I don't think I've ever heard the stereotype "gays and lesbians cheat more", but I like this article, it's a good read

@k-dizzel YES peopl were born gay. It's NOT a choice. You like who uou like. Love is not a choice. Attraction is not a choice. Sexual orientation is not a choice. Trust me, nobody would want to be gay if they had a choice. Nobody wants to be bullied or assaulted for liking the same gender and not being the straight norm. I would give up being gay in a heartbeat to get back the days I got bullied and all the times I've been threatened with "you just need to be with the right penis to make you love men" or the left out feeling from being an outcast in my shitty childhood neighborhood where being gay got you beat up anytime anybody wanted to. But I can't become straight, just like you can't suddenly become gay. Because I love girls. I am gay. I was born gay. And that is not a choice.

Assuming people who live together are a couple just because theirs 2 of them. They could be friends who just want to save money by living together instead of alone.

I have never asked anyone such a stupid question but then it is just as bad as asking a heterosexual couple when they are going to have children its like leave people alone to live their lives ...

Thanks for this post! I've never asked these questions but I'm still happy to know what to avoid!

People will be people. I agree with Peony. It's no different to asking heteros stupid questions. Singling out same sex makes it appear they are the only ones to have to deal with such crap. Not true!

When people ask me things like this I counter with asking about their sex lives. Usually starting with "so we've both established you think I'm not an equal human" to make them more uncomfortable. And as for the lesbian having kids, you don't need a friend. Test tube babies are a thing and so are sperm banks. If a single lady can get pregnant, so can a lesbian.

@k-dizzle, it definitely isn't a choice.

All of these questions make sense to ask!!!!

I can understand how the person being asked can be offended by these things but as humans we are curious. We are especially curious about things that we see as different or we simply don't understand. That curiosity comes out as questions. We can only hope that by asking questions and receiving answers we increase our understanding. And through understanding comes acceptance. I also think that our lack of understanding and ignorance brings fear and that is why things against the "norm" create such issues. Maybe you shouldn't take offence at the question but understand why it's being asked and take the opportunity to educate the person who asked. Remove the opportunity for something to be seen and be judged as abnormal.