7 Reasons Why a Long Distance Relationship Can Work ...

By Heather • Oct 15, 2012

Finding all of the top reasons why long distance relationships work can be hard, especially when a lot of people do not believe that a long distance relationship can work. If you’re in a relationship that just happens to be long distance, don’t worry, I believe in your relationship! That is why I came up with my top 7 reasons why long distance relationships work and why they make sense. So girls, you ready to see some of the reasons why long distance relationships work?

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1. The Relationship Stays Interesting

Truth be told, when you are in a long distance relationship, it stays interesting. There is always something to talk about, something to marvel at and something to bring up. This is absolutely one of the reasons why long distance relationships work and why they are great. How often do you talk to your boyfriend when you live with him? How often do you talk to your boyfriend if he lives in another state? Think about it!

2. You Still Have Your Freedom

One of the biggest reasons why long distance relationships work is because you still have your freedom, he still has his freedom. If he wants to go hang out with his friends, he can! If you want to hang out with your friends, you can! While relationships that are not long distance have a certain sense of freedom, when you are long distance, you don’t have to constantly include your boyfriend, which can be refreshing!

3. You Value Your Time with Him

What about the time that you do spend with your boyfriend? It’s time well-spent right? It’s time that you actually appreciate and that you value. This is absolutely one of the best reasons why long distance relationships work and why I think they are great. You don’t get sick of him because you get such little time with him!

Treat distance like a shared system: fixed check-ins, planned visits, and clear expectations reduce avoidable friction. Use "The Relationship Stays Interesting" as a starting habit and refine it as your relationship evolves. For practical ideas, use the long-term relationship generator to keep your plans fresh and intentional.

4. You Don't Take Him for Granted

Another great reason why long distance relationships work is because you don’t take anything that your boyfriend is saying for granted! You also don’t take him for granted, which you can often do when you are in the same state and not long distance. How often do you lean on your boyfriend for small little things? What if he wasn’t there to do those small things?

If you're looking to engage your partner in intriguing conversations, why not try some hypothetical questions for couples? These fun queries will not only keep the conversation lively but also stimulate deep thoughts and potentially reveal insights about each other's personality and thought processes.

5. The Emotional Support Becomes More Important

The thing about being in a long distance relationship is that both of you become more supportive. What that means is that you both lean on one another, emotionally and it’s great! Both of you depend on each other for things that you might not depend on each other for if you weren’t long distance.

6. You Communicate More

Remember up there when I said that you actually talk more? It’s a known fact that you communicate so much more when you are in a long distance relationship versus when you are in a relationship that is in the same state. The reason being is because you still want to feel that same connection. This is absolutely one of the reasons why long distance relationships work.

7. It Strengthens Your Relationship

Finally girls, the last reason why long distance relationships work is because it just plain strengthens the relationship completely and as a whole. It is something that can bring you so close together and can draw you closer as partners.

While I am not saying that long distance is the only way to go, it is a stepping stone. If your relationship can outlast a long distance relationship, you are going to make it! So girls, what other reasons why long distance relationships work can you think of? Do you have any other reasons why long distance relationships work to share?

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  • Chantelle

    2012-10-16T07:19:33.000Z

    I have been in a long distance relationship for 3 1/2 years! I know, shocking right!? We met and became best friends first, and after getting to know each other, we realized how interested we were in one another. Yes, at times it can be challenging to live far away, but every single reason that you mentioned on this page is TRUE! We get to see each other at least 4 times a year and we're hoping to move closer to one another next year which will be very different, but we're both looking forward to it =) To all the ladies who think long distance is impossible, it's not! It truly does strengthen your relationship and it is incredibly rewarding.
  • Tori

    2012-10-16T01:57:29.000Z

    I have been in a long distance relationship for over a year and half now. And let me tell its hard work, if you don't have time to commit almost every day talking to the same person it's not for you. On the up side every time he comes home, it's like having that first date all over again and there's so much love, not many people can say they have. I disagree with the it's never boring thing cause it can be boring honestly but if I sense that, I always start asking him random questions and learn new things about my boyfriend I never knew. Like I said its hard work, but if you can do it, the end result is always never less than amazing.
  • Ivana

    2012-10-16T15:41:56.000Z

    I have been in a relation for almost a year and he is on college for past 2 months and I'm home. I didn't know it was this much work and it's so hard. I'm not going to give up, but it's really hard. Don't know about everything you mention, but we communicate way lass than when he is home. I know the reasons, time difference, he has too much things on schedule, i do to, etc. I would live if you can do some post on how to improve communication in long distance relationship. Any advice is welcome. On the other side when I'm mad, I have time to chill and say it to him with calm voice (or message). Or I analyze problem and see that it'm my fault and that I've overreacted. Any way very nice post :)).
  • Chiara

    2012-11-14T11:55:22.000Z

    Oh these gave me so much courage to believe in what keeps my boyfriend and me together! I always felt bad about it when people told me it's not gonna work. But if there's a base of trust, it can work. I absolutely love all your posts Heather! Keep on sharing your wisdom, sometimes it really brightens my day :)
  • Neko

    2012-12-11T10:45:58.000Z

    Well.. I've dated my boyfriend for 1 year and 10 months now almost a year... 1 year we were together the 10 months LDR... The beginning of a few months was great.. Calling and texting... We were in a totally different country in the LDR.. But slowly it turned cold... Texting him but he rarely replies... Calling him and taking to him only takes average 5 minutes now... I donno wat to do to live up this relationship anymore... I do love him a lot... I don't like being apart but circumstances are forcing us to be apart...
  • John

    2012-10-18T16:38:15.000Z

    Girls. your welcome :) (via Twitter)
  • Tina

    2012-10-22T00:38:17.000Z

    7 Reasons Why a Long Distance Relationship Can Work ... : most likely :) (via Twitter)
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