Friends with benefits relationship deals are hard to keep. There are pros, there are cons and it can get messy and unsorted if you let it. Friends with benefits relationship options aren't always all that bad though. If you are considering a FWB deal, you might want to take a look at my pros and cons. That way, you'll know exactly what you are getting yourself into!
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1. Pro: They Know You
One of the biggest pros of a friends with benefits relationship is the fact that they know you. I am not talking about knowing the shallow you, but the real you. The real, deep, inside you. This can actually be a fantastic benefit because they know how you will react to things and what turns you on.
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A Friends with Benefits relationship can be a great way to explore physical intimacy without the commitment of a romantic relationship. It can be a great way to have fun and enjoy companionship without the pressure of a long-term commitment.
One of the biggest advantages of a Friends with Benefits relationship is the fact that you know your partner well. This can be a huge advantage because you are familiar with each other's likes and dislikes, and you can be comfortable enough to explore each other's boundaries. This can lead to more enjoyable and satisfying sexual experiences.
Another advantage of this type of relationship is that it can be quite flexible. You can make it as casual or as serious as you like, and you can decide when to meet and how often. This can be great for people who are busy or don't want to be tied down to a single relationship.
The lack of commitment can also be a major pro. You don't have to worry about making plans for the future or dealing with the emotional baggage that comes with a committed relationship. You can just enjoy each other's company without any expectations.
2. Pro: Nothing is Awkward
Another pro to this type of relationship is that nothing is awkward (until feelings start to become involved, which I will get to later). You are just hooking up with your BFF. You are hanging out and making out with your best friend. That's cool, right? They know you after all!
3. Pro: It Seems Natural
For some FWB relationships, it just seems natural. It seems almost like the next step in your relationship, especially if you have known each other a really long time and have always had this sexual tension floating in the air. It's weird to think of your BFF as a sex partner sometimes, but if you've always thought that, then it can just seem natural!
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The idea of a Friends with Benefits (FWB) relationship has become increasingly popular in recent years, especially among young adults. A FWB relationship is one in which two individuals engage in a physical and/or emotional relationship without any commitment or expectation of a long-term romantic relationship.
Proponents of FWB relationships argue that they can be a great way to explore physical intimacy while still maintaining a strong friendship. They also provide an opportunity to explore sexual chemistry without the pressures of a traditional relationship.
On the other hand, there are some potential drawbacks to having a FWB relationship. Many people find it difficult to remain “just friends” with someone they are sexually involved with. In addition, FWB relationships can be emotionally draining, as one partner may become attached while the other is not.
4. Pro: It's Just Sex
This can be a misconception after a while, that it is just sex and no feelings will come about, but in the beginning, it could be just sex. It could be just a hook up. It could be just sex between two consenting adults that happen to like each other. Think about it that way.
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5. Pro: Best of Both Worlds
Ah, the biggest pro of them all has to be that you are getting the best of both worlds! You get to have your best friend in the world and have sex with them too! What person wouldn't want that? Take a look at the cons though before you try this type of relationship.
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6. Con: Emotional Involvement
One of the biggest cons to a friends with benefits relationship is the fact that you can get emotional. Your emotions are hard to shut off, especially with your best friend, and once you start adding sex in, it can get messy. It's tough to keep up that 'it's just sex' mentality when you start to have feelings for the person that you are having sex with.
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While the initial perks of a friends with benefits relationship might be alluring, the emotional entanglement often sneaks up unexpectedly. Sex is an intimate act that naturally fosters closeness, which, in turn, can lead to one or both partners developing deeper romantic feelings. Moreover, jealousy and possessiveness can arise when one person sees the other engaging romantically or sexually with others, complicating what was meant to be a casual arrangement. Hence, laying clear boundaries and consistently communicating is paramount, though it's never a guarantee against the heart wanting more.
7. Con: Jealousy
Jealousy is something that happens naturally when you start to have feelings for your friend. It comes natural and you shouldn't beat yourself up over it, however, it is definitely something that can complicate things in the end. Trust me on this one, when jealousy comes into play, it's a con.
8. Con: Can Break up a Friendship
Let's say that you want to stop a FWB relationship and instead, go back to being friends. It can be hard after you've had sex with your friend to go back to just being friends. In fact, this con all has to do with breaking up your friendship. It can happen and you've got to know that before you start this type of relationship.
9. Con: Awkwardness Can Develop
Finally, the awkwardness can develop, once your feelings come into play. It might not start out awkward, but as soon as you start to fall for your BFF, it can become instantly awkward for both of you. Has this ever happened to you?
10. Con: Limits You from Seeking a Relationship
Finally, when you are getting satisfied, sexually, in a friends with benefits relationship, it can actually limit you from seeking a meaningful and romantic relationship. I know it's hard to believe, but if you've ever been in this type of relationship, you know what I mean.
So girls, these are all of the pros and cons to having a relationship that is sexual with your friends. I know that it's hard to be in a friends with benefits relationship, but it can work – if you let it. So, share your experiences below! Have you ever been in this type of relationship?
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Sherani: I'm having a friends with benefits relation at the moment. I really liked it in the beginning, but after month of two I started to get feelings for him. Now I'm completely in love with him, but I hide my feelings because I know for a face he doesn't see me the same way.
vamix: @Heather Jensen I guess I am involved in fwb relationship with a Taurus man who I adore deeply. Maybe me being naive and gullible, I feel like he has some type of emotion toward me. Yesterday, he clarified what we were. He swears we had the conversation where he lets me know all he wants to do is mess around and that I was okay with it. I do not recall at all. When I first met him, it seemed as if we we going to be a couple. He bought me things, brought me home around his family, and insisted I have his child when I got pregnant. I unfortunately had a miscarriage and we split from there until now, recently when I thought we were trying to rekindle what we had. But to him, it's a whole different deal. Sad.
Yivonne: My situation had it's moments of awkwardness. I had feelings for him and he had some for me, but we kept it simple and would go our own ways. I had to push my feelings aside because I fell for him and knew we weren't going to be together, but I still wanted him in my life so I continued the arrangement Til I could just do it and move on. We did this for about 10 years off and on. Eventually I found a boyfriend and stopped any contact physically with my FWB. We lost contact for about a year and then saw each other again and now we have been together for five years and expecting our second child. Weird how that worked out.
Isabella: I was in a FWB relationship once, after we stopped it was so weird and awkward , I did love it as well
Erika: I'm going through that awkward stage now. Started great seems like it will end bad :(
lucy: Love this article. I would def recommend people to try and really see if its worth it. I tried this for four years with my friend and we developed it into a relationship and after four years he broke my heart. I was left without a friend and boyfriend.
Leah: There's this guy that I kinda like, I'm not really in love with him, he's actually thbe one who's in love with me, I really enjoy having him around or being around him, I like his company, our conversation and how our friendship has escalated. The thing is, we almost made out this one time while we were chilling but I stalled it because of our friendship, I'm really sexuallt attracted to this guy to an extend that I'd day dream about us getting it on. Last time when we were together he confessed his true feelings for me again and I rejected him and said we'd rather keep it as friends, then he proposed this fwb agreement which I'm considering but I fear i might hurt him considering the fact that he's deeply in love with me. Should I accept his proposal or not?
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