7 Reasons You Shouldn't Push Your Partner to Get Married ...

By Alison

7 Reasons You Shouldn't Push Your Partner to Get Married ...

When one partner is keen to get married but the other isn't, it can create a difficult situation. The pro-marriage partner may think that all the other person needs is a little push, but this is not a good idea and may even be counter-productive. Here are some reasons you should never push your partner into getting married …

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Mutual Decision

Marriage should be a mutual decision, so don't let it become a goal to pursue at all costs. The cost could be more than you really want to pay. If your partner comes round to the idea of getting married, all well and good, but they need to do that in their own time, if it happens at all. Otherwise by pushing them to get married you are taking away their right to make their own choices and denying their voice.

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Refusal

Pushing your partner to get married can be risky. If you force the issue and keep on at them, you might not like their answer! As for issuing an ultimatum, forget it; the chances are very high that they will feel backed into a corner and refuse outright to even consider the idea of getting married. It could even end your relationship.

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Marriage should represent a mutual journey, not a battlefield. Communicate your desires and listen to theirs, fostering an environment for natural progression. Remember, lasting commitments are built on mutual respect and understanding, not coercion. If they’re not ready, respect their pace. Pushing too hard may lead to resentment or, worse, an unwillingness to work towards future shared goals. Keep the dialogue open without pressure; it may very well lead to the outcome you both desire when the timing is right.

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Marriage Isn't for Everyone

It's certainly difficult when two partners have very different feelings about marriage. If they're reluctant, you'll have to decide if you would rather stay with them in an unmarried relationship, or if marriage is too important to you. You're not likely to achieve the outcome you desire by being pushy on the subject.

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Risky

Even if your partner does reluctantly agree to get married, you're both taking a risk. They may always carry a feeling of resentment for being pushed into marriage, and you may come to feel that they aren't truly committed. The risk of divorce already exists, so there's no point increasing the odds.

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Different Values

Ultimately you may have values that are too different from your partner. If you want to get married for cultural or religious reasons, you may have to look for a partner who shares those values. Being in a relationship with someone who doesn't regard marriage with the same importance leaves you with a simple choice: would you rather be married to someone else, or is this person more important to you?

Famous Quotes

Happiness depends upon ourselves.

Aristotle
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Underselling Yourself

Insisting on marrying someone who isn't equally keen to marry you is selling yourself short. Don't you value yourself more highly than that? If you really love the meaning and commitment of marriage, then wait until you meet someone who shares that view. Or value what you do have with someone who loves you. But don't try to persuade them to get married if they're not keen.

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Matrimonial Obsession

Finally, consider if you're being a teeny bit obsessed with the idea of getting married. It hardly needs pointing out that marriage lasts a long time, whereas a wedding is just one day. But too many people do focus on the wedding, and pay less attention to what comes after. Do you want to marry your partner, or just get married?

Marriage is such a serious commitment that it should only be entered for the right reasons. And remember that it's not the only way a relationship is important. Love and commitment are the most essential values. Have you ever known a Bridezilla who's obsessed with getting married?

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Where Thoughts and Opinions Converge

And what about the women that already love their boyfriends for years and out of the sudden they decide to marry, but it takes them a couple of weeks to be pushing the boyfriend just to proposed; does these counts as being pushy or as doing the right thing?

Yeah we're on the same page Valentina, i think maybe he's just playing house or something and doesn't really want to follow through, what a shame :/

Aww wow @kissmebbylove - i've known my man for 6 years but i didn't give him the chance straight away... Thanks Valentina :)

Awe that's cute @Isabella Rossignuolo

Hm thanks :) yes he is my first love, i never dated before my 20s - he came along at the pefect time :)

** because they truly want to do it. whoops lol :)

Hahaha i died. Turkey :D

Valentina exactly, I know someone just like that atm but she likes this idea of having a baby to get him to propose - what do you think? I think that's just weird, even though it's been 5 years and she's in her 20s :/ If it were me I'd just wait for the right time..

Hm on a positive note, I've been with my man for about 4 years and in our first year together we had a chat about marriage and ever since we've been heading that way. He put his first payment on my engagement ring today. I had major butterflies as he did the transaction, I know we're meant to be :)

although us gurls love the idea of the man that we absolutely love proposing to us and being with us for the rest of our life, pushing them into marriage is not the answer. you don't want to live with the doubt that the only reason they proposed is because you pushed them into it. wait until they do it out of their heart and because they turkey want to do it. it'll make the moment a thousand times better. :)

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