Sometimes, we want partnerships and romances to work out so much that we tend to overlook and ignore red flags that are trying to tell us the complete opposite of what we are hoping. They say that love is blind, and that definitely seems to be the case when people can’t see the state of their crumbling relationship right in front of them. You might be ignoring it on purpose, or you might genuinely not know what the signs are pointing towards. Either way, it’s bad. Here are ten honest signs that you are not happy in your relationship.
1. Looking Elsewhere
You haven’t acted on it yet, but you are constantly looking at other people and considering what they would be like as partners. This straying is not just human curiosity; it is a signal that everything is not well in your current situation.
2. Heart Sinks
Your heart sinks when you phone goes off and you see that it is a text or call from your partner. You would rather be contacted by family and friends, which is a bad sign that you don’t want to spend time on communication in the relationship.
3. Low Sex Drive
You don’t have that much sex anymore, and when you do, it is always your partner who initiates it. You don’t make the move to do it anymore because you simply just don’t feel that chemistry and attraction.
4. Free Time
Whenever you have a free day or a free couple of hours, your partner is never the first person that you call to try to arrange something. You would rather spend quality time with your besties than with them.
5. Acting out
You find yourself acting out in strange ways that aren’t really authentic to your character, and this could be because you are subconsciously looking for ways to be put dents in the relationship.
6. Bad Chat
You feel like you don’t have much to talk about with him anymore, to the point where your time spent together feels awkward, strained, and forced. Things don’t flow naturally and easily anymore.
7. No ‘We’
You never say we or us when talking to your friends and family anymore. Happy couples sort of become this conjoined thing that is always referred to in the dual role, but you still prefer to talk only about yourself and leave him out of it.
8. No Quality Time
You are constantly coming up with excuses not to have to spend quality time with him anymore. You make yourself busy with other things just to avoid an evening on the couch.
9. Thinking about Exes
You find yourself thinking about your past and some of your more preferred exes, which is never a good sign when you have a partner right there in front of you.
10. Read PMs
Every chance you get, you take his phone and go through his messages and social media. This shows a real lack of trust and lack of respect that can never really be fixed from this point.