Although I'm now in a dream of a relationship, I've dealt with more than a few breakups in my time. Some of them were amicable and some of them were nightmares. They were awful, painful, and the heartbreak was seemingly endless. You know how that feels, right? Getting past a relationship once it has ended can be incredibly hard – but there are things you can do to make it go more smoothly. For instance, you can start by reading about some great ways to move past a breakup, right here.
1. Let's Not Be Friends
One way to move past a breakup, particularly when it's bad, is to just move on. Don't try any of that “let's still be friends” stuff. Sometimes, that's just not a good idea. You may eventually come to the point where you can go back, be friends, and not feel anything, but to start out with, you need to just keep away from your ex.
2. Stop Wallowing
It's okay to feel sad, to cry, to be upset about the ending of a relationship, but you cannot wallow in it. Don't allow yourself the luxury of thinking you have all this time to feel bad for yourself and about your breakup. Make yourself get up and do things; do whatever you can to have fun, even if you have to fake it at first. The longer you remain in bed, crying over what was, the easier it will be to keep doing it.
3. No Drunk Dialing
It's common to drunk dial once a relationship is over, but you really shouldn't. Even if you have to completely purge your ex's number from your phone, your computer, and whatever else, do it. The worst thing you can do after you've just broken up is engage in a drunk dial. Whether you slur about how much you still love your ex or decide to chronicle all of his or her faults, it's not going to lead to anything good.
4. Avoid Rebounds and One Night Stands
Staying away from rebound flings is an excellent way to move past a breakup. Some men and women think that the only way to get over a relationship is to have a fling or a one night stand, but that can leave you feel worse than you did before. You'll also be passing on your negative feelings to your poor, unsuspecting partner.
5. Refresh Your Digs
Get rid of the sheets the two of you slept on together. Change out your blankets. Rearrange the furniture in the living room. When you have a breakup, you need something new afterward, so you aren't constantly thinking of moments you had in that corner or on that chair. If the two of you frequently got frisky on the couch, for instance, move it to another corner of the room and get a cover for it.
6. Make Yourself Busy
Keeping busy may be the best way to get over a breakup. It honestly doesn't matter what you do, as long as it keeps you nice and distracted. You might start working like crazy, volunteering, cleaning out your living space – whatever, just keep doing what you're doing so you aren't completely focusing on the memories.
7. Get by with a Little Help from Your Friends
Last but most definitely not least, you need your friends after a breakup. Let your current friends help you, whether it's by letting you vent or keeping you distracted. You should also look for some new friends. Keep your family close, as well. When you're surrounded by that much love, you aren't going to miss what you've lost quite as much.
There are a number of ways to move past a breakup, but ultimately it comes down to how you feel. Everyone heals at their own pace, and that's okay. Even if it takes you longer to get over things, there are still ways to cope. What do you do to get over heartbreaking situations?
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