When men are irritated, they are notorious for calling the women in their life psycho, so it's important to avoid being a crazy girlfriend. Understanding the ways to avoid this will help you rid yourself of the habit. Out of pure annoyance, my boyfriend has called me crazy numerous times. After finally mastering and understanding the subject, I’ve naturally begun to avoid being a crazy girlfriend as if it were a routine.
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1. Have Your Own Life
I understand the desire to spend every waking moment with your boyfriend, but to avoid being a crazy girlfriend, you must have your own interests, hobbies, and commitments. Men are attracted to independent women because subconsciously they are hard to get. If you act as if your man is the center of your world, he, like a dog, will smell your desperation and fear of losing him. I cannot stress enough how important it is to maintain your attendance in yoga class, continue reading your favorite novels, and spend time with people other than him. This will force him to continue to chase you. Men only feel comfortable referring to a woman as "crazy" if her happiness relies entirely on their relationship and nothing else.
2. Encourage Him to Have a Life
Not all men, but most men, seem to have a fear of being tied down. They tend to view relationships as a robbery of freedom and invasion of space. It may be disappointing to hear that your boyfriend is going to ‘boys night’ tonight, has every intention of getting plastered, and will be having a damn good time without you. Relax – it's normal for a guy to want some time every once in a while to spend alone, with his family, or with his buddies. The best response is to wish him a fun time, and if he’s on the fence about it, encourage him to go! He will appreciate your trust in him and will be impressed that you are unafraid of spending a night without him.
Frequently asked questions
Hey, we all have our moments, right? But if you're feeling super insecure, overly jealous, or constantly needing to check up on him, those might be signs. Trust your gut and talk to your friends for an outside perspective.
Oh, totally relate! It's often about underlying insecurities or past experiences popping up. You're not alone, and acknowledging these feelings is the first step in handling them better.
Deep breaths, girl! Try to give yourself a moment to think before you react. Sometimes writing down your feelings or talking it over with a friend can really help too.
Trust is huge, right? Open communication is key. Share your insecurities with him and work on building trust together. Small steps can make a big difference.
Ugh, jealousy is tough! Remind yourself of your strengths and what he loves about you. Focus on building your own confidence and remember, a little trust goes a long way.
3. Cool off
If your boyfriend has upset you, take a moment to cool down before exploding. Many people have difficulty controlling their anger, which is why self-control is such a remarkably respected quality. Whether the medium is texting, phone, or in person, give yourself at least five minutes to simmer down before reacting to whatever was said or done. This will prevent you from saying something preposterous that you will later regret. After years of experience in this category, I’ve discovered you never regret the (bitchy) text you never sent!
4. When He Doesn’t Respond…
Avoid jumping to conclusions… like when he doesn’t text back, he must be ignoring you or be with other women. Your boyfriend has a life, and as his girlfriend, you must let him live it! He most likely has a reason for being unable to respond to you, but he doesn’t owe you an explanation unless you were contacting him in an emergency. If your boyfriend is ignoring you, texting/calling him 15 more times is not going to help the situation. In fact, he will be turned off by your neediness and cue the "crazy" terminology. "Double texting" isn’t as horrifyingly repulsive as people make it out to be, but I suggest you avoid bombarding him with dozens of texts in one hour.
5. Never Accuse
You may have heard from a friend that your boyfriend was flirting with a girl at the gym, or you’re suspicious because he "fell asleep early" last night and didn’t call you back. Instead of accusing him of infidelity or other misbehavior, simply ask him. No one likes being rashly accused of something regardless of whether they’re guilty of the crime or not. If you calmly ask him, he will be more inclined to tell the truth and appreciative that you didn’t freak out in a situation that other women would have. Avoiding making assumptions and accusations gets you far, not just in a relationship, but also as a person!
6. Don’t Fret about the Future
I understand the eminent longing women have for a promising rock on their finger symbolizing a man’s eternal love for them. Most girls, myself included, begin fantasizing about love at an unfathomably young age. There comes a point when your peers are getting engaged, and you may feel that your relationship is ready for the next step. Pressuring a man about the future (even mentioning it) is not a wise choice. Men tend to be anxious regarding discussion of future plans and expectations, so enjoy the present time you have with him! He will let you know when he is ready.
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Soaking up each day and cherishing the little things can actually strengthen your bond with your beau. Worry not about the ticking clock or societal norms. It's the spontaneous laughs, impromptu dates, and morning cuddles that truly cement your connection. Pushing him towards an altar before he’s ready might push him away instead. Trust that your relationship is blooming at its own pace. Just like a fine wine, love needs time to mature. It's about the journey together, not the destination. So, take a deep breath, relax, and let your love story unfold naturally.
7. Stick to Your Guns
Crazy girlfriends can be indecisive in relationships, which is an absolute turn off to men. Before you say things like, "Never talk to me again," or "I’m done with you," make sure you mean it. If you’re constantly breaking up with him then returning not long later, you will appear weak and insecure. He will gradually begin to take you less and less seriously, and the fear of losing you will shrink until it no longer exists. Make sure you demonstrate strength with the decisions you make by following through with them. In turn, your boyfriend will respect you and realize you are impeccably sane.
When he agreed to be your boyfriend, he made a commitment to you and only you, so relax and enjoy it! In any situation, it’s best to remain calm and trust him. Has your boyfriend ever referred you to as crazy? Do you have any tips to share with us?
Comments
Jay: I was the crazy girlfriend in so many past relationships, but in my current one I'm working really hard to rein it in, trust me it's hard, but it's working, even thinking things through alone about what has upset me helps a lot, before I would fly off the handles & send a nasty text or call him straight up if I saw something on social media or heard something I wasn't happy about. Then usually 5 minutes after I'd regret it. Controlling your thoughts, your heart race, deep breathing & going for a walk helps a lot, then if you still have questions, arrange to meet him. Don't do it over the phone! Hope this helps. x
eshazafar: i want to give him space but i cant i have nothing to do he is very patient and nice but doesnt tell his feelings and i want to hear :(
Angel: Yea completly agreed... I wl save a relationship... Just trust him he will always b urs!!!
Angievm: Amen Vedika!.. But don't let them call you crazy !.. They just say it as disrespect to what you feel
Jaimelyn: I'm not unnecessarily crazy but my boyfriend only called me crazy when I was joking about waxing off his chest hairs😂😂 #Ty
Ariadna: I was becoming that "crazy" girlfriend for a second, thank you for this, really helped me realize a lot about myself, and I've been doing wrong.
Cee: I was like this with my previous relationships but with this one I trust him! You stop becoming the cray cray girlfriend when you both have trust and a foundation in the relationship. When you know how to love yourself too and mature more, the craziness seems to fade and you're fine with him being out and not being on the phone 247 because you have your life to live too!!
Camille: Ha I am horrible about #4! Usually only when I haven't heard from him all day. I try not to get upset when he doesn't text me back but we are long distance and all we have is the phone/texts/FaceTime and sometimes not getting a response gets the better of me. Plus, lots of msgs usually will get a response so my bad behavior gets rewarded ;) LD forces us to have our own lives, the trick for us is to include the other in that.
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