The Trick to Ending up in a Serious Relationship ...

By Holly

Serious relationships can be hard to find. If you've never been in one before, then there are a few things you should know, because they differ from the way that flings and casual hookups work. If you're finally ready for something "real," here's the trick to ending up in a serious relationship:

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Find Someone else Who Wants a Serious Relationship

It doesn't matter how badly you want a serious relationship, because if you only date guys who are terrified of commitment, things are always going to remain casual. That's why you need to search for a partner who is on the same page as you. If you're ready to commit, then you need a man who's also ready to commit. Otherwise, you're going to try to rush into things while your partner begs you to take it slow.

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Make Room in Your Schedule for Him

If you want things with your man to get serious, then you need to set aside enough time to spend with him. If you work the majority of the week and then turn down his invitations to hang out on weekends, you'll have a hard time getting to know each other. The more time you spend together, the stronger your bond will be. Even though your job and other friendships are important, you can't be in a serious relationship if you always push your man to the sidelines.

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It's crucial to balance your priorities effectively. Dedicate not just your free time but also quality moments that show him he's a significant part of your life. Consider planning spontaneous date nights, or joining him in activities he loves. Remember, it's about creating shared experiences that nurture your connection. Making him a priority means sometimes rearranging your plans to include him. Establishing that give-and-take early on conveys a strong message that you're ready for something meaningful and lasting.

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Look for the Right Type of Guy

If you're searching for something serious, then you have to keep your eyes open for "husband material." While a motorcycle riding, leather wearing badass without a job seems appealing, you shouldn't date him if you know he's a player. You need to find someone whom you can trust, someone whom you can imagine spending years dating.

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Finding "husband material" means aligning with a man who shares your values and goals, and who respects you as an individual. Look beyond superficial charm and disarming good looks for qualities that sustain a relationship: honesty, reliability, and a strong work ethic. It's important to go beyond the initial attraction and focus on character traits that build a solid foundation. Scan for signs of empathy, kindness, and emotional availability – these are the cornerstones of a partner who's ready to commit and grow with you.

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Act More Maturely

If you want to be in a serious relationship, then you should cut down on your bar-hopping and partying. Once you're in a serious relationship, your partner probably won't like the idea of you dancing with strangers at clubs, anyway. You should also try to find a good job, because once you and a man move in together, you're going to have to pay rent.

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Don't Have High (or Low) Expectations

Expectations are relationship killers. If your expectations for a man are too low, then you could end up with someone who will hurt you or cheat on you. However, if your expectations are too high, then you might never find someone you deem worthy of dating. You need to strike a realistic balance, so that you end up with someone you deserve.

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Expectations can be a tricky tightrope to walk. Instead of setting rigid standards, focus on core values and deal-breakers. Recognize the human imperfections that everyone, including you, brings to the table. Understand that a balance of give and take is crucial for a thriving relationship. By all means, hold on to your self-worth and expect respect, honesty, and kindness, but also offer the same. Being open-minded yet clear on what truly matters will pave the way for a relationship that's both rewarding and enduring.

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Make Sure Your Future Plans Match

When you're young, it doesn't matter if your partner has different religious or political beliefs. However, when you start looking for a serious relationship, those things will matter more. If he's a hardcore Catholic who wants to raise his kids that way, but you're an atheist who doesn't want to force religion onto children, you could have a problem. If he wants to live in Florida, but you hate hot weather, that could be another problem. Before things get too serious, you should have a chat to see if your plans match up well enough for you two to stay together.

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Put in More Effort

If you really love someone, you'll fight to stay with them. You won't end the relationship after one or two silly fights. You'll put in more effort than you did in your previous relationships, because you know that this relationship is worth preserving.

Serious relationships require you to act differently than flings do, so you'll have to change your way of dealing with your partner. Have you ever been in a serious relationship, or have they all been pretty casual?

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Where Thoughts and Opinions Converge

I was ten when a guy send me a love letter .. And I was like what is this? Some people claimed that I was their gf(which made me really angry) and I think the right age for a relationship is when u r old enough to think clearly and beside what is best for u.

My point was I never dated anyone till I knew I was the right age.

@zee don't be sad you have plenty of time. Enjoy the single life whilst u have it.

I am dating a guy who is 22 and I am his first gf. There is no shame in not having ur heart broken by someone or being dumped by someone becuz usually people in their teens break up with their gf and bf becuz they r not mature enough. (And people change when they grow up and u might not like the new personality of ur partner) Do u have to wait for the right guy

I never dated as a teenager - but now that I'm 24 and planning my wedding with my fiancé I think that I'm way more mature and know exactly what I want - and he does too :)

@Drama queen forever I'm sorry but I don't quite understand what you were trying to say :/. And @shaker_96 what is your religion?

@zee I'm with you on that one, but my religion is what restricts dating so that's why.

I just ended up a wonderful relationship with a guy who happen to be the best guy i ever known, just because he doesnt want something serious and i did!! So i collected all of my courage and broke up with him!!! It breaks my heart and i still miss everything about him! But i prefer to feel the pain now insted of bigger pain later. And if he was truly doesnt want to lose me he'll get me back in any way he could. Thanks alot for this.

@zee if I forget to write ur name it mean I should not get the thanks and appreciation 😔 okay.

@zee nothing

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