Falling in love is never so intense as when it happens for the very first time. It's a wonderful and memorable experience that we never forget. This is what we all go through when we fall in love for the first time …
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1. We Become Totally Obsessed with That Person
When we fall in love for the first time, we become totally obsessed with that person. They're all we think about, and we want to spend all our time with them. It's such an intense experience and takes over our lives. We want to know everything about them and when we're not with them we're messaging them or looking at their photo.
2. Feeling That We'll Never Fall in Love Again
You also think that this is it, and you'll never fall out of love with them or in love with someone else. How can this ever happen again? Maybe you won't fall in love the same way again, but it will happen. So don't worry that you'll never find love again if you split with your first love - you will!
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3. We're Convinced That We Can't Live without Them
First love generally happens when we're quite young and haven't yet learned that love is a bonus, not an absolute necessity. Later on, you realize that you can be happy on your own, and that makes you a better partner when you do find someone. But that first love experience leaves you convinced that you can't live without them and you desperately need to be with them.
4. The Pain when It Goes Wrong
It's painful when any relationship goes wrong, but there's something especially wounding about the end of a first love. It's the first time you've experienced the rush of falling in love, and so it hits you particularly hard when you lose that love. It's tough, but you will fall in love again and be happy, even though it feels as though you'll never be happy again.
5. It's with Someone Unsuitable
It's quite common for your first love to be someone who your family and friends might consider unsuitable. Think of the classic scenario of falling in love with a bad boy! Perhaps their appeal is because you know that people wouldn't approve; it's the draw of the forbidden.
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Although it is common for first loves to be someone who is seen as unsuitable by family and friends, it is important to remember that this is not always the case. It is possible to find someone who is both suitable and deeply loved. It is also important to remember that first loves can be fleeting, and it is important to be aware of this before getting too attached. Additionally, it is important to remember that the "forbidden" appeal of a bad boy can be attractive, but it is important to consider the consequences of such a relationship before getting too involved.
6. You're Taken by Surprise
First love can also catch you by surprise. You might not even be looking for a partner, but then you meet someone and boom! Your first love might also be someone you'd never thought you'd fall in love with, such as a guy you've been friends with for ages.
7. You Never Forget Them
None of us ever forget our first love, and there's often a lot of regrets that we lost them. But perhaps we wouldn't have been so keen on them if we'd stayed together; with time, you start to become aware of your partner's less appealing traits! There's also the fact that the passage of time makes us remember only the good things so that we have an image of our first love that isn't quite accurate.
It's an amazing experience falling in love for the first time, and really hurts when we lose that love. But fear not - there is plenty more love and happiness in your future! If you haven't yet fallen in love, what would you like your partner to be like?
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SarahB: My first love is my current boyfriend whom I've been with for 5 years now, and even though we are still crazy about each other after all these years.. My worst fear is if it doesn't work out that I will never find anyone as amazing as him. Some people are lucky to find one true love that actually is forever:)
Monika: All this is sooo true!!!!!!! And I understand you @Akki Crawson I'm still feeling a little like towards my ex and it has been exactly four months too since we break up
Kiara: This is so true! I can't forget my boyfriend with whom I was together ft one year and we de break up 6 months ago.. I still love him like crazy 😔
kat: I fell in love with my first boyfriend when I was 13. We were together for over a year and now he has someone else. Although we ended the relationship on bad terms we became friends and it's better that way. I still think about us and if I'd done this would we still be together. It's nuts lol. I still love him and he loves me too...although he's with someone else. He told me. I enjoyed the good times we had and hope to heal soon.
Slsmith: I think if are able to experience love in this lifetime we are truly blessed. Some people are destined maybe for two or three loves, some couples are maybe destined to love each other in another lifetime. We will never forget the people we love who we let see our souls, everything has a reason and a purpose.
Hol: I first fell in love when I was 13, things ended so badly, he broke my heart. But I still love him and he loves me, I don't know how to move on. We have always been close, but occasionally we become closer again but it never works out, but it's always on his terms. I don't know what to do.
Jennifer: I'm 39 married for 20 years with 5 kids and I still can't ever forget my first love when I was 18-19 it ended poorly so maybe that's why
Andrea: I fell in love for the first time maybe 3 month ago, like you wrote, with someone, i never thought i would. But it was one of the happiest moment of my life, when he told me tree weeks ago, he's feeling the same way as i do.
peony: One and six is so familiar.
Akki: I don't know. All the things seems true but I don't wish to move on. All the memories, everything. It has been around 4 months since we broke up but he is such an important person. I just don't wish to move on. So even if they all are true, I'll consider them to be fake. I know it's an immature behavior but still.
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