Losing your virginity is a big deal, so it should be treated as such. You don't want to sleep with someone and then regret it a few days, or even years, later. It's best to wait until you're completely ready, so that you're comfortable with the situation. However, having sex isn't going to change you as a person. In fact, here are a few other things that won't change when you lose your virginity:
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1. Your Body
If you haven't already broken your hymen by playing sports, then your "cherry is going to pop" when you have sex for the first time. However, other than that, your body isn't going to change at all. Your vagina acts like a rubber band, so it isn't going to become loose after you have sex. Your body will look the same as it always did, so there's no reason to be afraid of "ruining" it.
2. Your Relationship Status
You should never sleep with someone in the hopes that they'll end up dating you after the fact. Unfortunately, some men are only interested in sex. While sleeping with a guy could potentially change your relationship, it probably won't. So don't assume that he'll suddenly love you if you take your clothes off for him. If he doesn't like you before you sleep together, he won't like you after you sleep together.
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3. Your Value
You might've been taught that pure women are more valuable than sexually active women. However, losing your virginity doesn't make you more or less attractive, and it certainly doesn't make you more or less valuable. You're still the same person, so your value hasn't gone up or down.
4. The Way Others View You
You're not going to be shunned by society after having sex. You're not going to become the most popular kid in school after having sex, either. After all, no one will even know that you're sexually active unless you or your partner tells them. That means you'll be viewed the same way as you always were.
5. Your Feelings
After you have sex with someone, your feelings for them probably won't change. If anything, they'll end up becoming more intense. So if you want to sleep with a guy in order to get over him, it's not a great idea. If you liked him before you had sex, you'll only end up liking him even more after you have sex.
6. Your Morals
As long as you're completely ready (and old enough) to deal with the repercussions of having sex, you shouldn't feel bad about losing your virginity. Being sexually active doesn't mean that you're immoral. Stealing, cheating, and using drugs are all worse crimes. If having mature, protected sex is the worst thing that you're doing, you can give yourself a pat on the back.
7. Your Personality
Having sex might boost your confidence, but it's not going to change you into an entirely different person. You're still you. So don't expect your life to change after sleeping with someone. For the most part, things will stay exactly the same as they always were.
If you're not 100% ready to have sex, then don't let anyone pressure you into doing it. But if you've found the right man for you and believe that you're mature enough to handle all of the things that sex entails, you shouldn't feel bad about losing your virginity. What do you think is the most ridiculous lie that women are told about losing their virginity?
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Sara: I am still a virgin because I do want it to be with the person I love. I would rather wait then let some jerk hurt me. But it is a very personal decision for every woman.
Alyx: Also that you won't get "loose" the vagina opens during arousal, and tightens back to normal when done. So all the boys saying "she's loose" are incredibly uneducated and don't know how to arouse a girl. The more turned on the more your vagina stretches. So if you're not "loose" youre not aroused enough.
alka: @Sara, that isnt the point. The point is people have the free will to do as they please so if they arent harming anyone then it shouldnt matter. I know people who use drugs recreationally and are great people. Just cause someone does LSD or coke for a night doesnt make it a crime. At the end of the day they are choosing to do so.
Isabella: I've only slept with one guy in my life, and he's my fiancé now and we've known each other for 6 years now. In relation to faith and sex before marriage, I admire and respect that cause it's only the minority, so good on you to that percentage - everyone does it their own way :)
Devanshi: Double standards!! But there are these ill people who still believe as if virginity defines purity of a woman and such nonsensical things
alka: @JP that is your opinion. I dont agree with it. Also I dont follow a faith.
Shilan92: *Culture
JP: Some of these comments wreak of relativism. Ditto with Sara's comments on drug use . . . Using drugs doesn't mean one is a bad person, but it does indicate a weakness in character and self discipline; An indicator of the decay we are currently experiencing in our society. As for #6, being sexually active before marriage IS immoral for all Christians, Jews and Muslims. For those who do not follow a particular faith, data shows that couples who do wait until marriage experience longer and healthier relationships.
Sara: @Alka: it's obvious that you know very little about drug addiction! With the exception of pot most drug use ends up a disaster both to the person using and the people that love them. I have lost several family members to death, including my mom and friends as well who were all wonderful, loving people before they started using. Drugs will ruin your life in the long run, especially if you think you're immune to them.
alka: Using drugs shouldnt be considered a "crime" as long as you dont hurt anyone. It is a personal decision one makes. Really think before you write.
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