Indecisiveness is a common trait among many people but there are a lot of ways to deal with it so it won’t affect your happiness. People who are indecisive are not weak or helpless as many might consider, they just don’t believe enough in their own authority. The reasons for indecisiveness are born out of self-doubt. When it comes to couples, one of the most common arguments caused by indecisiveness is where they are deciding to eat. Here are a few helpful tips on how to deal with an indecisive partner that you should consider:
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1. Put Your Foot down
If you are out with your significant other and you see that they can’t decide on their own where will you go for lunch or what movie are going to watch, then just put your foot down, show what assertiveness is and help them make that decision. If they allow you to do so, you can even decide yourself where you will eat or what movie you will watch.
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Sometimes, a little decisiveness is just the nudge your partner needs to snap out of their indecision. It’s not about taking control, but rather offering a firm yet gentle push towards an enjoyable experience for both. Remember, it's not about being dominant but providing a supportive pillar. After the decision is made, ensure to check in with them to feel their comfort with the choice—this reinforces that their opinion still matters, and you're there to balance each other out in making life's myriad of small decisions.
2. Plan B, C, D and so Forth
If your partner can’t decide on a certain thing, then give them as many viable options as possible. Be ready to help them and assure them that you will be there by there side no matter what they choose you should do.
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Offering multiple alternatives shows that you truly understand the breadth of the situation and have thought through various outcomes. It also helps to soften the pressure that an indecisive partner may feel, allowing them to see that there isn't just one critical path. As they weigh their options, be patient and actively listen to their thoughts and concerns. This not only provides emotional support but also aids them in problem-solving by talking things out. Remember, the goal is to make them feel empowered to make a decision, not overwhelmed by the choices.
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3. Have Patience
Dealing with an indecisive partner can require a lot of patience on your behalf. If you are usually not a very patient person, then train yourself and learn how you can develop this skill.
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Remember that your partner's indecision is not a reflection of their feelings towards you. Often, it's rooted in their personal anxieties or a desire to make the perfect choice. By showing empathy and giving them the space they need, you allow them to work through their thought process without added pressure. It's also important to communicate calmly and clearly, stating your needs and setting gentle deadlines when decisions must be made, creating a supportive environment for decisiveness to bloom.
4. Be There for Your Significant Other
Being an indecisive person is not that easy. It can cause a lot of stress and fatigue and in the log term, it can really affect your well-being. Help your significant other to improve their self-esteem and be there for them. Have patience and help them realize that they can learn how to be more firm if they just practice and if they put a little effort into it.
5. Be a Little Selfish
Being indecisive can have a lot of disadvantages sometimes. If your partner has a hard time deciding on things, like what movie they want to see or what do they want to eat, be patient. Don’t force your decision on them; yet, you could try to suggest them a few solutions to their problems.
6. You Must Surrender All Control
Your job is to guide your partner not to enforce your decision on them. Sometimes you just need to take a step back and let your significant other deal with his indecisiveness. He will manage to find the best solution if you have enough patience and if you show them that you trust their judgement.
7. Help Them Understand Why This is Necessary
If your partner’s indecisiveness is bothering you, then help them understand why this is a problem and how it is affecting you or your relationship. Show them how beneficial will be for both of you if they manage to solve this problem and how your relationship will grow stronger and healthier.
If you want to help your significant other deal with their indecisiveness, have patience, work on it together and be there by their side. Do you know any other helpful tips on how to deal with an indecisive partner? Please share your thoughts with us in the comments section!
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Wendy: Corina, where you been? I love your articles!! This one in particular 👏
Gaby_: Perfect article for me right now. Thanks!
Nicky: Wow really awesome. I can relate to this so much with my twin sister and this has really helped me to understand better. Thank you so much. I'm now going to look up more things on indecisiveness
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