1. Question the Break-up

How did things really end? Don’t sugarcoat anything. If the relationship was no good, it was no good. Reentering it could spin your life into a bad cycle. You have to ask yourself if, is really worth it? If the answer is no, then you may want to reconsider going back to an ex.

2. Don’t Forget the Bad Times

Sometimes we are so blinded by the "let’s just get back together" syndrome that we forget what really happened. The fights and arguments matter. They happened, and you can’t magically erase them. Don’t be so rushed to go back. Time can help you evaluate the situation clearly. Just listen to your heart.

3. Focus on Building Yourself

You, as a woman, are a very strong and powerful person. You have the power to become an amazing human being. Do not tie your worth to someone. You are better than that. It is crucial to your well being that you begin to acknowledge yourself as someone as a whole. Take your time to heal completely.

4. Change Your Number

Out of sight, out of mind. If you cannot see his messages, you will not think of him as often. This is so effective because it shows your personal strength. You are stronger than you think. You can move forward with your life. You just have to take that leap of faith. Change your number, and you will change your life.

5. Are You Just Lonely?

Loneliness can make us crave people that we do not really need in our lives. It can make you reach out and pull them back in even when they are toxic to you. Instead you need you need to realize that you have options. Reconnect with your friends. Have a girls night (out or in, it doesn’t matter). Vamp up your social life with new people and social events. You will not feel lonely again.

6. Occupy Your Time with a New Hobby

What was that hobby that you’ve always wanted to try? Oh yeah… Go try it! You now have the perfect opportunity to get out into the world and really explore it for yourself. Find out what you like, and do it. There’s no time like the present. Your new life is out there just waiting for you to take it.

7. Enjoy Your Life

Whether you are single or with someone new, enjoy your life. You only have one. Why spend it chasing after someone else? Chase your dreams. Chase your hopes. Do what makes you feel alive. Do what makes you feel like the world is yours for the taking. Never, ever let the fear of not being stop you from trying to be happy again.

All in all, your life is your life. It is important to make sure that you do what is best for you. We all know that doesn’t always mean going back to your ex, but how do you feel?