The dating world is constantly evolving-sometimes not always for the best. It was one thing to get stood up or have a guy not call you back, but ghosting is a whole new kind of ugly! Ghosting is the intentional ignoring of phone calls or texts (usually pretty obviously too). And while it may seem mean, there are certain circumstances and times when it's ok to ghost him, without feeling guilty.
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1. When He's Stood You up
Yes, sometimes things happen. You may have dating circumstances where you can't always make it either. But to have him blatantly stand you up, or worse, be a repeat offender, then ghosting him is totally okay and 100% necessary! After all, you don't want to give third and fourth (or more) chances only to be let down each and every time.
2. When You're Uncomfortable with Him
This one should go without saying, but some of us ladies have big hearts and can't help but feel bad being mean. However, if he ever says things that make you feel icky all over, you need to ghost him ASAP. Whether you catch him in a pretty important lie, or he's just giving you a bad gut feeling, don't hesitate to hit ignore or even block him before things get out of hand.
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Ghosting someone is not the same as breaking up with them, and it's important to recognize the difference. When ghosting someone, you are cutting off all communication without giving them a chance to explain themselves or apologize. It's a way of avoiding confrontation and can be a great way to protect yourself from a potentially dangerous situation.
Ghosting someone is not the same as being rude or mean. It's simply a way of protecting yourself from someone who is not treating you with respect. If you feel uncomfortable with a guy, it's important to trust your gut and ghost him immediately. Don't feel guilty for not wanting to explain yourself or give him the chance to explain himself. You are protecting yourself and that's okay.
Ghosting someone can also be an effective way of dealing with someone who is not taking your feelings into consideration. If a guy is not respecting your boundaries or your feelings, it's okay to ghost him. You don't owe him an explanation and it's perfectly acceptable to end the conversation without further explanation.
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3. When the First Date Sucked
It's one thing to have an awkward first date, it's a completely different story when the first date is a date from hell! Inappropriate sexual advances, horrible and unfit able conversations, whatever the reasoning, ghosting him because of a bad beyond belief first date is perfectly acceptable.
4. When He's Leading You on
Oh the age old story: boy and girl meet, boy leads girl on, girl ends up heartbroken. Instead of ending up heartbroken, why don't you initially ghost the guy who's giving mixed signals? This saves you from heartache and wasted time and will hopefully teach him a lesson about how he treats girls. And a bonus-you'll feel pretty BA about it.
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Sometimes guys think they can string you along with the old 'I'm not sure what I want' line. But girl, you deserve clarity, not confusion. If he's blowing hot and cold, save yourself the drama and slide that man into the ghost zone. Trust me, it's not about playing games; it's about protecting your energy. You've got better things to do than to wait around for someone who's clearly not sure about you. Go ahead and leave him on read. It’s your time to shine without the shadow of uncertainty looming over you.
5. When He's a Stage 5 Clinger
Eek! Makes me shudder just thinking about the clingy guy! I've been there; he treats you like his girlfriend way too soon, he obsessively texts and calls you, he shows up where he's not invited; those just name a few of the stage 5 clinger quotes and you DEFINITELY should feel no guilt about ghosting this type of man. You don't need that in your life, I promise.
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Ghosting is a term used to describe the act of suddenly ceasing all communication with someone the person is dating. It’s a way of ending a relationship without having a formal discussion or confrontation.
When it comes to ghosting, there are times when it's perfectly acceptable and even necessary. One of those times is when you're dealing with a Stage 5 Clinger. This type of guy is overly clingy and possessive, and he will often treat you like his girlfriend way too soon. He might obsessively text and call you, and he might even show up at places where he's not invited.
If you're dealing with a Stage 5 Clinger, it's important to remember that you don't need to feel guilty about ghosting him. It's a perfectly valid option when dealing with someone who is overly possessive and clingy. It's important to protect your own mental health and well-being, and ghosting can help you do that.
6. When Your Life Isn't Fit for a Boyfriend
There's no ultimate law that says you can't date when your life has hit a rough patch, but sometimes the guy you're involved with doesn't understand or isn't who you need at the time. That's okay! But in that case, you should ghost him. If life is just too much to bear at the time, don't try to distract yourself with a man you can't devote yourself to.
7. When You Want Something else
Doesn't it suck when you meet someone and you think it's great then suddenly it's not? Like you want a relationship and he doesn't. Or He's wants a relationship and you just want casual. If you don't see a future and you can't bring yourself to tell him because you don't want false hope, go ahead and switch your invisible shield on because it's probably best to go ghost mode.
8. When You Haven't Actually Met
If the guy is just someone you've started talking to off a dating site, don't feel guilty when you decide it's not there and you want to cut things off, ghosting him is totally acceptable behavior. After all, you don't have any actual ties to each other anyways...
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The digital age has transformed the way we initiate relationships, but it's crucial to remember your emotional well-being takes precedence. If you find that the conversation has fizzled out or you're just not clicking as you hoped, moving on is a form of self-care. You owe it to yourself to search for a connection that feels right. Bear in mind, clear communication is often the best route, but in the whirlwind world of online dating, preserving your inner peace is paramount when a match doesn't ignite the spark you seek.
9. If You Don't Care about Closure
Sometimes your heart and mind aren't in it-that's okay! If you don't need a clean break to move on, then by all means go ahead and ghost girl! More than likely he won't push too hard so he'll move on quickly as well. Just be sure the decision you're making isn't one you're going to second guess or regret later on in life.
What reasons do you think ghosting is okay? Have you ever ghosted someone and felt bad? Let us know in the comments!
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Brwneyez: I ghosted a guy- he was smart handsome & educated. He was complete A$$ hole. I deleted his number and just cut him off. Sometimes the package looks good and you open it up and it's not what you thought it would be🙄😌
DeeG: I recently ghosted a guy I was seeing for over two years. he would literally run to avoid any type of serious conversations. He wasn't giving me what I needed/wanted, he was lying to me for no reason, keeping things from me and at times, going days without communication. I knew that if I tried to talk to him to tell him my feelings he would bolt. So one day, he wanted to come over for sex and I just never responded again. I feel bad and wish I could have talked to him but he had already shown me that it wouldn't happen and I was tired of holding my feelings in.
Anna-Marie: That person.
jonirae: 7 and 9 are kind of shitty-- if the guy is legitimately a creep and it's only been a date or two, fine, walk away guilt free... but if you've actually had a little time together and he thinks there's something there that isn't, you tell him, not disappear.
Anna-Marie: I've never ghosted anyone. I have been ghosted before and it's not the best feeling in the world. Sure, it's okay to ghost someone on a dating website when you haven't even met the person. But if you're dating you need to buck up and break it off with
jonirae: especially if it's one of the reasons where they talk about something being not right in your life for a relationship... i totally get that, but you don't put that on him to wonder what happened! it's mean, and you'd be pissed if it happened to you!
Anna-Marie: I need closure to help me move on from people, and if you ghost them you don't get that.
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