7 Reasons Why Long Distance Relationships Never Work out for New Couples ...

By Vladlena • Jan 26, 2014 MD

There are plenty of reasons why long distance relationships never work out for new couples. Recently I have witnessed the struggle of many long distance couples and I have come to a realization that almost every single one of them ended in a break up. As a new couple, you go through a period when you want to see each other every second and that is almost impossible when you are miles away. This and many other reasons is why long distance relationships never work out, especially for new couples.

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1. Jealousy

No matter what type of person you are, you are bound to experience some jealousy while your other half is miles away. I think that at some point during a long distance relationship paranoia gets the best of you and you begin to imagine things that might not even be happening. Your jealousy just increases with time as you begin to hear stories and see pictures on social media. This is just one of the reasons why long distance relationships never work out.

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2. Lack of Trust

Trust builds up over time, which is why it often lacks in newly blossomed relationships. When getting separated early on in the relationship, you might not have as much trust for the other person, which leads to even more paranoia. There is really no way to know whether your partner is cheating on you because things happen even when couples are in close proximity. The health of your relationship will definitely be put at risk with more distance between both of you.

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Long distance relationships can be difficult to sustain, especially for newly blossomed relationships. Without the physical connection, couples may find it hard to build trust in each other. Communication is key in any relationship, but it is even more important when in a long distance relationship. Without regular face-to-face interaction, it can be difficult to build the trust needed to make the relationship work.

Without the physical connection, couples may find it harder to connect emotionally. Without regular physical contact, it can be difficult to express love and affection. This can lead to feelings of insecurity and anxiety, as well as a lack of trust in the relationship.

Couples in a long distance relationship also face the challenge of not being able to spend quality time together. This can lead to feelings of loneliness and disconnection. Without regular physical contact, it can be difficult to maintain the spark and excitement in the relationship.

Long distance relationships also have a higher risk of infidelity. Without regular physical contact, partners may be tempted to look elsewhere for emotional or physical fulfillment. This can lead to feelings of betrayal and mistrust, which can be difficult to overcome.

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3. New People

It is only natural that you and your partner will meet new people and the more people you meet, the more likely you will find someone you are attracted to. Although it is not a guarantee, it is possible that you will meet someone else, who lives in your area and can give you what you need. A lack of quality time spent together, leads to more time spent with other people, which is not really something you want.

Treat distance like a shared system: fixed check-ins, planned visits, and clear expectations reduce avoidable friction. Use "Jealousy" as a starting habit and refine it as your relationship evolves. For practical ideas, use the long-term relationship generator to keep your plans fresh and intentional.

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4. Less Communication

The amount of communication you have with your partner during a long distance relationship is nothing compared to what you would have if you were close to each other. Communication over the phone or social media can only lead to miscommunications, which would increase the amount of fights and misunderstandings.

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Long distance relationships can be challenging for new couples, as they often lack the physical closeness and connection of a traditional relationship. One of the biggest challenges of a long distance relationship is communication. Couples in a long distance relationship often have less communication than couples in a traditional relationship. This can lead to feelings of loneliness, disconnection, and frustration.

Communication in a long distance relationship is often limited to phone calls, text messages, and social media. This type of communication can be difficult, as it can lead to misunderstandings and misinterpretations. Without the ability to talk face-to-face, couples may struggle to accurately convey their feelings and intentions, leading to arguments and hurt feelings.

In addition, couples in a long distance relationship may also struggle to find ways to spend quality time together. Without the ability to spend time together in person, couples may miss out on the opportunity to build a strong emotional connection. A lack of physical contact can also make it difficult to maintain the intimacy and passion in a relationship.

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5. Uncertain Future

It is scary to be in a relationship that has a hazy future. You don’t know if you will be apart forever and what the distance might do to your relationship. You are not around to get a firm hold on what is going on, so your sense of togetherness is no longer there. Many people often end long distance relationships because they can’t stand the pending status of the future of their relationship.

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Long distance relationships can be difficult for couples who are just starting out. Not only are they separated by distance, but they are also dealing with the uncertainty of the future of their relationship. Without being able to be around each other to get a firm grasp on how things are going, it can be difficult to stay connected and maintain the sense of togetherness that is so important in any relationship.

The distance can also be detrimental to the relationship, as it can be hard to stay in touch and make plans for the future. Without being able to see each other in person, it can be difficult to build trust and maintain the same level of intimacy as a couple who is able to be together more often.

The lack of physical contact can also be a challenge for couples in long distance relationships. Without being able to hug, kiss, and spend time together, it can be difficult to stay connected and keep the relationship strong. It is also difficult to keep the romance alive in a long distance relationship, as it can be hard to plan special dates and surprise each other with gifts.

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6. Getting Used to the Distance

Over time it is easy to get used to the distance. You get used to talking only a couple of days a week and you no longer feel the same attraction you used to have before. The whole point of a relationship is to love each other and be there for one another, but how is that possible when you barely see each other?

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7. Amount of Effort Needed

Long distance relationships are definitely harder to maintain. They require a lot of devotion and commitment from both sides. However putting your relationship first is hard to do when each person has his or her own responsibilities and goals. With so many other things going on, it is hard to truly give the relationship your all.

Although some relationships overcome distance, others quickly tumble down over time. The distance puts strain on the relationship that is often hard to manage. What are your thoughts on long distance relationships? Share in the comments!

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  • Shayla

    2014-01-27T16:06:09.000Z

    People make it work a lot. I met a guy that lived in Philly and I lived in Michigan. We were in an LDR for 2 years. Now we''re happily married.
  • Kelsey

    2014-01-27T09:00:37.000Z

    I am married to a man that I met long distance. Our relationship has always been amazing. "Never work out" could not be more wrong.
  • Sierra

    2014-01-27T04:44:57.000Z

    I've been with my boyfriend for going on four years. Nearly two years ago I left for college...so during the school year we are 2000 miles apart for 3 months at a time. If you want to be with someone, and you're sure of it...you make it work. No ifs ands or buts. Sure it's not easy, but as the quote goes "nothing worth having is".
  • Britney

    2014-02-03T18:01:45.528Z

    Adam and I hadn't known each other long we started talking as friends for a week or two and the third week rolled around he asked me to prom we had been dating a month before he graduated he was a senior i was a sophomore he moved to claremore that summer april 7th will be our 2 year anniversary(: we have good communication he drives down when he can and on spring break and stuff i drive down there when i can. we both make the effort and we both want each other. distances does get to us but we know when i graduate in 3 months i will be moving out and things will get a lot better (: gotta sacrifice things for who you love.
  • easmoot

    2014-01-27T04:10:27.000Z

    I think long distance relationships take more time and effort than any other relationship. You have to be there for the other person even though you aren't directly near them. I also think they can test how strong your bond is with that person. seeing someone everyday and talking to them can make a relationship seem easy, but being far away and consciously having to make time for someone can be extremely difficult. I think a long distance relationship will work if you want it to work. I think the relationships that crumble, crumble because someone didn't want things to work out. or things just fell apart on their own. but overall I think it depends on the couple
  • Melanie

    2014-01-27T06:12:56.000Z

    Distance is just one of many factors that might cause something not to work. All of these reasons you cited could happen to couples that see each other all the time. It really depends on the person. And tell me, what relationship these days doesn't have to endure some form of distance? As someone lucky enough to be a student at a university, I see couples separated for summer terms due to internships or jobs, and then again after graduation but they fight through it if it's worth it. That's what makes every relationship work, and yeah the distance can put a "so what?" cloud over what could have otherwise worked, but that's just another reason to keep trying. :/
  • Samantha

    2014-01-27T19:51:35.000Z

    My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 months now and ever since two weeks into our relationship we were long distance. We make it work really well. I go to school at Mizzou and he's back home in St. Louis. Even though it's not that far of a drive we still have our school and priorities to attend to, so we don't see each other a whole lot. We make it work really well!
  • kelly

    2014-01-27T04:26:31.000Z

    Or its to have someone fill the void. A texting buddy if you will. Little did I know he was recovering from a break up and needed someone... Anyone... Me, to fill his void. It was safe because I wasn't around. He didn't have to wine and dine me or spend money on me. He just needed someone to talk to and flirt with to boost his ego so he could feel validated. But when I moved home he said it wasoverwhelming for him to have me here..... We grew in a "phone" relationship. It was awkward being w/him in person.
  • Shey

    2014-01-27T06:40:13.000Z

    Ouch! Exactly what has happened to me and my ex :( we get used to the distance that we eventually grew apart. Indeed both should work hard for d relationship to last and mutually agreed timeline is very important.
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