While it might not seem like it right now, there are benefits of a broken heart. It's one of the most painful experiences, but in the end, you might think of it as a blessing. You'll be surprised how much stronger you are and how much you learn as a result. When you've had time to heal, it's much easier to see the benefits of a broken heart.
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1. You See How Loved You Really Are
It may not seem like one of the main benefits of a broken heart, but losing love helps open your eyes to how many others love you. Often times, we get so caught up in a relationship that we forget that love isn't just for your partner. After a break up, friends and family make their way to your side. Not only do you feel more loved than ever, but stronger bonds are created with those people.
2. You Learn How to Be Alone
After a long term relationship, you'll feel alone, but that's not a bad thing. At first, it'll feel horrible, but soon, you'll learn how to be alone without being lonely. Since you won't always have someone right by your side, it's beneficial to learn how to do things on your own again. It builds confidence and makes you feel more independent. Strangely enough, the experience will help make future relationships better.
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3. You Realize the Truth
I remember dealing with a broken heart and thinking I'd lost "the one." What I didn't see during the relationship was all the ways I was being mistreated. It wasn't until after that I realized the truth. I actually felt better and happier once the initial heartache subsided. Sometimes you need someone to break your heart before you realize they really weren't right for you.
4. You Learn to Love
With every heart break, you learn a little more about the mystery known as love. Even though the love might not have lasted, you learned more about your own feelings. The next time you start to fall in love, you'll be more open to the feeling and better understand how to express yourself. The pain actually leads to a more caring heart when you meet the right person. It's a hard lesson, but necessary to help us love as much as possible.
5. You Find out New Things about Yourself
After you stop crying and feeling depressed, you get up one day and the heartache isn't quite as bad. I've found that after every major breakup, I uncover something new about myself. Some of my greatest accomplishments have come after heartaches. We're forced to look at ourselves more deeply than ever and what we find is amazing. These new discoveries help create a stronger, more successful you.
6. You Discover What You Don't Want
Sometimes it's hard to know what you want until you experience what you don't want. Maybe he seemed like the perfect guy, but after the breakup, you look back and realize why it didn't work. Suddenly, you discover that many of the things you thought you wanted in a partner aren't what you really need. Every heartache helps you learn more about who your perfect partner is.
7. You Become Stronger
This is probably the most cliché on the list, but it is true. You'll feel weak at first, but over time, you become stronger. The loss forces you to face new challenges and hold your head up high, even when you don't really feel like it. Pushing through this hard time will make you feel stronger than ever before. As a result, other challenging times might not be as difficult later on.
8. You're Free for Someone else
Obviously, something wasn't right in the relationship. Though it might be hard to see it right now, the broken heart actually helps free you up for the right person. If you're stuck with someone that's not a good match for you, even if you love them, you could miss out on your soul mate. Remember, even though your heart aches now, the right person will come along to heal your wounds.
9. You Have New Experiences
Every time someone comes in or out of our lives, we're introduced to an entirely new set of experiences. Whether it's meeting new people, trying new hobbies or moving to a new area, a broken heart forces you to start new and try new things. This leads to great experiences and memories. Believe it or not, you'll feel glad your heart was broken. Otherwise, you'd never have experienced certain things.
No one wants to have their heart broken. I know I hate it, but I've become stronger and learned so much as a result. Heart break doesn't last forever, but the benefits do. What other benefits have you discovered after a broken heart?
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Leelee: It's only been a few days after he broke up with me. This entire site has helped already. My best friend's weds in is tomorrow and I'm going solo now. I've screenshoted all of these tips to reflect on to help me thru. But honestly, I'm just a mess.
Eillien: All so true. Thank you :)
Suzi: It is true time heals all wounds. You just don't think so when you're going through it. I also believe everything happens for a reason. With each heartache came something better.
chrise: you learn the signs you've ignored before you got to this point, so you're able to recognize them next time around.
Sally: Broke up just over a month ago , was really upset , now think oh well he did not deserve me after all 😊
Cecilia: I'm going through this right now. I just ended a relationship of a year and 7 months last week. We went through a lot together. He was the first person I ever was in a relationship with, to love me for who I was; (with him I found out what love felt like for the first time.) I lost my virginity to him. And over all we had amazing moments together. But in the end, it felt different. And we both had no time for each other in our lives. Plus I felt like I was wanting to see him more than he wanted to see me. Like it says in the article, this relationship didn't work out cause we weren't meant for each other.. In order to find our real soul mate. I know he's going to take a whole while to get over. Even with doing all this... He was my first love. And I'll always love him and he'll always be in my heart.
Meme77: I've had my heart broken before and it was the biggest blessing in disguised. I've experienced and meet so much people that I thought I would never come across or talked to. I'm happy that I've experienced love as well because it also teach you so much about yourself and it does get you closer to the person who is meant for you :)
Carol4619: This is very helpful especially for me. It has been 9 weeks today for my break up. Everyday is a challenge but reading this has made me realize there is hope. Thank you!
Melissa123: My boyfriend recently broke up with me after two years of dating. Like Cecilia said, he too was my first love. We shared everything together and I felt lost in a way because I had become so dependent on him. If I was sad, happy, mad, etc., I would go to him and all he would have to do is hug me and say everything was going to be okay. Day by day I realize that I have to be strong because so many people do love me and are there for me that I never realized because I was always so focused on him.
Julia: Whoever you are, thank you so much for writing this. I had my heart broken six months ago. This helps me a lot.
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