Relationships are always very complicated things; I think that is something that we can all agree on. There are the obvious considerations that you need to keep in mind when trying to navigate a partnership, but alongside the classic things, there are always unseen and unexpected things that pop up to make an impact too. Here are some examples of surprising factors that affect your relationship.
1. Strong Friendship Circle
The stronger your group of close friends is, the more likely you are to be able to enjoy a healthy relationship. You get the support that you need from your besties when you want to blow off steam about something small, and there isn’t a huge pressure for you are your partner to always be doing everything together if you both have solid groups of close pals to rely on from time to time. It’s all about having that perfect platonic/romantic balance.
2. Lingering Trauma
In an ideal world, each new relationship would start afresh, but the truth is that we all carry a little bit of baggage from past partners into our new partnerships. If you still haven’t achieved real closure with regards to your ex, then it isn’t going to be the best situation for your new boyfriend to have to come in to. It can put a big strain on things on both sides.
3. Specific Date Expectations
Something that can hugely affect relationships is if one or both of you have self-imposed hang-ups and expectations about certain milestone dates in your lives. For example, if you have had this old notion of having to be married with kids by age 30, then it either puts pressure on the speed of your current relationship or even forces you into a relationship of convenience just so you can meet those nonsense date targets. You shouldn’t be placing unnecessary pressure on yourself to meet false standards. Life happens at its own pace and there isn’t much use trying to artificially speed it up!