One of the most annoying things about human sexuality is that sometimes, our bodies and minds cannot tell when you are properly in love with someone, or whether you are simply in lust with them! Don’t get me wrong, there is a time and a place for both of these feelings, you don’t always want to jump into a relationship; sometimes you just want to have fun, but it can be helpful to know which road you are going down when it happens! Here are four ways to tell the difference between lust and love.
Connection is a big factor in distinguishing love from lust, in the sense of connection with this person to people in your social and family circles. For example, if all you want to do is spend alone time in the bedroom with the person, it is probably lust, but if you have a desire to introduce them to your friends and family and incorporate them into your wider life, then love might be on the cards.
2. Word Choice
There is something to be determined about the words that you choose to use when talking to friends about your new love interest. If you say I rather than we, then you haven’t approached a love stage yet, but when we starts to be the main choice of word when talking about your relationship, then you know that things have gone further than just physical lust.
3. Self Disclosure
When you are still feeling a pure lust, the main goal between the two of you is to be physically intimate as much as possible with no further digging being done, but when love starts to enter in to the equation, you will find that you are more inclined to open up emotionally as well as physically. You will be vulnerable and open with the person on a much deeper and more meaningful level.
When you are just lusting after someone and enjoying their sexual company, it isn’t likely that they are going to have any big impact or influence on your life outside of the bedroom. But if love starts to rear its head, then you will find that you think about this person when you are in the process of making life decisions, because you are envisioning a future with them in it.