You need to treat your man with respect, even when you're pissed at him. It's hard to do, but it's certainly possible if you know how to handle yourself. Here are a few words that you should never use when you're in the middle of a fight with your man:
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1. Fault
You don't want to place blame. Even if he's the only one who did anything wrong, you still don't want to treat him like he's some sort of criminal.
2. Goodbye
You shouldn't break up with him after one little fight. You shouldn't leave to stay the night at your ex's house, either. Think before you say your goodbyes.
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3. Idiot
You shouldn't resort to name calling, even if he's acting like a complete idiot. There are nicer ways for you to phrase things.
4. Wrong
Don't flat-out say that he's wrong, even if it's the truth. It'll just set him off. Instead, explain why he's wrong as calmly as you can.
5. (curses)
Even if you aren't cursing at him, you should try to avoid using curse words while you explain why you're angry. They'll make you sound much more intense than you want to sound.
6. Always/never
Don't say that he never does anything for you. "Never" is a strong word, and it'll be easy for him to argue against the accusation.
7. Hate
Don't tell him that you hate him. You know you don't mean it, but he might be fooled into believing it's the truth.
8. (ex's Name)
Unless you two are fighting about an ex, there's no reason for you to bring your exes up. If you say you wish your man were more like your ex, then you're asking for a breakup.
9. Whatever
If he tells you why he's upset with you, be respectful by listening to him. If you say, "whatever" and brush it off like it's no big deal, you're only going to upset him more.
10. Don’t Care
If your man is speaking, then you should care. His feelings should matter to you more than anything.
11. Mother
There's no reason to bring your parents or his parents into the fight. If you say something nasty about his family, he's never going to forget it.
12. Liar
No one likes to be called a liar. If you accuse him of cheating or lying, expect him to fly off the handle.
13. Chill
If you tell him to calm down, it's only going to make him angrier. It's ironic, but that phrase never helps in the middle of an argument.
14. Kill
Don't threaten to kill him or to kill yourself. There's no reason to bring violence into the equation.
15. I Don’t Know
If he asks you why you did something mean to him, don't tell him that you don't know why you did it. That's not an acceptable answer.
16. Divorce
Don't threaten him with a divorce or a breakup, just to get your way. You should play fair.
17. (nothing)
You don't want to stay silent during a fight. If you just let him yell at you, and don't try to come to a compromise with him, then your issues will never be resolved.
Unless you want to cause a breakup, you should watch the way you talk to your partner, even when you're pissed. What other words do you avoid using when you're fighting with your man?
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Amanda: He said disrespectful things about my Mom several times, and she didn't deserve that. Last week, my husband, told me " don't call my Father and tell him about this. " For the first time, I said, " Why? Your Father would probably egg you on. ", because his father cheated on his Mother.
Amanda: Thank you for this article!I avoid calling him an Adulterer.
Amanda: I hate cuss words, but I used a whole ton this week, after my husband told me about another woman being in his heart, I was crying to my husband about this, and my husband was giving the silent treatment so I used cuss words!
OhMeOhMy10: Always keep your composure & act like a lady... No matter what type of situation you are in!
Amanda: " You're not an idiot. You knew better and you hurt me. An idiot at least wouldn't intentionally commit Adultery and lie and condescend me and make fun of me, when I did ask if you were committing Adultery, then turns out, our entire Marriage you were infatuated and lusted after other women. "
Pleasingpersona: When two people fight, what reigns is anger. I can't do all these things when the other party is bringing up stuff that hurts my feelings. It's not me not to fire back.
Kira: Nah man, if you're pissed about something, don't worry about not "acting like a lady". Say what you mean, no matter what it is. Both people should be treated with respect, if respect is earned.
Amanda: My husband admitted his lies and I caught him in almost all of them. His lies were so obvious, and if he told me " I am a toaster " or " I am a household appliance " or " I am a Elephant. ". I was tired of him lying to me so I did finally call him a liar more than once last week, I don't remember calling him that before.
desilicious: It's smart though. This is not just advice for the women in the relationship. Both sides need to think about what you are saying. You can never ever take something you said back so be wise with your words! Everyone
Amanda: I agree.
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