready for why you need it. You could say you need to drop something off at their house, or that you need to message them about an important issue. Your friend might offer to pass on a message; if they do, say it would be easier to message your crush directly.
Another way to get your crush's phone number is to ask them directly. This can be a bit intimidating, so make sure you're prepared. Start by making small talk to break the ice. Then, when the time is right, ask if you can have their number. Be sure to explain why you need it. You can also offer to exchange numbers, so they don't feel like you're only asking for theirs.
2. Need His Help with Something
Guys love to feel useful. So think of something that you could use his help with. It could be showing you how to fix your car or helping you choose a new computer. He'll be flattered that you want his help - and of course you'll need his number in case you need to contact him!
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When you approach him for assistance, make it genuinely engaging by asking for his expertise on a matter that genuinely interests him. Does he love technology? Ask for his insights on the best software or gadgets. If he's a car enthusiast, engage him in a conversation about the best model for your needs. Remember to show appreciation for his knowledge. This not only gives you an excuse to get his number, but it also gives him a confidence boost and builds a connection based on shared interests. “I might need to ask you some follow-up questions, could I text you?” is a perfect segway into exchanging numbers.
Frequently asked questions
Honestly, keeping it simple and casual works best. You could say something like, 'Hey, we should hang out sometime. Can I get your number?' This way, it feels natural and low-pressure.
It depends on how comfortable you both are with texting. If you have a good texting rapport, go for it! Just make sure to be clear and direct so there’s no misunderstanding.
It's important to respect privacy. You could bring it up in a conversation and suggest exchanging numbers. This way, it’s out in the open and you can avoid any awkwardness down the line.
Try incorporating it into a fun activity. For example, suggest something you both enjoy and then say, 'Let's plan something! Can I get your number to coordinate?' It makes it feel more organic.
Rejection can be tough, but it's important to stay positive. It doesn’t mean they don't like you, they might just not be ready to share their number yet. Give it time and focus on building a stronger connection.
3. Get His Attention with Humor
Humor can also grab a guy's attention. What guy wouldn't want to date a woman who can make him laugh? Write your number on his arm with your eyebrow pencil. Or if his car needs cleaning, write your number in the dirt! If he's got a good sense of humor he'll laugh and give you his number.
4. Call Yourself from His Phone
If you're feeling bolder, and you can get hold of his phone, call your own number from his phone so that it's logged on his phone. If he doesn't realise what you're doing, he may find your number later and call to see who it belongs to. If he sees you using his phone, laugh and say it's there if he wants to call you!
5. There's a Video You'd Really Love …
The casual approach can also work well. Wait until an appropriate moment in the conversation and mention that there's a video you'd love to send him. If he gives you his number, you'll send him the clip … Even if you don't have a particular video in mind, you can always choose one later!
6. Ask Him to Call Your Phone
We've all mislaid our phone at some point and had to call it from another phone to find it. Conveniently lose your phone when your crush is about, and ask him to help you out by calling your number. Of course, you know exactly where your phone is, but he doesn't know that you know that!
7. Ask Them Straight out!
Sometimes a direct approach can be the best one. If you really like this guy, then ask him for his number. What's the worst that can happen? If he says no, you've lost nothing. He may well be flattered that you're asking - men can get tired of always being expected to make the first move.
There are all kinds of ingenious ways of getting a guy's number, so if you spot an opportunity don't waste it! And once you've got it, call or message him before long, or he'll think you aren't really interested. Be proactive and don't expect him to do all the running. Have you ever missed an opportunity and regretted it?
Comments
thursday: I told my crush that I lost a bet with my friend so I had to ask him for his number and just gave it to me
Elizabeth: Agree with peony. Im a bit old fashioned. I like a guy to ask me out first.
M3g: If you can't straight up ask him for his digits, you're not mature enough to date him.
Nancy: Playing games is not a good way to start any relationship. Just be honest and ask. As for writing your number on his car, I'd steer clear of that as you can potentially damage the paint work. May leave a note with a voucher for a car wash on his windshield.
peony: Aaaargh stalking behaviour and it will work well
Lulu: Ahhhhhhhh I want a muse phone case 👌🏼forget the phone number
Abigail: If your crush likes you, then number six is good, he will definitely call your phone. If he has a good sense of humor then he would definitely get your number to see a funny video
Madison: I actually and changing schools and I am getting everyones #. After getting all of my friends #'s I went up to my crush and said that I was changing schools and I asked him for his #. It WORKED!!!
Rash: Hmm number 6 is a good one.. A bit funny and stalkerish but clever. But hey, being direct is the easiest! :) Awesome post!
peony: Hmmm that sounds like stalling behaviour. Very unattractive trait. This behaviour will worm well if it was a Hollywood movie esp putting your name in his phone. What happened to just dreaming about your crush from afar or just daring to speak with him....?isn't that more exciting.just saying
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