It is an innate part of our humanness to want to feel loved and to experience being in love; it’s something we yearn for as soon as our teenage hormones start to bubble over, and yet it can seem like striving for an unreachable goal when it is so hard to define. How to know when you are in love? Let's see!
1. Love is All around
Most of us will grow up experiencing love of some kind, whether it be from parents, grandparents, siblings or friends, and will have felt the warmth of a loving hug and well-timed hand squeeze. As the adolescent years encroach, the desire for love and yet utter conviction that no one will ever love you can reach fever pitch. Misplaced affections in geeky boys and adoration of teen idols manage to masquerade as love in our inexperienced minds. Deep down, we probably know that there is something more out there, and it starts a lifelong quest for true love.
The thing is how do we know when we are truly in love? What marks out this feeling from all the previous pretenders? Is this the real thing or should you keep on searching? Let’s face it, it is the stuff of magazines, rom coms, chic flicks, and girlie chats, but it is also a deep felt anguish that niggles away night and day when you find yourself in that position. The old mantra of “you’ll just know” plays around and around in your head until you don’t feel like you actually know very much at all.
Were there fireworks? Well, it was bonfire night, so you’d kind of expect it. Does he make your heart race? We only see each other at the gym so it’s hard to tell. Can you imagine yourself with him forever? I can see myself living quite happily with Zac Efron, but I guess that doesn’t count.
So what are the true tell-tale signs that you are in love? Love can be a tricky little character to pin down. It can be easy to dismiss the feelings that you have at the beginning of a relationship as simply lust or excitement, but, in truth, it is love in its infancy. Love isn’t something that moves in once you’re over the thrilling stage; being in love is part of the thrill. The anticipation of seeing each other, the constant day dreaming about each other, the 24/7 fixed grin on your face, they are all good signs. Obviously, they can also be signs of lust, but that little spark, that little flutter deep inside can be something awakening that goes beyond initial lust.