Here Are the Dating Rules That No Longer Apply ...

By Holly • Jul 6, 2015

You don't need to follow a certain set of rules in order to obtain a boyfriend, especially the outdated rules. Times have changed, which means that you don't have to fit into a certain mold in order to get someone to like you. You can do that just by being yourself. While you're at it, here are the dating rules that no longer apply:

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1. You Should Wait to Call Him

There's an old rule that says you should wait three days to call someone after getting their number. However, that rule doesn't apply anymore, especially now that texting is popular. If a guy gives you his number, feel free to text him right away so that he has your number, too. That way, the lines of communication are open right away. Plus, people nowadays are more impatient, so no one really wants to wait to hear from someone they're interested in.

2. Men Should Initiate Everything

Men are no longer in charge of initiating everything. If you want to ask a guy out, then do it. If you want to kiss him, then lean right in. There's no reason for you to wait for him to make the first move when you're free to make it yourself. If he's more sheepish and shy than you are, then it makes sense for you to initiate everything.

3. The Man Should Always Pay

Men don't need to initiate anymore, and they don't need to pay either. If you make more money than your boyfriend does, then you should offer up your wallet, or at least ask him if he'd like to split the bill.

4. You Should Have Sex on the 3rd Date

Some people say that you should wait until the third date to have sex, but there's nothing sillier than that. You should sleep with someone when you're completely ready, whether it's on your tenth date or before you've even gone on your first date. Hook ups are common in the modern world, so it's okay if you make out with your crush before you go out to dinner with him.

If you're looking to engage your partner in intriguing conversations, why not try some hypothetical questions for couples? These fun queries will not only keep the conversation lively but also stimulate deep thoughts and potentially reveal insights about each other's personality and thought processes.

5. Dates Should Be Impressive

Dates don't actually have to be exciting and expensive. If you're with the right person, you'll have just as much fun watching Netlix on the couch together as you would watching a movie in a theater. If you two are both broke, have your date nights at home. Free dates aren't necessarily bad dates.

6. You Should Play Hard to Get

Playing hard to get isn't as fun as it looks. If a guy asks you out, don't say no just to make him suffer. Don't wait an hour to text him back either, especially if you're dying to type out a response. There's nothing unattractive about admitting your interest.

7. Certain Subjects Are off Limits

You don’t have to avoid talking about your ex, religion, or politics with your partner. Sure, those topics might make things awkward on a first date, but you're going to have to talk about them eventually. If your religious or political views differ, you might not last in the long run. And although you don't want to bring up your ex too often, you're going to have to be open about your past.

There's no set of rules that will help you find love. Just be yourself and the rest will fall into place. What other dating rules of the past do you think are outdated?

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  • Francesca

    2015-07-07T13:09:20.024Z

    This article is ridiculous. There's nothing wrong with modesty. For a woman to get a man, she does not need to act in desperate.
  • AlexChambers

    2015-07-07T17:20:06.880Z

    Not everyone wants to go around throwing themselves at people like you may be doing Karen. If people want to save themselves for the one then they can
  • DMT

    2015-07-08T09:50:30.574Z

    I think it depends on the guy ladies...some are decent and some not so. Just gotta pick up on which one he is beware of the wolf in sheep's clothing. Some men are very adept at saying one thing but feeling another. If he likes YOU he will wait. If he doesn't then you haven't lost anything.
  • Cindy

    2015-07-07T08:10:01.177Z

    No wonder men treat woman the way they do! Woman has lost all their magic and mystery, not to talk about self respect and values
  • Cindy

    2015-07-08T10:28:49.456Z

    At JP, i agree, people with stable values and self respect educate themselves and value themselves, they make the best long time partners. Only sluts jump from bed to bed
  • Rhiannon

    2015-07-07T03:35:03.805Z

    Alka, having a husband isn't the most important thing in the world for a woman, don't be rude.
  • KaReN

    2015-07-07T06:22:08.340Z

    waiting for mr right and 'saving' yourself for him is just stupid, this is the 21st century not the 1800s, live a little you only live once, you could be waiting till your 80
  • ellonelo

    2015-10-26T05:27:00.512Z

    This article was stupid. Sorry. Have sex before you go on the date and then what? You've already set the tone of what's to expect the next time you guys hang out. SEX.
  • Eboney

    2015-07-07T11:38:25.922Z

    Woah...! The moment you sleep a guy even before he takes you out for a date then you have to forget about the lovely dinners, presents name it. All the time you will be catching up that will mean sleeping with him. What memories will you have then about the first days of your relationship ? He will take you for granted incase you end up in a r/ship. Ladies let's be wise !
  • Carly

    2015-07-07T04:00:03.474Z

    Agree on everything but the last one...to an extent: talking about your ex is a turn off- the past is the past- live in the now with the man you're with....
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