If you're struggling to deal with an unrequited crush then there are some ways to cope and although it might like it's the end of the world, it's not. When we fall for someone new, we start to fantasise about how perfect they are and how complete our lives would be if we could just get them to love us. But some things are just not meant to be and these ways to cope when a crush doesn't feel the same way are sure to help you put things into perspective.
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1. Acceptance
The first thing to do when you realise that your crush doesn't feel the same way is to accept it. I know it's hard and your mind might try all sorts of innovative ways to trick you into thinking that one day he or she might be yours. It's hard to accept that the perfect person you envisioned yourself with just doesn't feel the same way but it's also important to remember that everything happens for a reason and accept that they don't feel the same way about you. Just remember, it's nothing personal.
2. Support
Having a support network is super important in life. Friends and family have a great way of picking you up when you're down so be sure to surround yourself with your nearest and dearest. They can help you to put things into perspective and make you realise that the world isn't going to end because he or she doesn't feel the same way about you.
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3. Keep Busy
Whether you throw yourself into work, study or your hobbies, keeping busy is key. You will soon realise that you just don't have time to pine over that unrequited crush and before you know it, you'll be crushing on someone else! I'm not trivialising your feelings and it can be painful when you find that the special someone who you thought could have been the one just doesn't feel the same way. Keeping busy will help you take your mind off them.
4. Self-Esteem
Finding that someone you like doesn't feel the same way might damage your confidence and self-esteem but you mustn't let the situation crush your confidence. Remember, the reason you're not together is because you're not meant to be together and there is someone much better out there for you. Boost your self-esteem by socialising and finding a hobby which gives you a sense of achievement and purpose.
5. Avoidance Strategies
If your crush is your friend then it might be hard to avoid them but avoidance is important. This will allow you time to reprogram your thinking and shake off that crush for good. Ok, you don't want them out of your lives completely but you do need time to recalibrate and realise that there are many other super cool guys or gals out there who would love to be with you.
6. New Adventures
Now is the time to experience new adventures. Get out there and lick the lid of life! Ok, I'm using a weird yoghurt- inspired metaphor here but when you realise just how big the world is and how many amazing things there are out there for you to experience, you will quickly stop thinking of your crush. Try some new things that you haven't tried before. This will build your confidence and you never know who you're going to meet on your exciting adventures!
7. Look inside
Do you have a habit of choosing people who don't want you back? Do you go for a specific type? If this is a pattern of behaviour then it may be time to examine why this is happening and maybe speak to someone qualified about why you're caught in this perpetual trap of choosing the wrong person. They may be able to help you change your patterns of behavior so you can find someone who is perfectly suited to you.
These are just some of the ways to cope if your crush doesn't feel the same way. Can you think of any more ways?
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keira: #1 i understand what your saying but what if she used to like me what do i do then do i say that she will never like me again
Michelle: For the past 3 years I've been in love with this guy and it just hurts that I can't have any contact with him many more.
Abigail: sooo there was this guy and we connected great, but he's a couple years older so he cut it off for that reason, but he said he stilled liked me and so I thought we'd work through it as better friends or whatever and now he already has a girlfriend.
SugarPoww55: I need some advice- I've this guy just a couple of days ago that was my classmate from ages 6-9 and we really got along, but then I never saw him again. And now I've met him at my friends party (I'm 16 now) and he immediately recognized me and came to greet me. By my surprise, he hugged me, and I think it was a bit longer and tighter hug than it would be if he hugged me as a friend. Then I'd noticed that he kept looking into my direction and when he saw me looking at him he quickly looked away. Do you think he likes me? Or was he just happy to see me after so many years? I really don't know how to explain this to myself because I've never had a boyfriend before and am quite inexperienced. Thanks!
Slim: I can't seem to let my ex boyfriend go!!! I really need help I try to ignore him to keep my feelings out of this but it's sooo hard bc I'm in LUV with him to the point where I don't wanna see myself with out him!!! Please help!!
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