When your crush rejects you or boyfriend dumps you, there are ways to make getting over him easier. The healing process takes time, but there are ways to speed it up a bit. You don’t have to sit around sulking forever. Here are some simple ways to make getting over him easier:
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1. Delete Photos
Get rid of any pictures you have of him. Take photographs off of your wall, change your profile picture, and delete the snapshots saved on your phone. If that feels too drastic for you, you can always email them to yourself and save them somewhere special. In the future, once you’ve moved on, you might want to look back at the fun times you had. But for now, if you’re not going to delete them, at least keep them somewhere you don’t visit often. One of the ways to make getting over him easier is by not seeing his face every time you turn on your phone.
2. Remove His Number
If he’s out of your life forever, why would you keep his number in your phone? You’re not going to use it, unless you drunk dial him one lonely night. It’s best to get rid of it, so that you’re never tempted to call. Of course, some exes remain friends. If you’re planning on keeping in touch with him, change his number from ‘baby’ to his name. You can also explain to him that you want some space, so hold off on your friendship until you’ve healed a bit.
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3. Don’t Relive Memories
Don’t sit up at night remembering all of the good times you’ve had. Don’t open up old messages and read them until your eyes fill with tears. The relationship wasn’t all good, or you wouldn’t have broken up. Stop seeing him with rose colored glasses. Remember that your relationship had good moments, but it also had some pretty bad ones.
4. Stay Away
You shouldn’t lock yourself away in your room, but don’t purposefully visit places you know he’d be. If he always gets lunch at the same place at the same time, try not to show up there. You don’t have to spend your life avoiding him, but do you really want to see him right after the breakup? For a few weeks, keep your distance if you can.
5. Write a Letter
People always talk about how important closure is. If you feel like you didn’t get to say some things to your ex, write him a letter. You’re never going to send it to him, so you don’t have to watch what you say. Once you write everything out, tear it to shreds. It’s a great calming mechanism.
6. Avoid Romance
Don’t watch romantic comedies about perfect relationships right after your relationship failed. If you want to forget about your sadness, try watching a buddy comedy or an action film. You’ll be entertained, but you won’t be reminded of your ex. It’s a simple solution, but it works.
7. Don’t Isolate
Alone time is good for a day or two, but don’t stay in your room for weeks without contact with the outside world. Your friends are meant to cheer you up. If you’re feeling down, call them up and go out to dinner. You don’t need a boyfriend when you have such great girl friends!
It’s never easy to move on after the man you adore leaves. Forgetting about him may feel like an impossible task, but you’ll be able to do it eventually. Are you currently trying to get over someone?
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Brittany: Struggling hopefully will get there
Sarah: Someone please help me!!! There's this guy but we aren't dating and I've now him for a little while and we use to talk like every day and now he doesn't seem to keen on talking to me but I don't know why, I'm not stalking him or anything haha but whenever I talk to him we have a fairly short convo then he just stops replying! What do I do?!?!? Oh and we go to different schools! :)
A: 😑 it doesn't help the missing part but it's a good way to start
Ms: thanks Dawna Mp
Aimee: This is really helpful. It's hard not to blame yourself when relationships don't work but you have to remember there is someone special waiting for you. Trust me it's a lot easier said than done. Whatever you do don't blame yourself. Use these tips I wish I had them when I had my heart break. Very good article!!!!
Tatiana: the 1st days the rest of the days.
Guadalupe: New year, New beginnings!
Ms: exactly what i need right now. it looks easy to do it but the fact is difficult. *sobbing
Erinerinerinerin: Wow, just in time..
Dawna: I know it's hard to get over an ex but as cliche as this may sound, you'll have to believe that time will heal your pain. I cried a lot for months because I couldn't believe that day did come and he wasn't going to be a part of my life no more . It ended in horrible terms. Months later he sent me a text saying he still "loved and missed me". I IGNORED it. My relationship with this guy was toxic and I was proud of myself for not texting him back. Situations with others may be different but you have to really come to realization of what is good for you. Just some tips for this tough period: workout, do your favorite hobbies, talk to your friends and family, go on a long vacation, make yourself busy, take more shifts at work etc. He's not the only fish in the sea so get yourself together and look forward to a better beginning! :-)
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