As a matchmaker, I'm always given a list of things women do wrong in bed. More often than not, your bedroom routine can use a little spicing up. You care about your man and expect him to initiate sex, right? Wrong! A relationship takes work. Sex, believe it or not, is part of that work. Study up so when it comes to sex you can be aware of the things women do wrong in bed.
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1. Loving Your Comfy Clothes
After a long day at the office, all you want to do is change out of your work attire and put on your sweats or jammies. But, comfy clothes aren’t a turn-on to your man. Men constantly complain that once women are in a relationship (or married), they stop trying. The sexy lingerie disappears and is replaced with cozy clothes. If you want to spice things up, shed those comfy clothes and wear something that’s a turn-on to your partner. Follow these tips so you know the top things women do wrong in bed.
2. Forgetting to Initiate
Men love when women take the lead. Men need to feel wanted, and the best way to show your man that you want him is to initiate sex. So, get involved! Take the initiative and bring your partner into bed with you.
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3. Being Too Bossy
Sex isn’t a time to be bossy and controlling. Men don’t like hearing a detailed list of instructions. You should tell your partner what you like, but keep in mind he wants to please you, not feel like he’s back in school. Be positive; he wants to hear what he can do to make you feel great and how it will excite you.
4. Insecurity Isn’t Sexy
Confidence is super sexy. Men want to date women who are sure of themselves - all of the time. Being proud of your naked body is one of the sexiest things you can do. Don’t hide your curves or the imperfections you think you have. Embrace your body.
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When it comes to being a great lover, there are certain qualities that women should strive for. One of the most important of these is confidence. Men are attracted to women who are sure of themselves and their bodies, and can be proud of their curves and imperfections. Having confidence in the bedroom is incredibly sexy and can make all the difference in the bedroom.
Women should also be comfortable communicating their desires and needs in bed. Men are often eager to please their partners, but they can’t do that unless they know what their partners want. Being able to express yourself openly and honestly in bed can make all the difference in the bedroom.
Women should also be willing to experiment and try new things. Men love it when women are open to trying new positions and exploring different ways of pleasuring each other. Women should also be willing to take the lead sometimes and be the one to initiate sex. This can be incredibly empowering for both partners.
Women should also be willing to be vulnerable in the bedroom. Men love it when women are willing to open up and share their deepest desires and fantasies. This can create a deeper connection between partners and lead to more satisfying sex.
Finally, women should be willing to take risks in the bedroom.
5. Don’t Expect Him to do Everything
Sex is an activity that involves both of you. You have to be present. It’s not his responsibility to do everything. You want your man to feel like you’re trying hard to please him.
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Sex should be a mutually enjoyable experience for both partners. It’s important to remember that it’s not the responsibility of one person to do all the work. While it’s great to show your man that you’re willing to please him, it’s important to keep in mind that both of you should be actively involved in the experience.
Women should be aware that men are visual creatures, so it’s important to show some skin and be confident in your body. Showing your man that you’re comfortable in your own skin is a great way to get him in the mood.
Women should also be aware that men are often aroused by different things than women. Men are often aroused by physical contact, such as kissing, touching, and caressing. Women should be open to exploring different types of physical contact with their partners.
It’s also important for women to be vocal about what they want in the bedroom. Men often like to take the lead in the bedroom, but women should be open to expressing their desires and fantasies. This will help create an environment of trust and openness between the two of you.
6. Don’t Worry about What You Look like
Wanting to turn the lights off or trying to keep your clothes on during sex shows your man that you’re insecure. Remember, confidence is sexy. Unless you’re wearing lingerie with a garter belt and thigh-highs, lose your clothes. Worrying about how you look during sex stops you from enjoying yourself.
7. Know That He Can’t Read Your Mind
Men aren’t mind readers. They don’t always know what you want or what you’re thinking unless you tell them. Communication is key, even in sex!
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When it comes to sex, communication is essential. Women should be open and honest with their partners about their desires, needs, and preferences. This can help create a better sexual experience for both partners.
Women should also be aware that men aren't mind readers. They don't always know what you want or what you're thinking unless you tell them. It's important to be direct and vocal about your needs and wants in the bedroom.
It's also important to remember that men may have different sexual needs than women. Women should be open to trying new things in the bedroom and discussing them with their partners. This can help create a safe and comfortable environment for both partners to explore their sexuality.
In addition to communication, it's important to make sure that both partners are comfortable and safe in the bedroom. Women should consider their partner’s feelings and boundaries and make sure that they are respected. Women should also be aware of their own boundaries and make sure that they are respected as well.
Finally, women should remember that sex should be enjoyable for both partners. Women should focus on creating a pleasurable experience for both themselves and their partner. This can involve experimenting with different positions, techniques, and toys.
8. Please Don’t Fake It!
If you’re faking it, you’re the one who’s missing out. Sex should be enjoyable and filled with multiple orgasms. If your man isn’t getting you there, let him know! Show him what you like and give him a chance to pleasure you. You’re wasting your time (and his!) if you don’t give him a chance to make you feel great.
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When it comes to sex, faking it is one of the worst things a woman can do. Not only does it rob her of the pleasure she could be experiencing, it also wastes her partner's time and energy. By faking it, she's sending the wrong message and not allowing her partner to make her feel great.
The key to having a great sexual experience is communication. Women should let their partners know what they like and what they don't like. They should also show their partners what they like, rather than simply telling them. This will help ensure that both partners are getting what they need out of the experience.
There are many ways to make sure that both partners are having a great time in bed. Women should pay attention to their own pleasure and make sure they are getting what they need. They should also pay attention to their partner's pleasure and make sure they are getting what they need.
Women should also take the time to explore their own bodies and learn what turns them on. This will help them communicate their needs to their partner and make sure they are getting what they need out of the experience.
9. Don’t Forget Your Sexuality
Once you’re in a committed relationship, it’s easy to forget about your sex life. Perhaps you’re too tired and stressed, or maybe you’re just not in the mood. Make your sex life a priority. If you put your man or your relationship on the back burner, one day it will burn up.
10. Giving Him a Dose of the Silent Treatment
If he makes you hot, let him know! You don't have to feel like you’re in a porn video, but make some noise. Let him hear how much you’re enjoying yourself.
Every woman should have an inner sexual goddess. Do you have anything to add to the list of things women do wrong in bed?
Comments
Haley: Chill folks. Lol. This article is about women and not men. Also she wrote it with plenty of receipts from actual dudes out there. What they like. What turns then on and also what turns them off. Struck a chord? Not trying to be mean, but maybe you got your feathers ruffled because it was personal. Lol. Like maybe you have been called bossy. Maybe you know all you wear is some frumpy pajamas. Instead of getting defensive, take this gift of insight and use it to your advantage. Us women are great at that. Here's another thing... Yes this article outlines many things we can do better, but she never said there is nothing that men have to do for us to keep it spicy. Maybe it's just that writing this article about things we can change was a lot smaller task than the 50 things men could do for us ; ) Nothing wrong with considering advice from any one brave enough to freely throw their insight out there. As a Scorpio lady I find it a fun task to find ways to sexy myself up and make myself more likely to become the dessert if you know what I mean.
Hope4u2: Iffy about the clothes off and lights.... But if he truly loves you he knows your imperfections and none of that matters...
Paige: What do u mean by fake it?
Danijela: Great article :) definitely agree with number one... Dnt forget to dress sexy for your man, no matter how long you have been together.. Keep the spark a light - guys love it! Just because you've been together for years doesn't mean sexual desire dies ;)
Linda: Jennapher you missed your vocation darling you should teach
shannon: Forgetting to initiate/ being to bossy make up your mind please
Jennapher: My fleece pj's don't get him hard, but his old gym shorts and ratty Cubs T shirt should get me all wet? I don't think so! So we really need to be told that we could combine our those subtle. Land and groans of pleasure with a bit of instruction" oh yeah, honey, that's it, right there...yes, keep doing that, mmmmmm, oh baby, gimme a little more right there..." Does that sound "bossy"?
Ruby: Jammies? Not a turn on? So basically you're saying that you can't feel relaxed and comfortable around your partner? This is bull. Don't write like this Carly
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