Falling in love is a serious business, so serious in fact that you should try to think of it as the most important business transaction of your life! Nobody here wants to make a faulty purchase or put their trust in a cowboy salesman looking for their affection, so to speak, so it’s important that you do your homework before putting pen to paper and signing away your love! Here are three probing and important questions to ask before you sell your heart to someone!
1. What is Your Vision for Your Life?
The bottom line is that fact that if your life vision does not match up with his, then you are never going to make a long lasting life partnership. It always helps to know that you are both on the same page in terms of future goals before you fully give your heart to somebody. Doing it the other way around is a sure fire way to ensure heartbreak and disappointment when you get further down the road and reach a crossroads.
2. If Anything Were Possible, What Would You Choose to do with Your Life?
For lots of people, ambition and intention is a really important characteristic. If you ask this question and they give a really superficial or underwhelming answer, one that doesn’t match up with your own in the same situation, then it should leave you wondering whether he really is the person that you are hoping he is. There is a big difference between someone who would love to travel the world or set up an amazing charity, and someone who would buy every expensive car they could and party their life away. It just depends what your own feelings on the situation are too.
3. What do You Want from Dating?
This is essential to ask right off the bat. If you are looking for a relationship and they are looking for a temporary hook up, then you really should be wasting your time. Don’t fall into the trap of thinking that you can change a person on something as fundamental of their attitude towards romance. You deserve someone who is on the same wavelength as you, not someone who you are constantly fighting with to try and see things your way.