7 Little Secrets of a Successful Marriage ...


The secrets of a successful marriage really aren’t rocket science. They are a lot of little things that really do work in keeping your relationship together and happy. Doing even one of these things can reap big benefits. Putting these secrets of a successful marriage into practice gives you greater chances at a successful marriage, too.

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Shift Your Focus

One of the biggest and best secrets of a successful marriage lies in this point. It happens when you learn to focus on what kind of spouse you are being rather than what kind of spouse you have. Stop focusing on if your own needs are met. Focus on making sure that you are meeting your spouse’s needs. Many times this will even start a cycle of you meeting their needs and making them want to meet yours.


Don’t Lose Your Identity

This happens so easily when women marry. They get so wrapped up in being a wife and later a mother that they sometimes lose themselves because they are so busy taking care of other people. This is a recipe for unhappiness. Make sure that you keep up with your friendships. Take time for hobbies you enjoy.


Stay in Touch

Life gets busy. And when you are married, it can be easy to get lost in the day to day shuffle. Make it a point to stay in touch daily with one another. Share things about your day, both the highlights and the low points. Make time to communicate with one another on a daily basis instead of waiting for a date night.


Trust in Your Love

Every marriage has hard times that it goes through. It isn’t a matter of if it will happen but a matter of when. One deciding factor on if you will make it through them or not is if you trust in your love. You have to cling to your love to see you through the hard times. The right attitude has everything to do with making it as a couple.


Focus on the Positive

Your outlook has everything to do with your marriage. If you have a negative outlook, you will find negative things in your marriage. If you have a positive outlook, you will find positive things in your marriage. Whatever you focus on will grow in your heart and in your mind. It really is as simple as making that choice.


Learn from the Happily Married Couples

Couples that have been married for many years have a lot of wisdom to share. Listen to them whenever you have the opportunity. Ask them for their secrets. Most people are happy to share what has made their marriage work. It’s a compliment to be asked.


Banish This Word

You are going to up the chances of your marriage dramatically with this secret. Don’t allow the word divorce in your marriage. Don’t talk about it. Don’t think about it. Look at your marriage as a union that is and always will be permanent and you will have much more motivation to make it work.

Marriage is a journey that is filled with hard work, but these little secrets can bring you a higher chance of success. Do you follow any of them in your marriage? I would love to hear from you.

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As long as each gives 60% then you will be happy.

open communication!! if you can't tell your partner your deepest secrets, it can turn bad

Wonderful advice. I also tell couples to never forget the early years, the feelings you felt when you couldn't wait to spend time together. Remember why you fell in love. My husband and I have been through tough times, & wonderful times through out our marriage. this July we will have been together as a family for 28 years & in October we will be celebrating our 25th Wedding Anniversary. My husband just retired from 40 years as a Conductor on the Railway. Many chapters with a whole lot of love. Two wonderful children and even a grandson. Together forever, as one.

I am not experiencing anyXD but when I grow up and marry I'll make sure I'll follow what you just said... thank you for this article :)

all you said was soo good. I follow all of them just not consistently ! tho my husband and I just celebrated 2 years yesterday. which is not long but... we have had to overcome difficulties tho. and I praise Jesus he has been our help! it's always so good to be reminded so u stay on the good/right track! thank you so much for this article !

@Beryl Stokes Why 60%?!! I always strive for 100% in everything.

i m living in a long distance marriage and its too hard

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