You've got to know the ways to ruin a relationship before it begins. Nothing is better than the beginning of a relationship; the dating, the late night talks, the cuddles. Everything is always sweeter at the beginning of a relationship. Unfortunately, our mind can get the best of us, and start ruining these relationships before they even had a chance to really start. Most of the time, we don’t even realize that we are doing it. Catch yourself before it’s too late. Here are some ways to ruin a relationship before it begins.
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Jealousy
Jealousy is one of the top ways to ruin a relationship before it begins. It’s perfectly normal to feel some jealousy in a relationship. No one likes to imagine the thought of their partner with another woman. However, being too jealous and showing our jealous side can quickly ruin what we have. Especially if nothing is going on in the first place.
Excessive jealousy doesn't just strain trust, it can breed insecurity and create a hostile environment for love to grow. Constant questioning or demands to reassure one’s insecurities tells the other person that you lack faith in them and the relationship. Trust is the foundation of any budding romance, so if jealousy becomes the narrative rather than an occasional feeling, it's a surefire way to ensure that the relationship may never fully bloom. Remember, confidence and self-assurance are far sexier than any green-eyed monster could ever be.
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Too Clingy
Being clingy -- constantly texting and calling, needing to be with him every second of every day, getting mad when they don’t answer our texts or calls right away. Everyone needs some space, we all have lives. It’s important not to become too clingy (especially early in the relationship). No one likes to be smothered.
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Moving Too Fast
You are one week into the relationship, and already talking about making babies and getting married. This is a set up for disaster. Don’t get me wrong, there are plenty of couples that have fallen in love and moved fast -- it’s just not the best idea. There is a chance those feelings can fade, puppy love and lust can wear off, leaving you feeling down and depressed. Give your relationship time to grow.
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Lying
Relationships need to be based on trust and honesty. Even the littlest lie can cause a relationship to turn rocky. Once trust is broken, it’s not easily fixed. If you plan on taking a relationship seriously, plan on staying honest.
Lying creates a web of deceit that can entangle and choke the very foundation of a budding romance. The act of falsehood, no matter how small or insignificant it might seem, lays down a hazardous path ahead. Think twice before letting anything but the truth spill from your lips – your future self will thank you. Remember, that first breach of trust could become the shadow that looms over your togetherness, making it all the more difficult to bask in the warm light of genuine connection and intimacy. Honesty isn't just the best policy; it's the only way to truly flourish together.
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Talking to Multiple People
This one may seem obvious, but it happens more times than you think. Having a Plan B is always good, except when you’re trying to build a foundation for a relationship. If you want a committed relationship, be prepared to be committed to one person.
Talking to several potential partners might give you the illusion of keeping your options open, but it can also send the signal that you're not serious about anyone in particular. Relationships thrive on trust and the belief that you are each other's top choice. By dividing your attention, you might inadvertently undermine this trust. To foster a deep connection, channel your energy into getting to know that one person who stands out to you. It’s about quality, not quantity. Single-minded focus paves the way for a strong relationship to bloom.
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Happiness depends upon ourselves.
Controlling
Don’t try to control your partner, and they should not be controlling you either. We need our independence. We are adult enough to make our own decisions, and there is no need for a controlling partner.
Attempting to dominate the dynamics of a relationship is like playing with fire – it only burns the bond you're trying to build. Trust and respect should be the foundation of any healthy partnership, and these cannot flourish under the shadow of micromanagement or power plays. True love empowers and liberates, giving both parties the freedom to be their authentic selves without fear of reprisal or judgement. Remember, a partner is not a project to fix or mold – they are your equal, deserving the same agency and autonomy that you enjoy.
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No Communication
I know, it’s contradicting a little. We don’t want to be too clingy and constantly be trying to talk to him, but we also don’t want to have no communication at all. We need to have a good balance. Communication is important for every relationship; it builds trust, it builds the foundation of the relationship.
There are many things that can ruin a relationship before it begins, or while it’s in the early stages. If you really want that relationship to work, take these things into consideration and have a happy, healthy relationship.
