Old fashioned romantic gestures aren't completely dead, but they sure are hard to find.
We’ve come a long way baby. Women have the best status in relationships than ever before. We are strong and confident and the sexual revolution gave us greater freedoms than our poor downtrodden, suppressed ancestors. However, this narrowing of the gap has also lead to us losing some of the traditional factors of relationships - the romance, the chivalry – the things our grandmothers might have referred to as courtship. I think there are old fashioned romantic gestures that modern girls miss and these are some of them.
These days we have to settle for text messages and Tinder, but way back when, if a guy or girl wanted to share their true feelings, then they would get their best stationery out and pour all of their love in a sweet letter. A tender, poetic letter is so much better than an abbreviated text message filled with cheeky emojis - there is no romance in a cartoon eggplant! Take it back to old fashioned romantic gestures and send a love letter. It feels great to give and receive!
Nowadays most dates tend to take place at a restaurant, and we seem to have forgotten the simple pleasure that cooking a meal at home from scratch can bring. Sure, it’s one thing to treat your partner and splash some cash at the local steakhouse, but it shows another level of commitment and romance if you prepare a delicious meal with your own hands. Low lighting, music, candles, great food, you get the picture!
I cannot tell you how many dates are ruined by cell phones and other devices these days. As soon as there is a lull in conversation, people are straight on their phones checking social media to pass the time. Take it back to the olden days by both agreeing to not use technology for an entire date or day. You will find that your personal connection gets so much stronger when you block the rest of the world out and ignore intrusive technology.
Let’s be real, we’re glad that some of the more chauvinistic elements of chivalry are gone, but that doesn’t mean that we don’t want to be treated like a princess from time to time! Old school gestures like holding the door open, pulling a chair back, kissing a hand and walking arm in arm are all lovely things, and they should be introduced back into modern dating in a big way!
It’s all too easy nowadays to pick up any kind of gift you want at the nearest store. Of course, receiving any kind of present from a loved one is something that you should be thankful for, but there is something extra cute and special about handmade gifts. Even if its just a mixtape or mix CD like in the 80s and 90s, it’s still something that shows time and effort.
Nobody goes out to a dance anymore! Most clubs play music that you generally just shake and gyrate to, but it can not be underestimated how great doing a proper couples dance with your partner can feel. There is a reason why so many people love Dancing With The Stars!
What happened to the good old days when if a guy had fallen for a girl, he’d run straight to his room and start penning a love song? They’re not always great. In fact, most of the time they are pretty terrible, but who doesn’t want to be able to say that once upon a time they were the inspiration for a romantic ballad!? And if your partner is not musical, there could always be a poem recital as an alternative.
Why does it have to be Valentine’s Day or your birthday for you to receive flowers. Did you receive a corsage from your prom date? We love flowers and even just a small bunch grabbed from the corner store will make us smile and be happy. When was the last time your partner gave you flowers?
Its sad but true that a lot of dating connections these days tend to go too fast and burn out too quickly. In order to prolong your romance, something that absolutely must be upheld is respect. Respect for love, respect for one another, and respect for the rules that you have both laid down.
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