A lot of teenagers don't understand why girls should wait to get a boyfriend. You get TV shows like 'Young and Married' nowadays which are just so ridiculous. Why are people in such a rush? The days of forced/planned marriages are over! The reasons why girls should wait to get a boyfriend are just obscure to some people, but to others, they're perfectly sensible.
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1. It's a Waste of Time
When you think about it, how many relationships that start in high school, middle school or even elementary school, actually last? I think this is a pretty legit reason why girls should wait to get a boyfriend. YOLO, right? So why waste your time on something that isn't going to last? Especially when you yourself know very well that it has no future. I've had friends like that.
2. It's a Waste of Money
If a relationship is hardly going to last, you're basically blowing money on stuff like gifts and dates. How many teenagers can actually say that they don't get most of their money from their parents? I mean it can be fun to spend money that isn't yours, but it doesn't feel good knowing you wasted your parents' hard earned money.
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3. Prioritize
There are so many other things to focus on rather than worrying all the time about whether you have a boyfriend or not. I'm pretty sure being a student means you should study. And that's what most girls are right now, students. I personally think that education is more important than relationship status. In some cases, having or obsessing over having a boyfriend will not affect your studies, but for most it will. Are you sure you're able to juggle family, friends, education and a boyfriend simultaneously right now?
4. Boys Are Less Mature than Girls
No offense to boys, but it's a fact. Boys tend to 'man up' later than girls. Even puberty strikes girls earlier. Dating a guy similar in age would be like dating a person much younger than yourself, and you want to be his girlfriend, not his mom, whereas dating a guy much older when you're still in like high school just seems wrong.
5. Immaturity
That is not an insult. It's just that there's so much more to find out about yourself and the whole world that's ahead of you. Are you sure you understand 'love' as well as you think you do? Are you really ready to take on the responsibility of loving someone? You're still young, there's plenty of time. You don't have to start searching for your soul mate now.
6. Emotional Burden
Relationships aren't just all about romance. They can be a real pain. Being in a relationship is like giving the other person the power to crush you whenever they want to. Heartbreaks hurt, or you may find yourselves being jealous or fighting with each other constantly. Is it worth going through all that for something that probably won't last?
7. Uncertainty
How do you know that what you're feeling is really 'love'? It might be that you're just feeling that way because you're at a phase where you're just really desperate for a boyfriend. It's not a sin, it happens, especially at that certain time of the month. Just learn how to identify it so you don't get stuck with someone you actually don't love.
Obviously, I don't believe in teenage relationships. Maybe it's the whole environment I grew up in where my friends had to date in discretion. But I believe that true love waits. If he's really the one for you, he'll respect your decision and be patient. What do you guys think?
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Erika: I'm 18 and I've never had a boyfriend, but I know that when I meet The One it'll be perfect and So worth it
Eloise: Wasn't my favorite article... I found a couple grammatical errors and found numerous points generalized and poorly stated. Not all guys aren't as mature as we are for one, and many of my friends' relationships have lasted much longer then adult relationships I know of. I think some of the points were legit, I just think they could have been worded better. Just my opinion...
Haley: When I was in high school, I didn't date anyone and I would completely agree with everything in this post back then. BUT after high school I realized that I should have been dating and having fun, there is a lot of experience that I missed out on. I lack experience in how you're supposed to show people you care about them, or how to settle arguments correctly, or how to be in a relationship in general. I think waiting to date someone until you're 17 or so is a good age, not too young and naive, but not too old to seem as though you're just a weirdo who's afraid of boys
Bloop: #4 is not a fact. It's sexist. This article is poorly written and a downer. No, I'm not in high school
Rose: I'm sorry all the guys just like me
Chelsea: Preach it honey
Lizzy: I met my husband in middle school and I never regret starting to date him in 7th grade. I believe these examples don't always apply.
Rhiannon: I could not agree more with what you re saying! I'm 14 and I see no point to dating as a teenager so I just don't do it, I'm just enjoying being young and free!
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