Being in a relationship is great, it provides you with long-term support and companionship. On the other hand, though, it can also breed a lot of familiarity, and when there is lots of familiarity, there is always a risk that people start to become a little bit complacent. The phrase ‘you don’t know what you’ve got ‘til it’s gone’ is popular for a reason, after all! What I’m talking about is being so comfortable with your boyfriend that, without even realising it, you start to take certain things for granted. Here are twelve things you should never take for granted with your boyfriend!
I know that relationships and love are about more than aesthetics, but that doesn’t mean that once you have bagged a partner that you are free to give up and become a slob. Stay looking good for them as you would hope they will do for you.
Don’t take for granted the fact that little things you might say in anger can really hurt his feelings. Men don’t always show it, but they can be just as sensitive.
When you are feeling down, he will be feeling down too because of his sympathy for you. Try not to turn this confluence of feelings into an emotional war.
When you are up, he will be up, and the same goes for being down, so don’t take for granted the way that he will adjust his own life to be on par with your emotions and struggles.
When you are jealous, you have no problem with telling him so and expecting him to change his behaviour, so don’t disregard and ignore him if he ever comes to you with similar feelings that need to be addressed.
Don’t take for granted that fact that he is happy to let you be the dominant force in the relationship. He’s not weak, he’s just compromising to make you happy and the partnership work.
He might not get everything right all the time, but never take for granted the fact that he makes an effort on a daily basis to make you happy and secure and safe in the relationship.
Never take for granted the little questions that he asks you every day, enquiring about how your day way, about how your friends are, all of these little communications.
Make sure to thank him and show appreciation when he turns up with small gifts for you. They might not be diamonds, but they are proof that you are always on his mind.
Never underestimate the fact that he is constantly taking mind notes about the things that you like and the things that you dislike. He is forever building up a picture of your preferences in his head.
Being apart for long stretches of time will affect him just as much as it affects you, so keep this in mind and don’t put blame on him for your long distance circumstances.
We all know that living with us can sometimes be a nightmare, girls can go from one mood to the other at the drop of a hat! Never take for granted the way in which he is able to roll the punches!