7 Reasons Why Girls Should Wait to Get a Boyfriend ...

7 Reasons Why Girls Should Wait to Get a Boyfriend ...
By Melanie • Nov 11, 2013

A lot of teenagers don't understand why girls should wait to get a boyfriend. You get TV shows like 'Young and Married' nowadays which are just so ridiculous. Why are people in such a rush? The days of forced/planned marriages are over! The reasons why girls should wait to get a boyfriend are just obscure to some people, but to others, they're perfectly sensible.

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1. It's a Waste of Time

When you think about it, how many relationships that start in high school, middle school or even elementary school, actually last? I think this is a pretty legit reason why girls should wait to get a boyfriend. YOLO, right? So why waste your time on something that isn't going to last? Especially when you yourself know very well that it has no future. I've had friends like that.

2. It's a Waste of Money

If a relationship is hardly going to last, you're basically blowing money on stuff like gifts and dates. How many teenagers can actually say that they don't get most of their money from their parents? I mean it can be fun to spend money that isn't yours, but it doesn't feel good knowing you wasted your parents' hard earned money.

3. Prioritize

There are so many other things to focus on rather than worrying all the time about whether you have a boyfriend or not. I'm pretty sure being a student means you should study. And that's what most girls are right now, students. I personally think that education is more important than relationship status. In some cases, having or obsessing over having a boyfriend will not affect your studies, but for most it will. Are you sure you're able to juggle family, friends, education and a boyfriend simultaneously right now?

4. Boys Are Less Mature than Girls

No offense to boys, but it's a fact. Boys tend to 'man up' later than girls. Even puberty strikes girls earlier. Dating a guy similar in age would be like dating a person much younger than yourself, and you want to be his girlfriend, not his mom, whereas dating a guy much older when you're still in like high school just seems wrong.

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5. Immaturity

That is not an insult. It's just that there's so much more to find out about yourself and the whole world that's ahead of you. Are you sure you understand 'love' as well as you think you do? Are you really ready to take on the responsibility of loving someone? You're still young, there's plenty of time. You don't have to start searching for your soul mate now.

6. Emotional Burden

Relationships aren't just all about romance. They can be a real pain. Being in a relationship is like giving the other person the power to crush you whenever they want to. Heartbreaks hurt, or you may find yourselves being jealous or fighting with each other constantly. Is it worth going through all that for something that probably won't last?

7. Uncertainty

How do you know that what you're feeling is really 'love'? It might be that you're just feeling that way because you're at a phase where you're just really desperate for a boyfriend. It's not a sin, it happens, especially at that certain time of the month. Just learn how to identify it so you don't get stuck with someone you actually don't love.

Obviously, I don't believe in teenage relationships. Maybe it's the whole environment I grew up in where my friends had to date in discretion. But I believe that true love waits. If he's really the one for you, he'll respect your decision and be patient. What do you guys think?

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  • aictopus

    2013-11-12T09:48:52.000Z

    I'll be turning 22 in March 2014. I've never had a boyfriend. One of the main reasons why that is, is due to the fact that almost all the guys I have ever met in my entire life have had their heads up their butts.
  • stephcampbell

    2013-11-12T04:57:13.000Z

    I disagree with this.. There's some good points.. But like some of the ppl said, they missed experiences.. And you learn lessons.. Just learn to prioritize and you'll be ok... And I've known people to last and get married. Not just in their 20s but my aunt and uncle started dating when they were 12... Now that's extreme. But it's how you grow. I've had bfs encourage me to do things I'm passionate about when I was in high school. It's not a waste of time or money! And usually girls date older sometimes too, so the whole boys are immature s pointless.. I've actually dated a lot that were younger cause they adore you more lol
  • Maddalena

    2013-11-12T07:42:05.000Z

    i think that this article is just no sense...
  • Jade

    2013-11-22T16:42:25.000Z

    this is so true. I tell my little sister to wait all the time (she's 11!). I went out on my first date at like 12, but i didn't think of it as a date until he tried to kiss me and i hit him on reflex. It didn't occur to me that people kissed on dates back then (theres that whole immaturity thing!). when i actually started becoming romantically interested in guys, i was like 14. he was my age, but already so much maturer then most guys. he'd give me flowers, hold doors open for me and recite poems to me. so, i asked him out and he said yes. he was so respectful, didn't expect a kiss, didn't expect anything from me at all. buuuuut, i couldn't handle my emotions AND my schoolwork, so i broke up with him. 2 years later, i felt that i was mature enough to handle a relationship, so we got back together. I feel like waiting was a whole lot better. i don't want to "date around" i want to experience a serious relationship… not a hook-up and a break-up all in the course of a month or two. if i had continued to date when i was a lot younger because every one else was dating, i'd probably end up like them (more then 6 people i went to school with now have kids and are single and we're only 19). I am in a serious relationship with the guy i met when I was 14 (but dated when i was 16/17-ish)
  • Elle

    2013-11-12T10:20:43.000Z

    For a young teenager relationships are a way of growing but yes perhaps a waste of time. But I started dating my boyfriend at 17 and I'll be turning 20 early next year (nearly 2 years we've been together) I believe older teens should be given credit for being in lasting mature adult relationships as there are many adults who can't seem to make relationships work. Maturity however is what matters though not the age. It wasn't frowned upon when our grandparents dated at 15/16 and married at a tender age of 18.
  • Lara

    2013-11-12T21:11:39.000Z

    I have boyfriend and I'm %100 sure it's love I feel, he's amazing so I think we'll work out, and he makes me happy - That's the main thing, right? :)
  • splashhhh

    2013-11-12T09:29:00.000Z

    Everybodys satuation is difrenent i think its erong to decide this matter the same for everyone
  • Erika

    2013-11-12T05:06:40.000Z

    I'm 18 and I've never had a boyfriend, but I know that when I meet The One it'll be perfect and So worth it
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