Relationship break conversations come up in many relationships, even when the two of you really love each other. There are many issues than can lead to a relationship break, and it's important to realize that sometimes, a break is a good idea. It doesn't mean that you'll actually break up. In fact, a break can end up strengthening your relationship – it all depends on what you do when you take a break. By reading up on the benefits of a relationship break, you can see why it might be a healthy option for you.
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1. Getting Space
One of the most common benefits of a relationship break is getting the space you need. Everyone needs space. If you're not used to being in a relationship or if your partner is very attentive and you're not accustomed to that, you can get antsy. You might just need some space to yourself.
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Taking a pause also allows for personal reflection away from the constant interaction with your significant other, giving you the necessary breathing room to evaluate your feelings and the direction of the relationship. The distance can shine a light on what genuinely matters to you, and at times, it may even rekindle the appreciation and love that got overshadowed by routine or conflict. It's like stepping back to view a painting from a new perspective — suddenly you see colors and shapes you didn't notice when you were standing too close.
2. Finding Yourself
When you tell your partner you need a break, his or her first reaction may be to think that you want to see other people; if your partner comes to you, then you might think that as well. However, that's rarely the case. You might just need to find yourself, to reconnect with who you are as an individual rather than as part of a couple.
3. Feeling Calmer
Relationships can be tumultuous and passionate. While passion is essential, it can wear you out. A break to calm down, get yourself collected, and chill out can keep things from burning too brightly. This is one of those occasions when a relationship break is really helpful.
4. Learning if You're Compatible
Sad to say, if you doubt that you and your partner are really compatible with each other, it might be time for a break. Time apart can give you time to think about all the things you have in common, or whether or not this is a situation where opposites attract.
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A relationship break can be a beneficial tool for couples who are struggling with their relationship. Whether the break is a few days or a few weeks, it can help you gain clarity and perspective on the relationship.
One of the biggest benefits of a relationship break is that it allows you to step away from the relationship and gain insight into what is going on. This can be especially helpful if you are feeling overwhelmed or uncertain about the relationship. Taking a break can help you to evaluate your feelings and determine if the relationship is worth continuing.
During a relationship break, it can also be beneficial to take the time to reflect on the things that you and your partner have in common. This can help you to identify what you both value in the relationship, as well as what is causing tension or dissatisfaction. Taking this time to focus on the positive aspects of the relationship can help you to strengthen your bond.
In addition, a relationship break can also give you the opportunity to assess how compatible you and your partner are. It can be helpful to take some time to think about whether you are truly compatible with each other or if your differences are causing tension. If it turns out that you are incompatible, it may be best to end the relationship.
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5. Deciding What You Want
Sometimes, two people want different things. In this case, however, a relationship break may not have anything to do with your partner. You may need to decide whether you want a long term commitment, a marriage, or children, true, but you might also need time to decide whether you want to go to school, change your career, get a new job, and so on.
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6. Figuring out Your Priorities
Couples sometimes have different priorities. That doesn't have to be a breaking point, but the two of you may want to take time to discover what your most important priorities are. If you don't have the same ones and can't compromise, it is better to know sooner rather than later.
7. Making Sure It's Love
If you're not sure you're really in love with your partner, then a relationship break can be hugely beneficial. As they say, absence makes the heart grow fonder. If your heart does grow fonder, you'll know your feelings are true. If not … well, like I said, it's better to know this sooner rather than later.
8. Learning More about Yourself
While you might reconnect with yourself during your break, you'll also learn about what you like, what you don't like and what you need in a relationship. This is a great chance for you to come back to your relationship with a fresh set of eyes and ears.
9. Realizing You Miss Your Partner
When you've been in a relationship for a while, you can just get comfortable. Comfort isn't bad in a relationship, but do you really think that you'll miss your partner during the break? Are you happy the break is happening? These are questions you'll have to ask yourself!
10. A Break Isn't Breaking up
One of the biggest misconceptions that people have when it comes to taking a break in their relationship is that their relationship is over. That isn't true at all! A break doesn't mean you are breaking up, remember that!
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Taking a breather from your partner allows both of you to reflect on your individual desires and issues outside the relationship's influence. During this pause, understanding and personal growth can occur, potentially leading to a stronger bond if you reunite. It's a period for contemplation, not conclusion, where the space created can foster independence and a new appreciation for each other. Always communicate openly about the parameters of the break to maintain clarity and respect throughout this transformative time.
11. Time to Think
If you and your partner have been fighting a lot, you might need time to think. Sometimes it feels like breaking up is the only solution, but this is a great way to take the time you need without losing your partner for good.
12. Rekindle the Spark
Sometimes a break might be just what you need to get the spark back. Because of everything previously mentioned in this post, it's not surprising that the spark may have disappeared. Taking a break could let you know how much you want to be with your partner and when you get back together you'll feel like new again. On the other hand, you could try to start to date your partner again which can also rekindle the spark.
13. More Time with Your Friends and Family
Relationships can be time consuming and you can sometimes lose touch with the people that were once closest to you. A break might be a great time to reconnect with these people and see that you miss them. If you decide to get back into the relationship, you'll hopefully remember that these people are the ones who will always be there and you won't let them get lost in the shuffle again.
14. Help Figure Things out
Unfortunately, you may have been thinking of breaking up with your partner. If that's true, a break might help you figure out what you should do about that. The sad truth is that in the end, you may feel that it's better for you to end the relationship. On the other hand, you may realize that it's the last thing you want.
15. Breaks Can Help the Understanding
Finally, a break can bring an entirely new sense of understanding between you and your partner. You'll come back from your break feeling completely refreshed and who knows, maybe you will love each other a little more!
As mentioned, just because you take a relationship break doesn't mean your relationship is over. You and your partner can become even stronger than before. Generally a break isn't about a lack of love – unless, as mentioned, you're having doubts. Even still, a break can show you just what you're missing. If it does lead to a breakup, however, then it's often better to end things sooner, and more amicably. Have you ever had a relationship break? Let us know what happened and what you discovered!
This article was written in collaboration with editor Lydia Sheehan.
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RobbieTv: Break=i dont want to be with you but when i feel like coming back to you i will on my own terms= BULLSHIT foh
samantha: Well I didn't mean to send that yet...accidentally pressed enter. My boyfriend and I have been together 9 months..we moved very quickly..we live together...he is not the affectionate type of guy and I love affection and crave it. Each month we get into a fight about affection...he never wants to kiss me hold my hand unless I make the move and even then he turns me doq. Yes i have tried talking to him about this...but nothing has changed..we have decided to take a break..but idk what to do in a break? I seriously don't want to be without him...but i don't want to fully lose him because i know we need this. Do you have any advice for me?down..
Anonymous: sounds to me like something has happened in the past and your clearly not over it.If this is the case, to forgive is possible but to forget is impossible, sounds to me like a break away by yourself is exactly what you need.... go find yourself, do some deep soul searching : )
Rachel: I am 22yrs old, married with 2 kids and also raising his son from his past. So basically I have 3 children. I'm an army spouse and living in Germany currently. my relationship with my husband has been a huge roller coaster the last 4yrs. We have time apart because of military, but it seems sometimes that I want more time apart, but I don't know if it's for the right reasons all the time. We've tried counseling, I've tried one on one conversations with him. I've written him notes about how I'm feeling about things just to try and get through to him. My efforts are effective up to a point but then it's as if he forgets or stops trying to help make such changes in our life... to mend old wounds that has been pushed aside... I realize that's just something a man does sometimes, to bottle up emotions especially in the past, but I don't feel like I have closer or any kind of justification for the actions. On the inside I feel like I'm just hanging on in hope that things will push forward in a better direction because it seems as though our stand still is right on the line. I want a break from all of this, take a trip back to the states and leave the children with him for awhile before he leaves on deployment. It seems like a good idea but I am fearful of how he can handle all 3 kids alone for a long period of time without me there. My husband is 35 by the way... huge age gap... grew up in different moral setting houses, different in race, different taste in music, style... any advice from anyone willing to listen and give it would be great.
Jasmine: My bf wanted a clean break...but I insisted on a 1 month break instead. We've been together for 7 months. I felt like his work is clouding his decisions. Will it be ok?
monica: I honestly don't know what to do
McNinaD: Me and my internet boyfriend are curretnly in a break couse of lack of attenion he gave me. juat saying, playing fucken videogames while you SKYPE is so damn rude and stupid. and then bringing it on the next level and be on a teamspeak with other friends -_- i was mad and sad, so i took a break to think about some stuff and focus more on other things then someone who aventually doesnt care. just showing him how it is when you get ignored. (this wasnt the first time he did that and i didnt said something long enough)
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