I think it would be fair to say that, compared to fifty or so years ago, there are far fewer mysteries between men and women when it comes to knowing the ins and out of gender and gender identity these days. Men and women are no longer the Mars and Venus type stereotypes that previous decades used to be so fond of believing, and that is a good thing, but there is no denying that on some finer points of womanhood and femininity, there is still a bit of a knowledge and understanding gap! Here are seven things we wish guys knew without us having to tell them!
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1. Red Weeks
It’s not like it’s a huge deal when you are a mature adult, but sometimes, don’t you wish that a guy could tell that you were on your period without you having to have the discussion about why you are feeling a little bit more cranky, or why you don’t want to have sex right now? It would save some time!
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Certainly, the Red Weeks signify more than mood shifts or intimacy preferences; they're often accompanied by bloating, cramps, or a cascade of other discomforts. Understanding this, would alleviate the need to explain why we're donning the comfy sweatpants or craving chocolate. It may even nudge our partners to offer that hot water bottle or a gentle back rub without prompting, making the week sail by with a bit more ease for both parties involved.
2. Dressing Time
By the time you have explained to him exactly why it takes you so long to get ready, you have wasted another five minutes of precious preparation time! Life would be more smooth with less silly conflict if he could just understand the natural need to take your time as you get ready for a night out!
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It's not about vanity; it's about feeling confident and beautiful in our skin. Your rush risks turning Cinderella's ball preparation into a stressful race against the clock. We relish the rituals, selecting the perfect outfit, coordinating accessories, and primping hair. It's an art, a moment of self-care that's as essential to us as that last-minute shave might be for you. So pour yourself a drink, chill with some tunes, and give us the gift of time. After all, the outcome is you arm-in-arm with someone feeling fabulous – and that's worth the wait, right?
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3. Dirty Thoughts
Some women still feel a little embarrassed and shy about voicing their sexy thoughts and dirty fantasies to their partner, so if he knew instinctively what you wanted and how you wanted it, it wouldn’t cause so much of an atmosphere break than when you have to work up the courage to say things!
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Feeling liberated in the bedroom is a game-changer for intimacy. When a man intuitively understands his partner's desires, it allows for a profound connection without the awkwardness of verbal explanation. Imagine a scenario where just a look or a touch conveyed a woman's deepest cravings, creating a seamless and thrilling experience. Confidence in the bedroom isn't just about technique; it's about the silent language of lust where each whisper of touch speaks volumes, and every glance is heavy with unspoken fantasies.
4. Shaving
The sooner he can understand that we don’t shave every day, the better! It’s really disheartening to see when a guy gets kind of turned off because there is the smallest amount of hair on your legs or your bikini line. It would be much nicer if he understood innately rather than you having to give a big speech!
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Shaving is a personal preference and often a time-consuming task. Sure, some days we'll be silky smooth, but it's vital for men to realize hair growth is natural and normal. Embracing this would remove so much pressure and awkwardness. Plus, wouldn't it be lovely if appreciation for our natural state was just as enthusiastic as for our groomed one? Understanding this would certainly be a step forward in fostering a more accepting and less judgmental relationship with our bodies—and by extension, each other.
5. Mood Swings
It kind of defeats the point of a mood swing when you have to explain your emotions to your boyfriend every single time. Don’t you just wish sometimes that he could understand you are having a bit of an off day, and that he could leave you to it rather than enquiring and stoking the fire?
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Sometimes, we simply wish our partners could pick up on our emotional state through the silent cues we provide. If we're quiet and not quite ourselves, a little space might be all we need. Instead of having to spell it out, it would be oh-so-sweet if our men could just intuit that a hug or their silent presence is enough. After all, the perfect balance of understanding without overstepping can make those pesky mood swings feel less disruptive and more manageable.
6. Sharing Emotions
Relationships would be so much easier if guys understood from the start that they are allowed to show and share their emotions! We always end up having to tell them that they are welcome to lean on us when they need support, but it would be so much nicer if they already knew that!
7. Little Things Matter
Guys are often good at making those big sweeping gestures to try to be the classic gentleman, but what we wish they knew instead is the fact that it is often the little, more common things that can matter more than the big grand gestures!
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