If you've ever read Gone Girl by Gillian Flynn, you know all about "cool girl." She's the type of woman that alters her personality in order to be liked by a guy. Here are a few "cool girl" traits you don't want to have:
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1. Pretending to like What He Likes
You shouldn't pretend you're a fan of football to impress him. If you don't want to watch the game with him, then don't. He won't fault you for it.
2. Always Letting Him Get His Way
Relationships require compromise. If you always let him get his way, instead of negotiating with him, then you'll never truly be happy.
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Well, 'cool girl' traits are often seen as those personality features that make a girl appear easy-going and effortlessly likeable. Sometimes people think it's about being laid-back or having interests that match stereotypical 'guy' things, but it can be more complicated than that.
The article suggests that sometimes being the 'cool girl' means suppressing your true self to fit a mold. It's like pretending to be someone you're not to get approval or be seen a certain way, which can be harmful to your own happiness.
You might notice they agree too quickly with everything, hide their real opinions or interests, or act aloof when they naturally wouldn't. It's like playing a part rather than just being genuine.
Not exactly! Being genuinely cool is about being authentic and confident in who you really are, while 'cool girl' traits could be more about fitting into societal expectations without showing your true self.
Focus on what makes you happy and fulfilled, not on what others expect you to be. Embrace your unique traits and interests, and you'll be way cooler in your own right. It's all about being true to yourself!
3. Not Forcing Him to Define the Relationship
You shouldn't let him get away with stringing you along. If he wants to spend time with you, he should be able to tell you if he views you as his girlfriend or his friend with benefits.
4. Trying Too Hard
If you're trying way too hard around a guy, then he isn't the right one for you. The right guy would make you feel comfortable in your own skin.
5. Maintaining a “perfect” Look
You don't have to maintain a size 2 and keep every inch of your skin shaved. It's natural to have a little bit of weight and hair on you.
6. Lying to Impress Him
Don't lie to him in order to get him to call you his girlfriend. Relationships should be built on honesty.
7. Letting Him Orgasm First
You deserve to orgasm as much as he does. He shouldn't be the only one having fun in the bedroom. It's all about equality.
8. Pretending You Love Certain Sexual Acts
Don't pretend that you like certain sexual acts if you actually hate them. Otherwise, you're going to end up getting stuck doing things you can't stand.
9. Eating Food You Hate
Don't agree to eat hamburgers and pizza with him every Friday night if you actually hate the grease. It's okay to ask him to go to a new restaurant.
10. Never Yelling at Him
Every couple will have fights. If you avoid yelling at him, even when you're upset, then all of that anger is eventually going to bottle up and explode.
11. Acting like You Don’t Have Any Emotions
You're not a robot. It's okay for you to cry in front of him or ask him how he's feeling.
12. Letting Him Use You for Sex
If you're not in the mood to have sex, don't let him touch you. You're allowed to turn him down.
13. Hanging out with His Friends, and Never Yours
If you hang out with his friends on weekends, then he should be willing to hang out with your friends. It's only fair.
14. Refusing to Complain
You're allowed to complain, and you're allowed to nag. Don't hold yourself back to keep him happy.
15. Acting Laid Back
Some of us are high maintenance, and there's nothing wrong with that. Don't pretend that you're happy walking around without makeup on when you're dying to do your face.
16. Putting up with Nasty, Sexist Comments
Don't do the dishes and sweep the floors, because he thinks it's your job. It's not.
17. Letting Him Be Happy While You’re Miserable
At the end of the day, both of you should be happy. If only one of you is, then the relationship shouldn't continue.
You should always be yourself, not the girl that you think your man wants you to be. Have you ever done any of these "cool girl" things?
Comments
Superinna: What a great & helpful article!! I can relate to all of these points. And I will definitely try my best not to in future😵💄🌹💅🏻💃🏼👠💋🎄happy holidays everybody!
peony: Love does crazy things to a girl but if u dont learn to be your own women eventually in a relationship then the chances r u never well or better still time to move on
Kim: Don't eat food you hate all the time, but once a while you should be try new things and you might not like them all. When you're unhappy get away and come back when you have resolved your feelings.
Ally: Good article however I have to disagree with number 10, you can argue and disagree without yelling at someone. There's no need to be that person.
Kellyyy: Using Gone Girl for this- perfect choice #amazingamy
Ramen: Great article :)
Bunny: Most Pathetic personality ! Makes me nauseous .
BrittanyBAKER: I think Gone Girl was a good example because she says in the movie how she always acted like the "cool" girl in the relationship.. Anyways good article!
Burhan: Hiiii beautful
Miss: They are from gone girl... not sure a good example for this article though
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